My Husband Russ

[bridgit]

This is going to be a short and sweet post as I am going to be checking in off and on for the next week or so. I had to take my husband to the ER last night. The wonders of modern medicine. Strange days indeed! He is in emergency surgery right now and I need all the prayers and positive energy you guys can convey. Please pray for him. I am waiting for word now and believe me after a day and a half in the hospital, there is nothing worse than waiting and waiting.

[Ptah]

1. {{{hug}}}

[bigwillq]

2. Sending out my best vibes.

Hope everything is ok. :hug:

[supernova]

3. You're both in my thoughts

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. My dear bridgit...

Major, major vibes to your husband, sweetie...

I hope he will emerge from this trauma whole and well...

And hugs for you! Waiting is so hard...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[graywarrior]

5. Of course, Bridgit

Here is hoping everything turns out well for him,

:hug:

[foxfeet]

6. Good vibes en route to you both!

I wish him the best outcome and speedy, complete and comfortable healing. I wish you strength, peace and comfort.

[Demoiselle]

7. Prayers, best wishes, all great vibes I can muster, bridgit..

[LeftyFingerPop]

8. You got it, bridgit

My best wishes to both of you :hug:

[havocmom]

9. Big bundles of cosmic good vibes heading your way

Strength to you, healing energy to him.

[tigereye]

10. wish you both well with hopes and prayers

:hug:

[Dystopian]

11. You are both in my thoughts ...

The waiting is difficult...my heart goes out to you.
Saying a prayer...
I hope all turns out well...


peace~

[bridgit]

12. Thank you all

He survived surgery. Why are doctors always surprised when patients make it. He is still critical and they are not sure if he is going to make it or not. Being over at DU is helping to divert my mind from this a little. I am glad for all the DU's friends out there. Sending your healing energy and prayers as he is not of the woods yet and the doctor might keep him at the hospital for a week. I feel that I have been a major downer about this but I need all the support I can get at this time.

[S n o w b a l l]

14. Oh, dear...

bridgit..I'm praying for you and your husband. I don't really know what to say...there are just no words to express it adequately. I'm wishing the best for you.

:hug:

[auntAgonist]

16. good vibes and best wishes for your husband and you.

I don't think you're being a 'downer' ...

:hug:

take care of you so you can take care of him.


aA
kesha

[RFKHumphreyObama]

18. My thoughts, prayers, best wishes and positive vibes, healing energies and whatever else

good I can extend to your husband, you and your family:hug: :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. My dear bridgit...

I hold you both in my thoughts...

You have not been a downer at all! He is the love of your life, and where you are is scary and horrible.

We are here for you...

Please take care of yourself ...

:hug:

[BlancheSplanchnik]

28. Vibes coming shortly

Going to go chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo right now.

3 pm EST


you're not being a downer!

[Gormy Cuss]

29. My thoughts will be with you and your husband.

I hope that the healing vibes and prayers help him get better.

[abq e streeter]

13. You and Russ are in my prayers tonight

Just saw your update post just above this, and again, you have my prayers that he'll make it. And my God, it is NOT being a "major downer" to be afraid for the life of the one you love. I'm glad you're reaching out to everyone here. And again, I am praying for him and for you.

[Capn Sunshine]

15. All the vibes I can bestow

coming your way tonight. Stay Strong and be hopeful
:hi:

[Robeson]

17. From one Russell to another, he, and you, are in my thoughts...

...:hug: :grouphug:

[Old Troop]

19. Prayers for both of you

[Wapsie B]

20. Good vibes to you both.

[lunatica]

21. My hopes that all ends well!

[Heidi]

22. Sending a ton of good vibes for Russ and you, bridgit.

:hug: :loveya:

[tango-tee]

24. Many hugs and best of vibes

coming your way from across the Atlantic!

Stay strong, bridgit, and I wish your dear hubby a speedy recovery! :hug:

[SeattleGirl]

25. As many as you need, bridg.

:hug:

[Call Me Wesley]

26. Good vibes for your husband and you.

:hug:

[peekaloo]

27. Good thoughts headed his way.

:hug:

[bridgit]

30. Saturday Update

He had a rough go with surgery yesterday. He is on a ventilator till Monday, then he is back for more surgery to close him up. This is a big event too as he docs do not want anymore massive bleeding.

Thank you all for your support. It is going to be a long weekend till Monday. Keep the prayers and good thoughts coming. We need them right now!

[Missy Vixen]

31. bridgid, all you need

Thinking about Russ, and sending all the best from here.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

32. My dear bridgit...

Hang in there, sweetie...

It sounds truly terrifying, and my thoughts and prayers are with you both. I've got a pretty good image of what he's going through; I used to be a critical care nurse long ago...

Please take care of yourself too!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[abq e streeter]

36. More prayers on the way to both of you.

[bridgit]

37. Sunday Update

Russ is scheduled for surgery tomorrow at the end of the day. Not out of the woods yet but if surgery goes well, he can expect to make a full recovery. He is going to off work for a month and maybe longer. Thank you all for your support. I will post tomorrow after the surgery.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

38. My dear bridgit...

Ah, I was scanning your thread, hoping for an update, for good news...

And here you are! If not entirely great news, at least no worse, and that's important now. I continue to hold you both in my thoughts, and believe me, I am here for you both!

Have him take as much time as he needs for his complete recovery...

Thank you, sweetie, for keeping us updated!

I will watch for your update tomorrow...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[bridgit]

42. Monday Update

Russ went into surgery at 5:18 PM today. We are hoping for the best as they want to be able to close him up and get him off the ventilator the next couple of days so he can start recovering and getting well. He has been in there at least an hour and probably a couple more to go. So more prayers everyone. Thank you all for your support.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

43. You both continue in my thoughts, my dear bridgit...

I know it's tough, sweetie...

May he soon be well!

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

33. Prayers are on their way!

[hippywife]

34. Positive vibes heading your way, bridgit.

I am so sorry that both of you are dealing with something that sounds so awful and so scary.

Sending healing thoughts his way, as well. :hug:

[Minimus]

35. Good thoughts and vibes for your husband.

:hug:

[applegrove]

39. vibes to you and yours.

[driver8]

40. Sending lots of good vibes and hugs your way! n/t

[av8rdave]

41. Best wishes and vibes to you both!

[Dappleganger]

44. Prayers and positive vibes for you.

I truly hope that things turn out well for you both. Just remember that you can't take care of him unless you take care of yourself first.

:hug:

[bridgit]

45. Evening Update

Wanted to send a quick post to everyone. Russ came through the surgery with flying colors. They are hoping to take him off the ventilator tomorrow, Still a long road ahead toward recovery and there are other issues that we need to address, but we are going to take this victory and run with it. Thank you all for your prayers and best wishes,

[CaliforniaPeggy]

46. What great news, my dear bridgit!

Lounge vibes work!

I continue to hold you both in my heart, sweetie...

Safe journey back to health for Russ...

And hugs for you to help you withstand the stress of seeing him so ill.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Drunken Irishman]

47. YAY!

:)

[Dappleganger]

48. Yay!

:bounce:

[Hell Hath No Fury]

49. Fantastic news!

May his recover be swift and full. :hi:

[DoBotherMe]

50. Yay!

Hugs to you and Russ :hug: Dana ; )

[marzipanni]

51. I'm so glad to hear his surgery went well!

I hope Russ feels better and gains strength each day.

[NewJeffCT]

53. Best wishes to him

on his recovery.

[auntAgonist]

55. good news indeed Brigit.

:hug:

Now you get some rest and take care of yourself. Best wishes to both of you.


aA
kesha

[Robeson]

56. Good deal!...

...thanks for the update!

[bridgit]

57. Wednesday Update

Hello all.:-) Russ is breathing on his own and they are hoping to take him completely off the ventilator today but the docs are taking it hour by hour as he did not have just one thing wrong but several. He looks out for me all the time and did not tell anyone how sick he was until we almost lost him. Another 24 hours later we would have lost him. This is going to be a day by day, hour by hour situation. After all this we need to take it slow and easy and not rush anything. Thank you DU'ers for your support. It helps a lot at a time like this.

[Ellipsis]

62. Artists are tenacious.

:hug:


http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_jvBFHkK2ZXc/Sf6K_-jj1oI/AAAAAAAAEdM/tdj6X4c13_c/s400/Ruby+Rhod+-+Fifth+Element.jpg






My best to you.


...

[CaliforniaPeggy]

63. My dear bridgit!

Oh my god, MEN! They think they are invincible!

And I hope he won't do that to you ever again!

I'm so glad he's progressing...

You continue in my thoughts, both of you...

:hug:

[bridgit]

64. Thursday Update

Russ just got off the ventilator yesterday. He is still groggy and his first sentence was that he wanted to go home. Yesterday and today will be the rough days as he is still trying to heal and get off the anesthesia. Thank you fellow DU'ers for all your support.O8)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

65. Oh, Great news!

He'll get there...

Time is the great healer...

:hug:

[Skittles]

52. THINKING GOOD THOUGHTS FOR RUSS AND BRIGIT

YES INDEED :hug:

[crim son]

54. I saw this too late to send vibes but not too late

to be very glad to hear he's doing well after surgery. I will pray for a quick and easy recovery. ((hugs))

[La Lioness Priyanka]

58. best wishes to you and russ

[LisaM]

59. I hope he continues to improve

Hang in there.

[Biker13]

60. Caught this late...

But you will be in my thoughts and prayers!!

I ache for you, I don't know what I would do without Biker13! Hang in there, and check in often, please!

Biker's Old Lady

[kimi]

61. Best wishes to you both

And prayers also. It's tough, I've been there too, and please do take care of yourself during this time. :hug: to you and your family.

[bridgit]

66. Monday

There has been a lot of progress in the last few days He has been out of ICU for a few days and is making great strides. We had a nurse that was a you know what yesterday.The doctor said he is not out of the woods yet but we can see the edge of the woods. He had a very severe ulcer that perforated near his esophagus that almost killed him. He lost 14 liters of blood and that is really bad. Two surgeries but the ulcer is not bleeding anymore and he will be on the road to recovery. Diet changes and no occasional beer or cigarettes. He is starting physical therapy today and they want him walking around and getting stronger. There has been some wonderful doctors and nurses and some not so good. We are so lucky to have amazing friends and family. My two friends work for a theater company in Roseville and everyone donated their vacation time so they could go out and do our stores so we are not out any money and I can be at the hospital with Russ. His daughters and I are going to make a complaint about the nurse he had yesterday. I feel that Russ is fighting so hard to come back, that I have to be his advocate and make sure that things get done in a timely manner. I wonder how many patients do not have anyone on their side and they get lost in the shuffle. Thanks for everything , my DU friends. This is a wild ride for sure and completely unexpected. The only good thing that can come from this is that friends and family have come together closer and stronger than ever. He just had physical therapy and they got him walking around. Thank you all for your prayers and support.:)

[hippywife]

67. What a relief to know

he's on the road to recovery, bridgit! I'm sure this has been an tremendous strain on you, too. How wonderful that you have such a great support system, as well.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

68. My dear bridgit!

I'm so glad to see your update! Incredibly good news! I'm glad he's out of bed and walking. There's nothing better for his strength and his spirits than to do just that...

I'm glad your family and friends were there for you, and that your ties are stronger than ever.

:hug:

[bridgit]

69. Hospital Staff

When I leave this hospital with my husband, I feel that I could right a book. Most of the doctors and nurses are very caring and have a warm and nurturing heart/ Some on the hand... Russ had to have two stomach surgeries in the last thirteen days. This man has been put through the ringer. We have been in ICU for 9 days and in a regular room for the past 5. He had a painful procedure yesterday where they drained the last of the fluid in his abdomen. He has been feeling like crap all day and night. and I have been taking care of him the best I can, Peggy, you can speak best for this, but why on every shift do they ask the same questions? Can he turn on his own, sit up, I guess know his own name? I was trying to control my temper the best I could but he has not been able to sleep much all night. He finally got to sleep for about half an hour and here comes a nurses aide. There was not much to do and I asked if she could please come back in a half hour. She said no that the nurse told her to do this and then she leaves all the lights on when she leaves. He had been doing really well with taking pain meds every twelve hours. But with this procedure he has been really hurting and it makes my heart break inside to see with what he has been through that he has to have more pain. I called the nurse but she has the empathy of a cold fish. I asked her for pain meds for Russ as the nurses assistant woke him up. She did not hand him any water and made me give them to him. She asked about his level of pain. All the other nurses got that we were doing a 1 to 5 scale with a high three meaning that he was really starting to get in pain. I guess Sutter has a 1 through 10 scale. Oops!!! Sorry, I just found out about it just now. She keeps pressing and I finally almost kicked her out. I just get so flushed out and drained, not from taking care of my sweet and noble husband but from the shear lack of empathy of what patients seem to be going through. I am going to make a complaint about another nurse as she said some of the most rank and vile stuff I have ever heard. That his drainage was "gross" and that she didn't know why he was out of ICU as patients like him are to much work, I know another friend who had her and she did the same stuff to him. I gave up trying to sleep as I closed the curtain and I feel that I have to stand guard over him so he can get any sleep. I know this is humiliating to him and she even made him do breathing exercises last night when he was in terrible pain. I just do not get this health care system at all. I know his life was saved twice but I cannot wait to get him the hell out of Dodge and back home with me and his cat, Millie. It must be scary to be in the hospital with no one to support you.

[bridgit]

70. My Husband Russ

We thought he could rally but after ICU he did not get any care at all. He was given Norco which I now found out contains acetaminophen. He had a damaged liver from a car accident he had in the 70's from a blood transfusion and he should not have been given this medication. I kept trying to get care for him and it was either barely tolerable, or not at all. I finally found out that there was a wound care specialist on staff, who new? came in and changed his dressing and set up a new drainage system. He was all shocky and sick and they would not give him any medication. Doctors and physician assistants came in and out and did nothing. We knew time was at a premium but he wanted to come home and be with me and Millie, see his grandkids one last time, and visit his father in LA. Instead, they let him die. When they were stabilizing him so I could say goodbye, in walks the charge nurse from Russ's floor. She did a big song and dance, covering her ass. I kicked her out. Now thanks to the lack of medical care, my husband is gone. Russ wants me to sue for medical malpractice and give the money in trust to his grand kids. I am mind blown that I am in a hospital and my husband dies from lack of care. Wow! I am totally amazed. I am now preparing his cremation.

[PassingFair]

73. Make sure someone is looking after YOU.

I am so sorry. What a shocking diary.

I wish you a moment of peace, it will be hard.

:hug:

[Name removed]

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[abq e streeter]

80. I am at a loss for words---I'm so terribly sorry to read this

Please accept my profound sympathy...and prayers.........abq e streeter

[WCGreen]

81. I am so sorry Bridgit...

Terribly sorry...

[LeftyFingerPop]

82. So so sorry, bridgit

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[S n o w b a l l]

83. omg, bridgit....

I am speechless and shocked and I am so very sorry. I just can't express my sorrow for your loss.

Please pm me if there is ANYTHING I could possibly do for you. I hope you have loved ones around you.

You'll be in my prayers.

:hug:

[auntAgonist]

84. Oh Brigit I am SO very very sorry for your loss and for

the pain and suffering Russ went through. I have no words.

My deepest and most sincere condolences to you and to all who knew and loved Russ.

:hug:

May he now be at peace.

Please look after yourself.

:cry:
kesha

[merh]

85. oh dear bridgit, I am so sorry

I haven't been online most of the week and just now came across your post, it all seemed so promising. Russ fought so hard and you were right by his side. I'm so very sorry.

You and all who love him are in my prayers. May the love cradle you and the laughter help you get through this. May Russ be at peace. :hug:

[orleans]

87. there is nothing sadder than having to say goodbye for now

it sounds like he was really trying and it sounds like you were too. my heart goes out to you--and to him. i'm deeply sorry for everything you both went through, and for all that you'll continue to be going through. take good care. just go slow.

[enigmatic]

90. Bridgit, I'm so sorry

:hug:

[Broken_Hero]

91. I'm very

sorry about your loss, :hug:

[laylah]

92. self-delete. wrong place. nt

[Solly Mack]

93. I'm so sorry! (((bridgit)))

How horrible!

[RFKHumphreyObama]

94. Words can never be adequate at a time like this

All I can offer you is my deepest, sincerest and most deep and heartfelt thoughts, prayers, condolences and sympathies and the same to all of your family. I'm so, so very sorry beyond words

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Bossy Monkey]

95. So very sorry (and mind blown in turn) n/t

[MrScorpio]

97. I am so sorry for your loss

My deepest condolences

:hug:

[BlancheSplanchnik]

98. also shocked to read this. Heartbreaking... I hope you have many friends for support

and people to help support your follow-up, if you decide to do that.

I am hugely angry and terribly sad for you.

[Wapsie B]

99. I am so sorry brigit.

[NewJeffCT]

101. I'm sorry for your loss

You & your family have my deepest sympathy.

[GreenPartyVoter]

102. oh, no!I can't believe this! I am so sorry. *hugs*

[GoCubsGo]

103. I am so sorry.

Dammit. I hope you honor Russ' wishes and sue the pants off the lot of them.

[Arugula Latte]

104. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[tigereye]

109. I am so sorry Bridgit!

:grouphug:

[Kajsa]

111. I am so sorry, Bridgit!

:hug:

This never should have happened!!

:(

[fortyfeetunder]

112. Bridgit - I am sorry to learn of your loss

My sincere condolences.
:hug:

[Ardent15]

123. So sad for your loss...

May Russ be at peace now.

[laundry_queen]

132. I'm so very very sorry. I'm sure you are in shock. This should not happen. :( nt

[Flying Dream Blues]

122. I'm so happy things are going well in his healing process.

Your friends' covering your work for you brought tears of gratitude to my eyes; you all must be really well loved. Good vibes to you, too; I've been on your end of a hospital vigil and I know it's hard to stay sane, rested and to eat anything, much less something good for you, but do try to take care of yourself as well.

Sending my best vibes to you both. Hang in there.
:hug:

[nolabear]

71. Good vibes to you both.

[Name removed]

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[Captain Hilts]

72. You got it - hang tough, Russ! nt

[CaliforniaPeggy]

75. Please read post #70. nt

[WCGreen]

77. I have put my family through this many times....

I know what you are going through and I do know that, if your husband is like me, he is more concerned about you than he is about himself...

[Ptah]

78. .

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=9373121&mesg_id=9387943

[CaliforniaPeggy]

79. Alas...

Read post #70...

[Gormy Cuss]

86. bridgit, I am so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[JohnnyLib2]

88. I am sorry for your loss.

What a sad and painful time for you, Bridgit. I hope the better memories give you comfort across time. :hug:

[UndertheOcean]

89. Oh my God , I am very sorry bridgit

:(

[peekaloo]

96. Peace and strength to you and your family, bridgit.

:hug:

[xchrom]

100. my sweet bridgit -- i am so sorry.

Peace that passes all Understanding be with you and your family at this time.

[cordelia]

105. Dear Bridgit

My deepest condolences on the loss of your husband.

I just simply cannot imagine.

Peace and love to you, and all who loved Russ.

[NYC_SKP]

106. So sorry for your loss, bridgit...

Words cannot say.

:hug:

NYC_SKP

[demtenjeep]

107. I am so very sorry

:hugs:

[Minimus]

108. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband.

Please take care of yourself and know that many are thinking about you.

[Sanity Claws]

110. My sincere condolences

I am so, so sorry for your loss.

[bridgit]

113. Russ

I wanted to thank you so much for your kind wishes over the last few weeks. This has been a tough time all around. Yesterday his friends threw a car wash to help raise money for his cremation costs. People I didn't even know were out washing cars in the hot Northern California sun. Strangers were putting money in my hands and saying how sorry they were. Very surreal feeling. I met Russ's dad yesterday. The spitting image of my love in his older years. Very kindly and stately man. Reminds me so much of him. We only had six years together but I would not change anything for the world. We just needed more time and the hospital robbed us of that.

[Withywindle]

129. I am so, so sorry Bridgit.

You and your family are in my prayers. I feel so terrible for you. I know how precious time is with loved ones, and some of it was stolen from you and your husband suffered more than he had to. That is inexcusable, unforgivable. Please talk to a lawyer ASAP and pursue this. I know you will.

Please also take care of yourself. The stress must be incredible. Let people do nice things for you. Get as much rest as you can.

I wish you comfort and peace.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

114. All the loving vibes I have are yours bridgit

Thinking warm thoughts for Russ' healing, and for you both getting rest.

I beg of you, as one who knows, try, try, TRY and sleep some. Any little bit will help you.

:hug: :loveya: :hug:

[bridgit]

115. Avenging Angel Thread

I went to the hospital today to get my husband's medical records. I am only a theater/lighting tech girl from UCLA not a doctor or a nurse. My sweet love died from septic shock. His white blood cell count and platelet count kept creeping up every day for five days. There was a critical call placed to the floor where my husband was at 8:05 am regarding his very elevated white blood cell counts. They did not get him back to ICU till around 11. He was exhibiting all the symptoms of septic shock. The nurse said he had to wait till 10:10 am to get any pain meds. She even went off for 15 minutes to have her breakfast. I know my husband had other medical issues we had to address when we got him home but the doctor said on Sunday he was not out of the woods yet but we could see the edge of the woods. Four days later he is dead. I cannot get my head around this. California Peggy and any other medical people on DU, is this normal or right? Should I sue for medical malpractice? I am not talking of doing it for me but for my husband whose body was shutting down right in front of me, while a physician's assistant, a doctor and a couple of nurses all walked in and did nothing. Not only he is gone and we never got to do the last bit of things we wanted to do, he died and left his two daughters without a dad, six grandchildren without their grandpa Russ and meeting Russ's 86 year old dad broke my heart in two whole pieces as he is the spitting image of him if he had lived to be in his 80's. The head of that unit called today, four days later and I told her she was too late. She was rude and officious to me. She could hardly wait to get off the phone with me. Her boss called me today and wants to meet with me to discuss my "concerns" about my husband's care or I would say, lack of. My mind is completely blown right now. I should not keep harping on this to you fellow DU'ers but does anyone have a suggestion as to my next step. Wednesday I finalize his cremation. Just last week at this time, we were making notes of what we were going to do when he got home. He even got approved for another car. Paperwork came today. Please, all of my friends at DU put your heads together and let me know if you think I have a case. I do not care about the outcome as it will bring him back to his darling girl but I know he is not the only person this has happened to.

[LeftyFingerPop]

116. Bridgit...

When you are up to it...

Expand this post in a word document. List every detail as you remember, including times and names. Present the documentation to a lawyer who specializes in medical malpractice. I cannot stress this enough...write down every detail that you can remember, no matter how seemingly insignificant.

Your lawyer will decide if you have a case or not.

Write the attending physician a letter, requesting a complete copy of his medical records. If there was another doctor involved before he went into the hospital, request the records from that doctor also...you want to get records as far back in time as you can.

Again bridgit, I feel just horrible about your husband's passing...my best wishes to you for peace and comfort.

[GreenPartyVoter]

117. I second this. Do it soon, because details fade quickly. Any emails, posts, or texts

you might have written, phone messages you might have left on someone's answering machine, anything dating from the time your husband was in the hospital where you might have reported something that could soon slip your mind would be very, very helpful. Ask family and friends who also might have been in the room with your husband at any time during his care to also jot down their recollections.

Good luck. I hope that you can get some answers from an attorney about this. :hug:

[Love Bug]

118. Find a lawyer who specializes in medical malpractice. ASAP.

Do not talk to any more of the Hospital personnel. The reason they are calling you is they know they fucked up and are hoping to either mollify you or get you to say something they can use against you later should things go to court. And ditto what everyone else has said about writing down the sequence of how things happened.

I'm so sorry for your loss, bridgit. I have no words that can help you feel better.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

119. I am so very sorry Bridgit.

:cry:

My apologies for not reading the entire thread.

My deepest sympathies and condolences. :hug:

I read LeftyFingerPop's reply, and it is sound advice. Any detail, no matter how small. Get it on paper and get a lawyer. He/She would more able to establish whether there is a case here.

[SwampG8r]

125. my wife has been a nurse for 25 years and a nurse practitioner and midwife for

15 years
she has worked cardiac care and icu
she has her own small practice
i had her read your posts regarding your husband
after a long talk about my choices in health and how they affect others who love me
and after a lot of tears she said
do not meet with any hospital employee without legal representation
do not talk to any hospital employee without legal representation
they are in CYA mode and will do anything to avoid this liability
do not allow the circumstances to allow them to minimize what happened
place all of this in the hands of good lawyers now


you will be in my prayers today

[Deep13]

120. I am so sorry to hear that.

I had the same experience with my father. He had a stroke, went into a coma, rallied for awhile, but ten days later he was dead. I'm sorry you had to endure this.

[In_The_Wind]

121. I'm so sorry bridgit.

I know how much Russ meant to you.



Joani

[bridgit]

124. Funeral

Off to the funeral home this morning. None of this seems real in my head. When I get the death certificate, I can make an appointment with the attorney. I also have a couple of more that seem interested. I do not care about the money, I just want him vindicated for the things that were done and said to him. There is a hospital admin lady who wants to meet with me today. I am being careful to not say anything that they can twist around and use against me. I just want this person to know what her hospital did to my husband. It may seem strange to some and I have already had one so called friend tell me I was psycho but Russ and I were so solid that I feel him around me, guiding me in everything I do. When I pass, I know he will be waiting for me with my Timmy cat and then we can be together again. I caught some sort of cough in the hospital from breathing their air for two weeks so I am trying to take it easy. Thanks again for all of your support.

[auntAgonist]

126. Take care of yourself Brigit. I hope you have folks

around you who love you and support you through these really tough times.

:hug:

aA
kesha

[bridgit]

127. Thank you...

It was hard enough and surreal enough in my head to pay for the cremation costs. Nothing like laying cash out to get the account rep on your side. Both of Russ's doctors are on vacation, so they are trying to find a doctor to sign him off so he can get cremated. What? The doctors are in Hawaii or something? Talked to the nursing supervisor today for over an hour today, She has grave concerns as well. She should as I am suing the pants off of them. The nursing supervisor said she has serious concerns about the level of care that my husband received. I noticed that there was a notation on his chart that the lab had called in some critical results around 8 am. She admitted that something should have been done asap. Russ and I could have handled him being sick and coming home. We knew he did not have tons of time but he wanted to change things and make them right. I watched him die for hours on the floor while doctors and nurses came and went. They did nothing. I should stop posting this stuff but I need a permanent record to show. He died of septic shock and the surreal quality continues. The topic of today's health advisory in the hospital is sepsis. Gee... Maybe they should have figured that out sooner and my husband would be home in bed right now. His writing website was salmonhorse america so he said I had to be Lady Salmonhorse right now. I think I could have handled anything except the neglect they gave him on the floor.

[bridgit]

128. Thank you...

It was hard enough and surreal enough in my head to pay for the cremation costs. Nothing like laying cash out to get the account rep on your side. Both of Russ's doctors are on vacation, so they are trying to find a doctor to sign him off so he can get cremated. What? The doctors are in Hawaii or something? Talked to the nursing supervisor today for over an hour today, She has grave concerns as well. She should as I am suing the pants off of them. The nursing supervisor said she has serious concerns about the level of care that my husband received. I noticed that there was a notation on his chart that the lab had called in some critical results around 8 am. She admitted that something should have been done asap. Russ and I could have handled him being sick and coming home. We knew he did not have tons of time but he wanted to change things and make them right. I watched him die for hours on the floor while doctors and nurses came and went. They did nothing. I should stop posting this stuff but I need a permanent record to show. He died of septic shock and the surreal quality continues. The topic of today's health advisory in the hospital is sepsis. Gee... Maybe they should have figured that out sooner and my husband would be home in bed right now. His writing website was salmonhorse america so he said I had to be Lady Salmonhorse right now. I think I could have handled anything except the neglect they gave him on the floor.

[SPKrazy]

130. Prayers and good vibes

on their way Russ and Bridgit

[bridgit]

131. Health Department

The Neptune Society has been trying to help but the Health Department did not sign off on everything until 4:30 this afternoon. I guess they needed more details as they rejected the cause of death twice. Both of Russ's doctors suddenly had to go on vacation? A sudden urgent trip to Aspen or Maui? The Health Department had some questions I guess about the cause of death, they had more questions? Hopefully, the doctor will sign off on everything Monday. Both of his daughters want him to be cremated as soon as possible. It has been a week and I am just hoping they can get this done, so I can get him home. I was down at Russ's art studio tonight cleaning and organizing things to come home next week and gave the paint to a like minded artist friend of his. Keeping the dada art vibe going. Wanted to thank everyone again for all of their help. I am trying to find a wonderful computer detective that can help me find Russ's novel and short stories. online. Will pay cash if anyone wants to help or has a suggestion. :)

[applegrove]

133. vibes.