Update on my encounter with my first real love...

[donotpassgo]

First of all thanks to those who pitched in their advice. Things were totally awkward, and then a bit more comfortable, and went to shit.

I asked her to go out with me before she left so we could talk. She shot me down, she had plans, and because SHE had nothing to talk about. Driving her home, I layed it all on the line and got ice. I realized she hasn't changed a bit and feel sorry for the guy she is with now, and all the guys she'll be with in the future.

Anyway, I feel exhausted, numb, an a bit relieved. I know I'm not giving up on gold here (although she's as beautiful, if not more so, thank I remember) and that wasting my energy hurting over her is casting pearls before swine.

Anyway, thanks. The DU friggin rocks. And...

Go Dean!

[Fovea]

1. Dodging the bullet.

Glad to hear you got it straightend out in your head.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

2. Glad you could use it as an opportunity to get complete

with the fantasy of how things "could have been." IT gives you the space to move on (not that you were being unrealistic but we all get into that trap now and then. YOu sound like a nice enough person. Good luck.

[Name removed]

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[nothingshocksmeanymore]

4. I'm still not getting it

what specifically smells about her?

[donotpassgo]

5. she can be gassy, and she's not shy about it...

also she picked up smoking again. I find it sexy in some girls, but it doesn't suit her.

[zizzer]

6. all of the poo

that got flung on her.

Didn't you read the other thread?

Zizzer

[donotpassgo]

7. yes...and the poo

:hurts: take that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[THUNDER HANDS]

8. it's just a joke

deleted for some unknown reason.

I guess the smell police have arrived.

:evilgrin:

[donotpassgo]

9. I didn't take any offense to the deleted message.

n/t

[SoCalDem]

11. damn.. I miss all the deleted messages..

:(..

and as you get older, you will find that you really can't go back..:(

People and relationships are always better in the hindsight.. IF the split was the other person's idea.. and lives go on in the absence.. She's a different person now than when you knew her..

You both filled a need when you were together, but once it's over...it's over..

Wondering how you could recreate it or "fix" it, will make you craaaaazy..

Like our repube friends always say...it's time to move on..:)

[donotpassgo]

12. I didn't want to fix it...

I just wanted to come out of this encounter feeling at peace. I wanted to know that I meant something to her because I know she meant something to me. She hated LA and she's blocked it out, but she kinda blocked me out in the process.

Her callousness, made me truly understand how over it was, but I won't stop caring for her like she may have done with me. Before all this, we were great friends. She is too young, and too small to get that you need as many people on your side as possible; even if you don't need or want them at the time.

I don't hurt like I did, but how I'm feeling is no picnic. I'm not at peace, but I am no longer struggling.

[Aristus]

10. I hope it's behind you for good now, donotpassgo.

I'm glad you're relieved. Hang in there. *chuck on the shoulder*

[GOPisEvil]

13. At least you know and have closure...

...not knowing is the worst!

[DemOverseas]

14. So

what did you learn from this experience?

[donotpassgo]

15. I've learned...

I am capable of love, and hurt.

...to love while you can because it may be gone tomorrow.

...to guard myself, but also keep the door open.

...I miss having A LOT of sex :evilgrin:

[catpower2000]

16. I'm sorry to be right...

I'm sorry you're hurting, but it's good that it's behind you now. And remember, in the future, if someone loves you, you KNOW IT. You don't have to question it, because they'll show you. Here's hoping you find someone to love. :)

Cat

[donotpassgo]

17. thanks...

I knew it at the time...She's just wasn't the one.

[TEXASYANKEE]

18. I hate it when people can't be honest.

It's like they think it's easier on everyone if they just freeze you out instead of telling you the cold hard honest truth. I've had several guys break up with me without saying "I want to break up with you." They just quit calling or they become really distant. It sucks. And it sounds like this is what she did to you. How much easier it would have been (at least for you) if she had come right out and been honest with you.

Well, as others have said, you're better off without her negative vibes in your life. You learned a hard but valuable lesson and hopefully something much better will come along for you real soon.

[donotpassgo]

19. I'm feeling better...

I've actually learned some valuable things and she's missed out on me.


:puke:
just a little soul purging

[Exultant Democracy]

20. OK ok ok ok, now is it time for Booze?

Make sure to eat something after all that purging. It's not good to drink on an empty soul :evilgrin:

I don't even know what that means.

[donotpassgo]

21. After work...

I'll toast one to the DU.
:toast: