Your Longest Romantic Relationship (and this can include marriage)?

[Mike 03]

I was touched by a post by Babylonsister in another forum but it made me wonder, what is the longest monogomous relationship you have had with a person?

It could be that you just dated, or lived together, or were married, or some combination of all of the above.

For me, it was thirteen years, a combination of living together and marriage.

My parents have been married since 1963 and still going strong.

But as for my friends, I only know of one marriage that has not ended in divorce. Most of them never married, and those few that did are divorced, to my knowledge.

Maybe it is generational, this difference between how long romantic relationships last nowadays, or whether or not we even want to get into them, in light of how complex life is getting.

Open for discussion!

[SPKrazy]

1. 21 years

were together 23 years

married 20 years

not now!

The 20 came before the end of the married 20

monogamy if you can even call it that for 20 though

[fizzgig]

2. nearly seven years

we started dating right after our 16th birthdays and he left for japan a few months before our 23rd birthdays. the relationship had be over for a few years, but i didn't have the backbone to end it.

i haven't spoken to him in years, i gave up on trying to keep the friendship alive because he showed no interest in doing so.

[AlCzervik]

3. 22 1/2 years.

[Shine]

4. Known each other 18 yrs, Together 17 years, married 16 next month.

:loveya: Still goin' strong...Two kids and house later.

My own parents were only married for six years, so I'm charting new territory with each year!

Like you, I've known many, many, many couples who have divorced over the years. I feel really lucky to have such a loving partner. It's not always peaches and cream, mind you, but we're totally solid and committed for the long haul.

:hi:

[LeftyMom]

5. Five years.

At three and a half with this one with barely any arguments, so...

[BarenakedLady]

6. 15 years

And we are getting divorced.

My parents are still married.

My grandparents were married over 60 years.

My great-grandparents however, got divorced.

For whatever that is worth.

:shrug:

[femmocrat]

7. Married 41 years.

Together since 1966. Gawd, I'm old.

[MadMaddie]

8. I have been with my partner for 16 happy years

My parents have been married for 42 years
My partners have been married for 50 years

[DarkTirade]

9. Hmm. Hard to say.

My longest was broken up quite a bit by distance and whatnot. We were sort of together for four or five years... but really only TOGETHER for maybe two of those years total.

[Shell Beau]

10. My husband and I started dating when I was 15. I am 30 now!

:o We did break up a couple of times and dated around, but we always came back. We got married when I was 23!! Young I know! Now that I am the ripe old age of 30 ;), I can't imagine anyone marrying that young, but I wouldn't go back and change it. It worked for us. And continues to. So that is and will be my longest relationship. We are in it for the long haul. We took divorce off of the table when we married (so long as we weren't/aren't abusive to one another obviously).

[Tikki]

11. Mr. Tikki and I met, just about this time of year, in 1964....we fell in...

love a short time after...We have been together 45 years...42 of those years married.

He is the nicest person I have ever met...

Tikki

[Iggo]

12. Less than a year. (n/t)

[flvegan]

13. Monogomous? 3 weeks.

No really, 4 1/2 years. Dating, marriage and separation.

[stewartcolbert08]

14. 5 years

stupid bastard! LOL

[achtung_circus]

15. It depends how you do the math...

3 happy years dating
3 happy years living together
15 happy years married
5 unhappy years married
1 happier year separated
5 happy years divorced

The way I count it is 21 happy years.

[abq e streeter]

16. 2 years ,and I look at that fact as one of the great failures, and regrets, of my life

I would give anything to be able to go back in time and make it so I'd settled down and had a family, but it just wasn't meant to be I guess. On the few occasions I met someone with whom it really could have worked out, and was ready to commit to a long term relationship or even marriage, timing and circumstance always got in the way, and the two 2 year relationships I had were both not the right person for the long haul. At 57 yrs old, I waver back and forth between still hoping it can happen ,and feeling like I've been burned so many times, that it'd be better to just finally give up. Not that I haven't had some fun times as a single guy ( and luckily the fact that I've been a working musician was enough, occasionally, to compensate for my extreme shyness, and I can look back on some unbelievably wild times with some unbelievably wild women here and there), but there have been more miserable, lonely times than not. I have many friends who are divorced, and a few like me, who never did settle down, but I also have many friends who are in long-term, stable and good relationships, so in my personal experience, it's not generational.

[Juche]

17. Been seeing my left hand since 1995

We get along great.

[murielm99]

18. Thirty years. n/t

[grace0418]

19. Dated for 9 years, have been married for almost 12.

College sweethearts.

[regnaD kciN]

20. 25 years, 9 months...

[Chan790]

21. 7 months...

that was a disaster. I'm never doing it again.

[Roon]

22. 15 years

We broke up 6 years ago.

[av8rdave]

23. 14 1/2 years

13 of them marriage

[DemBones DemBones]

24. Forty-three years and counting.

:D

[OmahaBlueDog]

25. If you add it all up 26 years

Mrs. OBD and I were married in 1988, we were engaged for 4 years before that, and dated for a year as high school sweethearts.

[bigwillq]

26. Approaching 8 years

we've been on and off for some of that time, though.