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Edited on Tue Mar-15-11 08:34 PM by steve2470
Hi all,
Here is the issue: My 15 year old son has a 15 year old girlfriend. His mother and I are divorced, but live 7 miles apart. His mother lives about 9 miles from his girlfriend, and I live only about 2 miles away from his GF, by bicycle it's a 20 minute ride or so for my son.
His mother is ok with him seeing his GF if he meets the usual minimal criteria of good behavior and decent grades. I'm the same way. However, seeing his GF while with his mother is more difficult due to him living with his mother during the "school week" and being with me Friday night to Sunday night. He could see her during the week (theoretically) but he cannot ride his bike to see her and she cannot ride her bike to see him. Therefore, he has to beg a ride from his mother, who usually will say "no" (his input, not my opinion).
She's a nice girl and is a good influence on my son. I have no issues with her.
Once every two months (on average), he and I attend a social function at her house, so that option is covered.
I like my "alone time" with my son, for obvious reasons. However, I'm not so authoritarian/mean or naive to think I can cut off or "overly restrict" his time with her.
For their age and our family situation, what seems to be a decent resolution of this ? I try to allow him to see her but at times it feels like I'm being asked for too much time. Thanks for your time.
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