My secret shame.

[Midlodemocrat]

Okay, this is hard to post, but here goes.

I'm reasonably musically inclined. I played drums in the band in high school and was in a bar band that opened for Bruce Springsteen and some others in the early 80s.

TM is also reasonably musically inclined. In fact, she's pretty darned good. Check my FB page for her singing if you need proof.

BabyM is determined to follow her sister in terms of singing, show choir etc., (much to my dismay, because the little geek is a veritable genius in math and science and I'd like her to go to a specialty high school, but she won't even consider it)

So, no problem, right?

Wrong.

The child? BabyM? My adorable baby doll?

Has no rhythm. I mean none. At the JoBro concert when she was on her feet clapping, she was so out of rhythm, that I had to lean over to her and snap my fingers to keep her from knocking herself over with missed beats.

So, yes. The child of a drummer has no rhythm. Genetics don't mean squat obviously.

[madinmaryland]

1. You played at Toad's in New Haven?

Or Tuxedo's in Danbury??

[Midlodemocrat]

8. Toad's.

[bigwillq]

14. You played at Toad's?!?

Wow, good for you! :) :hi:

[Midlodemocrat]

16. Meh. I wish I knew then what I know now, honestly.

I spent my nights playing and my days teaching. And I had to make a choice. Not sure I'd make the same one, honestly.

[bigwillq]

20. Well I am sure family played a role

in your decision, right?

[tigereye]

29. that was me in grad school - work all day, take a final at school, then go

play a gig. I couldn't do that now, though.

[azmouse]

2. Maybe the next litte M will be musically inclined...

:hi:

[CreekDog]

3. or all 5

:think:

[madinmaryland]

5. I think it is GrandBabyM.

:hide:

[struggle4progress]

4. You better wear a ski mask whenever you post in the future, cuz nobody's gonna forgive you for this

[Midlodemocrat]

7. I told you it was shameful.

[Captain Hilts]

13. I'm 'here' for you, as they say on the Lifetime Network. nt

[CreekDog]

6. She has internal rhythm

:think:

[Midlodemocrat]

9. yeah. no.

Even TM is appalled. She's been choreographing the middle school choruses for their concert and she was stunned.


:rofl:

[mentalsolstice]

10. It was that Catholic rhythm method you were practicing!

It was bound to catch up with you on that last kid. I'm kidding! I'm a Catholic by choice. My husband by cradle, and there's just him and his sister...whenever I ask how his family was so small, he always said his father danced "not great, but okay."

[Midlodemocrat]

11. No rhythm method here, doll. I got pregnant just sharing his towel.

:rofl:

Hey, great to see you, btw, I've missed you.

[mentalsolstice]

18. I'm here, there and everywhere

But wherever I am, Midlo is either the major topic of conversation, or I'm thinking of you while I'm playing with my mom's bunco group and drinking their box wine (and this is no exaggeration).

[graywarrior]

12. Maybe she has groupie genes.

[DS1]

15. You know who else clapped out of synch?

[Midlodemocrat]

17. Seriously. You are dead at BBs

At least BMidlo is darn cute.

[Nevernose]

19. HOLY SHIT! I had the same problem w/ my daughter

It was so embarrassing. My stepfather was a professional drummer (Buddy Rich was jealous of him, and I have this documented in Buddy Rich's own handwriting), and I grew up learning about the necessity of putting "soul" into music. All of us can play instruments; all of us have excellent rhythm. My real father was drum major; my mother a cheerleader; my grandmother a music teacher. Since birth I've indoctrinated her in everything musical. From Bach to Buckwheat Zydeco, from Santana to Suicidal Tendencies.

But the kid couldn't keep a beat, to the point at which I was embarrassed to take her into public.

She wanted to go to a magnet school (junior high) for acting. There she got into the band for bass guitar. She hates the bass guitar now (for reasons entirely unrelated to music and mostly, I suspect, due to a boy named Alex), but has since acquired a stone-cold rhythm set right in her soul. Now she's in musical theater, show choir, and hip-hop dance, and has a better natural time than anyone else on stage with her.

There is hope. Music is something that you're born with, but you still have to be taught how to use it.

[TZ]

21. wow.

My stepfather is a drummer and I got a kick out of watching my then 3 yr old niece rock in pretty good rhythym to the drums.
Reminds me of when I used to teach dance class and some people just could NOT feel the rhythym of the music. I would literally go over and tap out the beat on their arm--that helped a little....I think I could do the same for BabyM is I ever met her. :)

[BeachBaby]

22. That's no biggie.

Music teachers can work with her to get that issue fixed.

When I was in Junior High, there were a couple of kids in the band who were completely out of synch with the rest of us. It took awhile - but by the following school year, they were absolutely fine. :)

One thing that I could suggest to help her - a metronome. Works wonders.

[ScreamingMeemie]

23. You had a secret?

:shrug:







:hide:

[nickgutierrez]

24. THIS is your secret shame?

I expected something much juicier.

[Shell Beau]

25. I just listened. Your Cait has a beautiful voice!

[Midlodemocrat]

26. Aw, thanks, Shell.

:hug:

[Frosty1]

27. Dance Lessons

Are excellent for teaching rhythm. It forces you to learn.

[tigereye]

28. cool on the drum playing! (from a fellow drum player in several bands)

and cool on playing with Bruce!

[sasquatch]

30. First of all, you being a drummer really explains a lot about your behavior

Second, she's probably a late bloomer.
:P

[Midlodemocrat]

31. All the kool kidz are drummers, Hitler.

[jeff30997]

32. So you were a drummer, Himmler ?

If you had been born a little bit later I'm sure you would have been a great

Ganksta rapper.

Still have the stiff neck but it's better than yesterday.Usually when I wake up

it's not my neck that's stiff so it's pretty disconcerting. :P

[sasquatch]

33. No. all of the cool kids are guitar players, Stalin.