My wife and I are getting separated.....

[aquaman]

The good news is that we are still friends, but we just grew apart. The bad news is that I am going to be single. Have not been in 13 years! Well, that is going to be weird! Anybody been through this process before?

[RFKHumphreyObama]

1. I'm very sorry to hear that

But glad that you are remaining friends

:hug: :hug:

Why don't you check out the Coping with Separation&Divorce forum? There are several people there going through the same or similar experiences whom may be able to help you

[aquaman]

4. Thanks....

Never knew that forum existed!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear aquaman...

I am so sorry to hear about this...

Have you tried counseling? How is your son taking it?

I have no advice for you...I've never been separated from my husband...

Please take care of yourself...

:hug:

[aquaman]

6. Ms. Peggy.....

My son is only three, so he will likely be confused for awhile, but he is so young that I hope that it will not impact him too much. She is moving out in a few weeks. Counseling is not really an option. There has been many things occurring over the last three years, long story. And as a therapist myself, I know exactly what he/she would try to get us to talk about! We have done that, failed! Thanks for the support!

[BarenakedLady]

3. Aye

Married 13 years (together 15), separated for 7 months (legally 2-3), just moved into my new house. Being on good terms makes all the difference, especially if there are kids involved (as is in my case). I recommend mediation as opposed to lawyers if possible. Saves money, time and aggravation. Good luck.

[aquaman]

7. The good thing is....

we have already agreed on everything regarding our son, the house, money, etc.. So, I just have hired a lawyer to file the paperwork! So, it should be pretty simple.

[BarenakedLady]

9. Ahhh

Here in NY, we have to be legally separated for a year before we can get divorced. There is no "no-fault" divorce in this state. Pain in the ass, really. Luckily, neither of us wanted to make it ugly.

[aquaman]

10. Same here in SC.....

Have to be separated for year before the divorce is final. So easy to get married, but yet, so hard to not be! Bullshit!

[BarenakedLady]

12. I totally agree.

You should have to go through hell to get married, imo.

I may be biased though.

[The Straight Story]

5. Yes - and here is where I am now

Talking to a wonderful nurse, been out on some dates with her. Also talking to another nurse (not sure why I attract nurses - and it is a long story how I met two of them at same time). Also hooked up with my HS sweetheart (she never knew how I felt about her, or she me) after 25 years and having a wonderful time together.

Finding that life was bigger in that arena than I ever before knew. Went from being broken hearted and alone to connecting with several people on many levels.

Did not want the break up, shit happens though. But have found so many wonderful people out there to be with and share my life and heart with.

[aquaman]

8. hmmmm...

We did not really want to break up either. But we realized we were just together for our son, and that is not good. So, we finally just agreed to try living in separate homes. I am sad about it, but at the same time relieved.

[Rowdyboy]

11. I know you both hurt-sometimes life's that way....

My partner and his ex divorced in 1989 and are still friends. Hope you have the same luck

[Heidi]

13. Since I'm one of your most shallow friends, let me be the first to say:

your situation will come as very good news to any woman who has ever seen your photo. ;)

P.S. Yes, I've been separated and divorced. And yes, it feels strange to be "single" after a long relationship. Take this new phase in your life slowly. You're gonna be fine. :hug:

[BarenakedLady]

14. Oh?

Is that so?

*cough*

*whistle*

...not familiar with the photographic evidence...

;)

...but I do agree with the slow advice...

We newly single need to discover ourselves first.

[Heidi]

16. He's very, very cute.

But more importantly, very kind and intelligent. :)

[ccharles000]

15. ..

:hug:

[Bucky]

17. You are not alone, Aquaman

There's like 20 of you.

 

[akbacchus_BC]

18. So sorry to hear that. A marriage breakup is never easy and am not

gonna preach if you went for counseling. I am pretty sure you did and perhaps it was water on ducks back.

I only have one advice since you both have a son together, make sure you tell him that mom and dad love him and that you two will always be there for him and on your part, never say a bad word about his mom when he is with you. This is so heartbreaking as I went through it myself.

Goodluck to you and I hope everything turns out well.

[applegrove]

19. So sorry it didn't work out.