In honor of Will Pitt's wedding: Post your marriage advice to Will here

[LynneSin]

Don't go to bed angry!

[MissMillie]

1. the correct answer is

"No, that outfit does not make you look fat. You look terrific!"

[Skittles]

3. the incorrect answer is:

"Honey, it's not the outfit." :D

[Arugula Latte]

37. "..it's your multiple layers of subcutaneous adipose tissue."

What ... not a good thing to say? :shrug:

[Rosie1223]

2. If you use the last of the toilet paper, put on a new roll

and the little scraps clinging to the cardboard do not qualify as "some left".

Best Wishes Will!

[GreenPartyVoter]

7. Adding, "Always leave the seat down."

[Phentex]

4. Hug at least once a day...

and often for no reason.

[nolabear]

5. In an argument try to say what you really mean

rather than trying to win.

[GreenPartyVoter]

8. And with "I" statements instead of "You" ones.

[DFW]

6. Expect nothing, appreciate everything

It has worked for me these last 35 years, anyway.

[MidwestRick]

9. "Yes dear"

Learn to use this phrase. :)

[Fire Walk With Me]

12. +1

And congrats to Will!

[LynneSin]

16. "Yes Dear" is the equivelent of saying "Whatever"

Definately agree but find a better way of doing it

[MidwestRick]

20. Yes dear

:)

[LynneSin]

23. Whatever

:rofl:

[MidwestRick]

24. Now go make me a sammich!!!

*scratches belly*

[fizzgig]

10. communicate

if there's something bothering you, don't bottle it up, but use sense when it comes to when to have the conversation. and, as greenpartyvoter said, 'i' statements are very important.

also, say 'i love you' often

[mopinko]

47. i can't really see will bottling it up. np

[brendan120678]

11. Do whatever she asks...

no matter how busy you are with more important stuff.
Like watching football.

If your team is down by two, with 4 seconds left in the game, 4th and goal with the ball on the 25 because your QB just got sacked, and your wife starts screaming because there's a big spider out in the kitchen and YOU NEED TO COME KILL THIS RIGHT NOW!!!!, it's best to go and kill the spider at that moment rather than watching if the field goal is good or not.

[fizzgig]

27. the roles would be reversed in my house

i'd be the one watching the game and he'd be the one freaking out about the spider and he'd just have to wait. does that make me a horrible wife? ;)

[Sanity Claws]

13. Be generous

Give of your time and resources with an open hand and open heart.

No person and no thing is more important than your spouse and your relationship with her.

[WilliamPitt]

14. Nobody's allowed to say "Don't do it."

;)

[LynneSin]

15. I remember the almost first time around....

sounds like this time you found yourself a keeper. I hope for a lifelong and wonderful marriage! And btw Lynne makes a lovely first or middle name for your future babies!

[JackDragna]

46. Don't do it.

I'm UNSTOPPABLE. HAHAHAHAHAAHAHA!

[PVnRT]

17. When in doubt, buy flowers

[graywarrior]

18. Diagram all your sentences because even tho you think you've heard what she said,

you didn't. After 32 years together Mr Gray & I write what we just said to clarify and believe it our not, we find out we heard it wrong to begin with. I always take what he says differntly from the way he meant it. Venus vs Mars.

[gratuitous]

19. If you smoke after sex

You're doing it too fast.

[NMDemDist2]

21. you can be right OR you can be happy

once you realize she's alway right, you'll be a happy man

Best Wishes to you both Will!

:hi:

[NewJeffCT]

22. Just remember two rules

1) The woman is always right

2) If the woman is wrong, see rule #1

[Deep13]

25. Always keep a plunger in the bathroom. nt

[LynneSin]

28. And no matter how much you think your loved one loves you...

Unless you're 2 years old and being potty-trained, they really don't want to see what is floating in there.

[jesus_of_suburbia]

26. Always remember the love you share right now, because bad times will come and go.

[plcdude]

29. Putting the seat down

takes only .3 seconds but it will save you days of arguments.

[unpossibles]

30. All good advice here...

but also - and this sounds weird - but do not overly neglect yourself either when doing all of your "yes dears" and such. I say this because it can make things awkward, and you can potentially get resentful. I found myself often compromising with my ex- and started noticing that she seldom compromised for me.

Also, be balanced and remember that both of you should support each other emotionally, especially in public, and don't forget the reasons you fell in love in the first place. And both of you, even if best of friends, should remember to make time for yourselves at times.

One more thing: if you ever find yourself looking at someone and she catches you, remember the words "he/she looks familiar." Otherwise honesty and open communication is the best policy. :)

[joeybee12]

31. If you buy some delightful Red Sox or Patriots attire...

...be sure to get a matching outfit for your new spouse!

[hamsterjill]

32. You can never say "I love you" too many times.

Best of luck to you! May you share many, many happy years!

[dixiegrrrrl]

33. Give your partner a long leash and tight hugs.

Congratulations to both of you!!!

[Maine-ah]

59. + 1

[frogmarch]

34. Never add "though" after "I love you."

Forty-three years ago, right after my husband and I were married, he said, "I love you, though." He's never explained, and I've never forgotten it.

Congratulations, Will! Best wishes to the two of you! :hi:

[mulsh]

35. clause 1 - "you were right. I was wrong."

my wife and I have evoked that clause over the past 17 years. We really haven't had any big argument ever, just minor stuff like
where to have dinner. I've had the same musical partner for close to 30 years and I'm also a twin. I learned early on that I don't have to win every argument and a little later in life that there is very little that's worth arguing about.

Be thankful for every day you have with each other and try to enjoy them to the max, even the dismal ones. Over the past 10 years I've lost every family member except my wife and my twin brother. When people are gone that's it. There are no do-overs.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

36. Do not put empty milk cartons back in the refrigerator.

[Tikki]

38. Be a tramp in the kitchen and a cook in the bedroom....

:)

Tikki

[hippywife]

39. Pick your battles.

The little things are not worth even getting a little steamed about in the grand scheme of things. And when the "rush" of new love wears off, realize that it's not over. It's merely matured into the depth of love that is going to sustain you through all life's ups and downs.

And more than hugs and kisses, which we do plenty of, the thing that thrills me more and makes me know it's the real thing is that he can't walk by me without reaching out and touching me lightly as he passes.

Have a wonderful wedding and a long, loving marriage. :hi:

[whistler162]

40. You are never to old! But, being dead makes it a little weird.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Pitt_the_Younger

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Pitt,_1st_Earl_of_Chatham

[Mad_Dem_X]

41. Keep a sense of humor.

I've been married almost 12 years, and I've learned that a sense of humor is a must. Sometimes, you just gotta laugh instead of get angry.

[debbierlus]

42. Address the problems while they are still little - lest they become a redwood

Bridge the distance.

Don't withhold either love or forgiveness

Remember the little things

Good luck, everyone who gets married needs a lot of it.

[MajorChode]

43. It's easier and cheaper to just live in sin

[auntAgonist]

44. words............

The six most important words -- "I admit I made a mistake."
The five most important words -- "You did a good job."
The four most important words -- "What is your opinion?"
The three most important words -- "If you please…"
The two most important words -- "Thank you!"
The one most important word -- "We."
The least important word -- "I."

[TransitJohn]

45. A successful relationship rests upon a tripod

and its three legs are honesty, trust, and sexual compatibility. You can balance on two of these legs, but it's easiest with all three in place.

[Rising Phoenix]

48. don't lose yourself in a couple

but grow together.

Congrats hon! Are we ever gonna hang?

[darkstar3]

49. After marriage, an old cliche becomes the rule

'No man is an island unto himself.'

I've been with my wife for 11 years. In that time, I've learned that 'I' am simply a functional element in the composite of 'we'. Everything that I do, even when I am not with my wife, affects us both in ways minute or monstrous. Learn to think of yourself always as part of a larger whole.

Remember, being married to someone you trust implicitly and love unconditionally means never having to be alone, even when you're the only one in the house.

Say only what you feel, when you feel it. Mean it when you smile, and smile often at each other. These rules apply ESPECIALLY when you disagree.

PDA is NOT a problem, in fact it is encouraged. Never be afraid to show your affection, no matter who is present. (Just try and keep the boning to non-public places :))

And now for the two biggest rules:
-Your family is JUST as crazy as hers, maybe more so. Remember that when you think her mother has gone insane.
-YOU own nothing, and YOU make no money. It's a team effort. Joint accounts, joint ownership of everything, joint responsibility. It sounds crazy to some people, but it will cut down on money fights in the future.

That's all I've got, and it's a lot more than I expected when I started this post. Have fun!

[proteus_lives]

50. Don't lie!

It's not worth it, if you have an issue. Just hash it out.

[Swede]

51. Lift with your legs,not your back.

Whenever you are sad, hurt or angry it's time to apply the 10 year rule. Will this still matter in 10 years? If it will (moral, legal, etc), then deal with it. If not (dress mode, choice of tv show, music/sports, etc.), then let it drop. Life is truly too short.

[Yavin4]

52. You Can Either Be Right Or You Can Be Happy

But you cannot be both.

[slay]

53. As I said in an earlier thread to him:

Better you than me! :rofl: Nah - congrats Will!

[hfojvt]

54. never, never, never

spend $600 on a single night out :hide:

[KittyWampus]

73. that was a hideous flame war. Guy treats his best girl to a wonderful evening and gets

roasted for it.

OY

[hfojvt]

74. it wasn't really that hideous

there were lots of people who said 'hey, sounds like you had a nice time' but then a few, perhaps poorer people who took some issue with it, and then it bloomed with the umbrage of a dozen angry arguments of "how dare people take umbrage at Will"

He had at least as many people waving swords on his side as he had people 'roasting' him. It happens though. No matter what you post, unless it sinks like a rock, there can easily be at least one or two people who strongly disagree or take issue with it and sometimes even over-react.

I sort of view it as a now legendary food fight. Perhaps I shouldn't though. Others involved felt like actual spuds were being thrown instead of just mashed potatoes and the bruises are still tender or remembered not at all fondly.

[Ellipsis]

55. Love One Another

Love One Another
~ Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet (1883-1931)



Love one another, but make not a bond of love
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup, but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread, but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping;
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together;
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.



...and pick up your underwear.

[Angel]

56. Advice for both

Anyone can say "I love you" so show your love and appreciation. Let each other know they are loved,appreciated, and needed. A touch or a look can say so much more than words ever could. You may be becoming a couple, but never lose yourself. Without the 2 personalities there can't be a couple.

Be honest..no matter how much it hurts. It's better to feel the pain of honesty than live a lie.

Lastly, bring out the child in yourself. Spend time together playing in the rain, jumping in puddles or have a pillow fight together.




Best wishes and may you both grow old together.

[AllenVanAllen]

57. Be a good listener,

And always be kind... :hi:

[seabeyond]

58. altruism. selfless concern for other. both have it, will be successful and happy for life

i found, i dont want hubby power. his to do. he does self best. and he respects i can do me best. we dont try to take power from each other.

[crim son]

60. Break no furniture,

put no holes in doors and help with the kids. Congrats, Will.

[denbot]

61. Even when you are mad, try to find humor in a situation.

After a spat, one of us will try to make the other laugh. Then we can talk about it without so much negative emotional momentum. I know this won't always work but humor helps for us keep perspective.

By the way, you will never again win an argument unless she wants you to win it.

[annonymous]

62. Have both a joint account and a personal spending account

Use the joint account to pay household bills and the personal account for stuff you want. Both husband and wife should contribute to the joint account 50/50. Your wife should also have a personal account. A lot of marriages fail due to money issues and this is one of the best ways to avoid such problems.

[LanternWaste]

63. I was married by a judge...

"I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury."
Groucho Marx

[kaiden]

64. Don't build your house on an Indian graveyard.

[LynneSin]

66. I'd also check to see if the house was built on one - like that place in Amityville

seriously!

[rbnyc]

65. Have at least one 10-second long kiss every day.

Congrats.

[TrogL]

67. Be playful

Toys!!

[TxRider]

68. Run, now, fast!

[Maiden England]

69. Advice for tomorrow

It'll be the fastest day of your life. Remember to slow down and smell the roses.

Advice for every day after tomorrow, remember to share how you feel. Good communication is key. As are the little things. My hubby leaves me little notes telling me he loves me, random text messages during the day to show me he is thinking about me. We've been married nearly 10 years and its the stuff like that, which keeps it feeling like we are newlyweds.

Good luck and I wish you many many many happy years together!

[MilesColtrane]

70. She is always right.

Remember this, and you'll be celebrating your silver anniversary in no time.

[NNadir]

71. At the end of each day ask yourself if you have loved your lover enough.

If you don't think you have, try harder the next day.

[backwoodsbob]

72. wake up every morning

look her straight in the eye and say ..I'm sorry.

Makes life easier

[Haole Girl]

75. Keep your sense of humor. It's very important in any marriage. nt

[BlueIris]

76. With all due respect to Will and his spouse:

Yeah, I got nothing. I typically advise people to pursue relationship arrangements other than marriage, and I do not plan to marry myself.

[greenbriar]

77. compromise is good

going out of your way to make the other happy is great

We celebrate 20 years next month


while it has not always been easy, I couldn't imagine life without him

[tekisui]

78. Happy wife, happy life.