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Edited on Mon Sep-13-10 07:24 PM by MrsBrady
from what I understand back pain can be freaking painful.
Although a different story altogether, my friend's husband had a back injury 3 years into their marriage. Now, 11 years after their marriage...he's a complete nut job. Which is really sad, because he was a nice guy. There's another long story here, but between too many pain meds, the back pain itself, two botched back operations, and hating not being able to care for his family...he's not the man he used to be. She had to leave as he had finally progressed to becoming violent...as he had begun to push her around which he NEVER did up until the last few months. He thinks he's fine, except for the pain. But he is out of his mind. She didn't want to leave him as she knows he's sick, but she also knew she couldn't allow herself to be abused. It's a very sad situation. When we were packing her up to leave him, she couldn't find her hand gun. We thought he had taken it. We were actually about to make her leave with us (because he had just left and we couldn't find the gun) when he showed back up. Very scary. My husband actually had to tackle him while we called the police. He was running out to his car threatening to kill himself because she was moving out. Luckily we found the gun after the police arrived. But he did have it hidden in a very creepy accessible way. He must be really in so much pain. I was unaware of what a serious injury could do to a person.
My point is is that your friend might be having some bad med reaction or may have become addicted to her pain meds if she has any...or the pain is getting to her....and also just the sheer BS that people have to put up with in "the land of the free" with this kind of problem....it all could be getting to her.
I'm so sorry about your friend. I hope things work out. Tell your wife not to be too hard on herself. It's hard not to take things personally when people are sick and do or say things they might not otherwise.
Blessings to you.
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