tomorrow will be the first Christmas in 15 years where I wake up

[mcctatas]

without the kids, their dad gets them this year. Oddly, since we celebrated Christmas today and had a wonderful time and since the date really holds no real meaning for us, I am OK with it, we will see how i feel in the morning

Merry Christmas everyone :toast:

[Ghost in the Machine]

1. Merry Christmas to you, mcctatas

Since the date doesn't really hold any true meaning for you, just treat it like any other day: enjoy the peace and solitude while you can.


Peace,

Ghost

[Haole Girl]

2. Aww

It's better, IMHO, to do it that way. Some parents try to force themselves to act civil to their ex & have one huge fiasco of a Christmas. Can you tell I speak from experience? :blush:

Hang in there. :hug:

[rebel with a cause]

3. There is no such thing as civility in most of our divorces.

I have been divorced for seventeen years, my children are grown and still my ex has said he will be here tomorrow for Christmas dinner. I live with my daughter so I cannot tell him not to show up because it is her house also.

Now he is remarried and will probably spend the day with his wives family, but he still tells my daughter that he will be here. He expects the meal to be traditionally like I use to cook it, his countries cuisine, but we are going to have good old American type food tomorrow. We had Caribbean food today, when he was originally suppose to come. There is a reason I love holidays! He use to be very abusive on them. There is a reason that I use to go into a deep depression for every one of them! I have PTSD and holidays are/were very hard for me to get through. Now I just ignore it all and just try to get through them. Plus, my kids are adults and they can handle him.

[Haole Girl]

4. Good luck

I hope your ex shows up this time. And I hope he can refrain, even if it's only for one day, from causing your family more pain. :hug:

[rebel with a cause]

5. Everything will be fine. I have learned to mostly ignore him...

and let the kids deal with him. That is one good thing about them being adults now. ;)

He don't dare do anything to me with my son around. My ex is around 5'7" and our son is 6'. My kids blame both of us for their messed up childhood but when it comes to drama my son don't want any. He has little patience with his father.