Mother, hit by red light runner, in ICU on life support...

[David__77]

Not trying to be a downer, but... A week ago, my mother was hit by a man who ran a red light, plowing right into the driver side of her car, causing a large number of fractures, as well as a collapsed lung. She's undergone a few surgeries since, has hip surgery tomorrow, and has been intubated since the accident. The prognosis is unclear.

She is medically indigent, and due to her asthma, has been on SSI for several years - she relies on Medicare and Medicaid. She has absolutely no assets and few job skills after the long misfortune of being a housewife to the wrong husband, who, himself warped by Vietnam and the ensuing post-traumatic stress disorder, was cruelly abusive to her.

The only thing that I'm "glad" about (relatively speaking, of course), is that the driver seems to be well-insured and seems to be wealthy based on what I can find out. And he better be, because her medical expenses will easily break the six-figure mark, if they haven't already. She will require intensive nursing care and all sorts of therapy that no $30,000 injury car insurance policy will begin to cover.

This is obviously 99% personal in nature, and yet it's 1% social too, because it brings into focus how precarious the existence of so many people is... It's exactly this kind of shit that got my into politics in the first place back in elementary school. Life can be fucked up, but it doesn't have to be... that's all...

[grasswire]

1. looks like there will be a lawyer in your mother's future

Was the driver drinking?

My best wishes to you and to your mother. There should be many social services available to her. Take advantage of everything!

[David__77]

3. He was sober.

The police report says he got distracted... Her little hatchback was no match for his huge 4-door truck... Thank you.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear David__77...

My best vibes to your mom...

I hope she recovers completely.

It's really a dreadful situation. You both are in my thoughts...

:hug:

[Blue Diadem]

4. OMG David, I hope and pray for your Mom's full recovery.

I hope there's a way the idiot that hit her can be made to pay for everything as well as all her pain/suffering.

[Tikki]

5. Hope your mother will have all the support she needs...

You are there for her...that means a lot.



Tikki

[emilyg]

6. My best for your Mom and you.

[snailly]

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[crim son]

8. David, I think if there was ever license to be a downer,

your mother's situation is it. And this is the Lounge so it's good to be personal.

I'm very sorry about your mom and wish her a speedy recovery. It sounds like she has been through a lot and you might be surprised by how much strength she has available to deal with her injuries. Speaking as a mother, your concern and support will mean a great deal. My heart goes out to you both.

Do post here when you need to vent. I did it during my separation and divorce and DUers were almost uniformly helpful and supportive. Sending prayers, good vibes and supportive thoughts to you and your mom.

[Suich]

9. I'm so sorry, David__77.

I'll keep you and your Mom in my thoughts and prayers.

:hug:

[JohnnyLib2]

10. Hoping for the best ......

[kimi]

11. Ah, best wishes to your mom and you

Vibes from the Lounge mean a lot. And yes, life can be f&*ked up, but you're absolutely right, it doesn't have to be. Hospitals have many social service outlets, if your mom can take advantage of those, due to her unique social situation, I hope that she can. She has a huge advantage in that she has YOU. You sound like a very caring and careful person.

Best wishes, and take care. Let us know what happens. Hugs.

[tango-tee]

12. My best wishes go out to your Mom,

and to you, too, of course.

[av8rdave]

13. Best thoughts and vibes sent for both of you

Hopefully she will enjoy a full recovery!

[xchrom]

14. very difficult and very sorry this happened to your family. nt

[ThomasQED]

15. Very sorry.

This is similar to something that happened in our family (though that case was not as serious). Sending my best wishes for a full recovery.

[Crystal Clarity]

16. I'm so sorry .

Sounds like your mother has had a very difficult life and now this... Best wishes and good vibes in hopes of a speedy recovery for your mother. So sorry David :hug:

[Haole Girl]

17. Sending get well wishes for your mom

and hugs to both of you. :hug: :grouphug:

[lunatica]

18. I hope she has a full recovery

Things can happen in an instant and your world gets a major shake-up because of it. I hope the best for you and your mother.

[LanternWaste]

19. Best wishes your mother makes a full recovery. :)

On edit: not the time or place for my soap box.

Best wishes your mother makes a full recovery. :)

[applegrove]

20. vibes to your mother. I hope it all works out.

[mikeSchmuckabee]

21. Wow man, sorry. Good luck to her.

Life is a dangerous business.