Please let this be the one. Please let this be the one. Please let this be the one.

[Tobin S.]

I've been looking for a mate for a little over 2 years now. I've dated 6 women in that time and talked to many others, but things just haven't worked out for one reason or the other. Some of it's me, some of it's them, and I have no idea about some of it. I really don't want to know, I'm just tired of being alone. I'm 37 and I've never married or even been in a serious relationship.

So I've got a new prospect and I have her telephone number and I'm going to call her later on today to set up a date. We've talked for the past couple of weeks through a dating site and our regular e-mail. She's down to earth and seems kind, sweet, and intelligent. We have some things in common and I enjoy talking to her. Now I just need to see if she's for real.

[Skittles]

1. calm down

don't treat her like a science project....be natural

[Tobin S.]

2. It's going to be a double blind experiment

There will be questionaires and she will be compensated for her time away from work.

[Chan790]

5. I'm with Skittles on this one: Calm Down.

Nothing and I do mean nothing sends up red flags and sends people running for the hills like feeling the overwhelming weight of expectations from someone you've just started seeing. Relax, calm down, have fun, be you. It will happen or it won't. Psyching yourself up is not going to help. You say you've never had a serious relationship at age 37, I have to wonder if you're not "pushing too hard" or "biting at the bit" as a result. Just have fun...dating is supposed to be fun, remember?

It is good to see you have a good sense of humor about it though.

[Tobin S.]

8. I'm fine Chan. Really.

I'm not pushing too hard. I've talked to her for a couple of weeks now before actually having met her. The reason for me not having been in a serious relationship before is not that I'm too pushy. I just never wanted it before the last couple of years, and there is a very good reason for that.

[petronius]

6. Don' forget the liability release as well. Also, draw up a form that any patents,

discoveries, or other work products resulting from the experiment are the sole property of the principal investigator. :)

Have fun! (And take it easy...)

[kimi]

7. That's funny!

I hope things work out and that you have fun, you sound like a nice guy with a good sense of humor. Hey, you post on DU, that says a lot about you right there. :)

[rug]

3. You can't be sure until you see if she chews with her mouth open.

[cherokeeprogressive]

12. Deal Breaker! n/t

[old mark]

4. I hope you both have a great time. What happens will happen or not. nt

[Capn Sunshine]

11. sage words

don't have any expectations. Just be. Half the problem with people in relationships these days is wanting one so bad, you cram someone into the box you've constructed in your head for just that purpose, and you don't really see the real person; just a bunch of parts "that could be the one".

[Book Lover]

9. "Mate"? "Prospect"? Is this Glengarry Glenn Ross?

And is it any wonder google served up an ad that reads "Real Chinese Girls and You!" in this OP? Jesus, calm the fuck down.

[mzteris]

10. ignore all those naysayers in here.

Those who know you and love you here on DU know the deal. Those who are poo-pooing you obviously don't know you.

Just be yourself, what's not to love? You have half of DU ready to run off with you so why should she be any different? IF she has more than half a brain of course. :)

You're smart and funny and kind and generous and caring and hard-working and and and - hey! if she doesn't work out, give me a call! lol (Although, I am almost old enough to be your mom :( )