What surprising traits do you find attractive?

[pagerbear]

Yesterday my church choir sang with another church choir and I was so turned on by the musicianship and rehearsal technique of the other conductor! Thinking back on it, I can remember having that feeling about other conductors I've sung with. Conversely (or would that be inversely?), other conductors whom I've found physically attractive have totally turned me off by being idiots in rehearsal. You learn a lot about a man by how he runs a rehearsal. (BTW, I don't wish to imply anything about the conductor of my own choir by this.)

In a similar vein, I was reading through an article a man I used to date wrote, and just reading his very intelligent words made me think oh so fondly of him again. All those big words--maybe it is about size!

What does this all mean?!

[eyesroll]

1. I like big words, too

I'm a nerd fan. My mom once commented: "You can tell just by looking -- your sister would never date someone who wasn't fun; your cousin would never date someone who wasn't rich; you'd never date someone who's not smart."

She's pretty well right. (Well, I'm married -- she's hypothetically right, anyway.)

I've also never dated anyone (that I can remember, anyway) who didn't wear glasses.

[tigereye]

3. smart wise guys

who like to question authority.

[Nikia]

9. Yes, I like that too

My husband and all the other guys that I have been most attracted to after the age of 16 have been highly intelligent and "different" from the status quo, thinking for themselves.

[sangh0]

15. In that case

who made you the expert on wise guys?

[Droopy]

2. It sounds like you are turned on by intelligence

I see nothing wrong with that. I wish more people were that way.

An English professor that I had for class last quarter was what I consider to be exceptionally talented at her job. I would go into her class feeling tired and come out of it feeling energized. She really made the class fun with her wit and intelligence. She really turned me on.

[pagerbear]

4. Oh, I see nothing wrong with it either.

Just an observation. Something about myself I'd temporarily forgotten, although I always say someone has to be smart and funny for me to want him.

[VOX]

5. Scars. Seriously. If a woman has a small scar on her chin, or hand...

My interest is sparked.

I tend to interpret the scar as a kind of wisdom gained through experience -- it could have been from a childhood fall, or a close-call teenage accident, etc., but the wound probably involved some pain and medical attention. There's a story to that scar, and I am intrigued.

Well, I see I'm way overdue for another hour on the analyst's couch!
:crazy:

[m-jean03]

11. I always show my scars off to guys --

I always thought of it as a tomboy thing!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

24. how about tummy?

i have a 4 inch scar on my tummy (they messed up my appendicitis operation) :P

[U of M Dem 07]

6. Baseball hats

I cannot help but check out a guy who is wearing a baseball hat, and I have no idea why. It's weird.

[Whitacre D_WI]

7. A nice rack.

I like women who play pool.

[tigereye]

13. good save

[Bill of Rights]

8. I have a friend

who always falls in "love" with her choir conductors...if they are male. She loves it when they encourage her to sing and notice her.

[m-jean03]

10. Men who look like John Malkovich

Big lips, elf ears, eyes that are a little too close together.

Also -- a propensity for belting out impromptu showtunes.

[Cuban_Liberal]

34. I know John, and if you like borderline certifiably-insane guys...

...he would be a real catch! :P

[m-jean03]

40. Well, Malkovich himself may not be my type

But I have had great luck with men who possess his features. They always seem to be accompanied by a wonderful sensitivity and quirkiness.

How do you know him, BTW?

[redqueen]

12. Smarts, Baldness, Hands, Forthrightness

I have no idea what it means, but I know just what you're talking about. Smart men turn me on immensely. That kind of makes sense, though, right? The weird thing is baldness. For some reason I notice them more often and find that I'm attracted to balding or bald men. I just don't get it.

And hands... the way men use/move their hands. Or if they're up-front. I really like that as well. Never could get along with the wishy-washy type. But a guy who stands up and says what he thinks I warm up to pretty quickly.

Neat thread. :)

[neverborn]

14. Hrm...

On a physical note: freckles, fair skin... *growls*

On a mental note: intelligent, thoughtful, open-minded -- not unduly pressured by society

[sangh0]

16. Freckles

make me want to play connect-the-dots

[LastKnight]

17. many things... like ive always liked a bit of geek in girls...

...maybe due to the intellegence factor, if i cant have an intellegent conversation with somone, i have nothing to say to that person period, also the whole 'good girl' thing is kinda appealing to me too for some reason. that and i dont like people that are too perfect, anything perfect is lying, i need at LEAST a small flaw to know im looking at a real person.

-LK

[asthmaticeog]

39. I'm with you there.

Show me a lady who looks like a stereotypical librarian (a little on the mousy side, glasses of course, yadda yadda), see Asthmaticeog's neck crane.

Bird-doggin' nerdy chicks - ain't nothin' finer!

[DEM FAN]

18. I Love Women Who Wear Finger Nail Polish. Looks So Damn Sexy.

:-)

[Mrs. Venation]

19. Intelligence Turns Me On

followed by an irreverent sense of humor, and a love of music. I wouldn't want to be with someone who couldn't carry on an intelligent conversation, or who couldn't write coherently.

With Bertha, I found perfection!

[dolo amber]

20. I have a thing for guys

with a lazy eye...:shrug:

[redqueen]

21. Only a lazy eye? Not a glass one?

Thinking of Men at Work now. Thanks! :)

[dolo amber]

28. More like

this:



;)

[redqueen]

29. Oh I see

Thanks. :)

His voice is *so* beautiful.

[Whitacre D_WI]

32. Dude, that's just sick.

He's a creep.

[dolo amber]

33. Yeah well...

You're a weirdo. :P

[Whitacre D_WI]

37. What the hell am I doing here?

[shanti]

22. dreadlocks

i find them highly attractive.

[put out]

23. Smart guys with a self-deprecating sense of humor.

Oh, and also, an overbite. Close second, a gap between the two front teeth.

I'm a weirdo, yep.

[sangh0]

25. Mom?

Is that you?

:-)

[put out]

30. You had better not be posting on this site, young man!

Stay on your own sites and go kill some aliens, or something. Sheesh, can't a woman get any peace?

What do you want for dinner, by the way?;)

[everythingsxen]

26. Spookiness

It really turns me on. :D

[geniph]

27. Bisexuality and muscular forearms

(I realize that's an odd juxtaposition, so sue me). I tend to be attracted only to men with somewhat flexible sexuality and strong wrists. Not necessarily for the same reasons.

[beauregardez]

31. beats me, but i like

women with big feet .. i guess they always seem so grounded

[theoceansnerves]

35. glasses on girls =

hot

[TSIAS]

43. I thought I was the only one

:)

[Donkeyboy75]

45. Make it 3

I LOVE when my wife dons her glasses.

Also, Tina Fey, Jennifer Garner w/glasses, basically any women with glasses. I guess it makes them look studious and intelligent. If a woman opens her mouth and repeatedly says something stupid, then bye-bye attraction.

[Dookus]

36. bowleggedness...

add in some denim jeans and I'm his.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

38. Lots of choir directors in my past

I've had crushes on three of them--so far. :evilgrin:

[amazona]

41. anorexia but it's clearly an unhealthy interest NT

.

[ScreamingMeemie]

42. A man doing anything with his hands...working on a car, cutting

up vegetables ...you name it, I like it. ;)

[SarahB]

44. I like men that are more introverted

I prefer very smart people who are friendly and comfortable one on one, but please, the loudmouth with the lampshade on his head is not my type. I'm not shy really, and I have no problem talking to people and have even been on stage at certain times in my life without problem, but I'm much more of an introvert myself and don't like to be put on the spot or embarrassed by someone.