Is It Ok To Fool Around With Someone Who Is Married?

[Parche]

:shrug: :hi:

[datasuspect]

1. sure

if you're a scumbag

[HopeHoops]

24. Nah, NOTHING wrong with that - I do it all the time.

Well, I'm married to her. But she's STILL MARRIED!

[Tuesday Afternoon]

35. +1

[flvegan]

2. Probably not. That's why I never ask.

:hide:

j/k everyone.

[TZ]

3. Generally no.

Parche..if you are doing this, I think you are asking for BIG trouble.

[Lucian]

4. It's not all it's hyped up to be.

Trust me, I know this. You'll end up falling for her and there is nothing you can do about it. You'll walk around hurt, confused, and ultimately alone after all is said and done.

:(

[cwydro]

5. Take it from someone who's been there.

And that is a big fat NO.

[Midlodemocrat]

6. No. Never.

[av8rdave]

7. If she happens to be married to you, it might just work out OK

[eyepaddle]

20. Well played sir!

:patriot:

[Moondog]

8. Not smart.

Bad karma, too.

[JonLP24]

9. I think the obvious answer is no

Not sure what kind of response you'd get.

[MrScorpio]

10. Sure

As long as they get a permission slip

[cwydro]

11. Especially if you're getting the line:

oh we're separated yada yada yada.

[Lucian]

12. Or "my marriage is bad and I'm unhappy, yadda yadda yadda..."

x(

[cwydro]

15. Oh yeah,

I got both of those and some other creative ideas thrown in.x(

[Shell Beau]

13. Nope!!

[belpejic]

14. Only if you want to get your heart broken (n/t)

[MilesColtrane]

16. That depends.

Can you outrun a jealous spouse, or their speeding bullet?

[raccoon]

43. Well said...you see that kind of thing all the time on crime shows such as 48 Hours. nt

[Crabby Appleton]

17. No nt

[skygazer]

18. Only if you're the one married to them

:hi:

[madinmaryland]

19. Do you enjoy looking at the end of a shotgun?

[Hell Hath No Fury]

21. Only if that person is in an open relationship --

and their partner knows you two are "fooling around".

Otherwise, no.

[JoDog]

45. Seconded

If the other person is in a closed relationship and sneaking around and lying, then no.

But if it is an open/polyamorous marriage, that is a different situation.

I've dated a man in an open marriage. We get together when we can work out our schedules. It works well for both of us, and it is about the size of relationship I want right now.

[Richard Steele]

22. No. It really isn't. Such things never end well. nm

[MrSlayer]

23. It's ok to do anything you want.

But don't be surprised if someone else thinks it's ok to castrate you for it.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

25. Define "fool around," "married," and "ok."

:P

I'd generally keep away from married folks...after all, if he'll cheat on her with you, he'll cheat on you, too.

[Tuvok Obama]

29. "If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you."

That's just a fundamental fact when it comes to cheaters.

In the eyes of someone who wants to cheat on his/her spouse or significant other, there's nothing special about the person who's willing to fulfill that role.

[Tuvok Obama]

26. It's a good way to get burned -- badly

There are a hundred ways it can end badly, but as you're looking at the broken mess and wondering what went wrong, you inevitably have to conclude that the Big Mistake was crossing that line in the first place.

I learned my lesson so thoroughly that now, when a married woman flirts with me, I pretend I don't notice. The hot ones probably think I'm gay, and that's fine with me, as long as they turn their married eyes in another direction.

[petronius]

27. I would not call it 'wrong' (i.e. immoral or unethical according to my value system) so long

as you have no obligation to the other spouse. However, it has a pretty high probability of ending badly (perhaps even spectacularly so)...

[BlueJazz]

28. No

[abq e streeter]

30. As someone who fell for the "our marriage is over except on paper" etc stuff,

and got involved with a married woman ( a bisexual republican to boot-- ), it's a real, real bad idea. If the marriage is really all but over, then WAIT . If it isn't, then you're asking for nothing but trouble. I'm lucky as hell that when her husband accidentally found out, it was in a way where he understood it was her who'd pursued me and misled me about " the divorce papers have already been filed " etc. Otherwise things could've gotten real ugly ...And as is usually the case, she never did leave him as she'd kept assuring me was going to imminently happen. So to summarize----NOT OK, BAD IDEA, DON'T DO IT.

[Callalily]

31. No. Why would you want

to inflict that kind of pain on someone? Obviously I'm talking about the spouse that is "left behind". Unless you have experienced it, you can not even begin to phantom that kind of pain.

My advice? Stay away. Anyone that would cheat on their spouse is not worth your time and effort.

[malta blue]

32. depends on how married they are....

I am married on paper only.

He has not lived here since Oct 2008.

I have no contact with him, everything is through lawyers now.

I am dating someone. I don't consider myself a married person, though. :shrug:

[applegrove]

33. Only if you are the one married to them.

[Q3JR4]

34. I would say....it depends....

If, as in my case, the wife introduces the husband and lets you know on no uncertain terms that he is interested and she doesn't care, then you probably can consider that a green light. You do have to assume that you won't be able to break up the marriage and in the case where you fall in love you will be hurt.

So get permission from both parties, realize that no matter what you and they (for it WILL be they) agree to you're probably talking about a one time or at best temporary thing, and prepare to be hurt if part of you decides to fall in love.

It's a bad idea NOT to have permission and the ultimate outcome in that case could be even worse.

Q3JR4.
Is speaking from experience, unfortunately.

[704wipes]

36. willie nelson song

http://mog.com/music/Willie_Nelson/Across_the_Borderline/The_Most_Unoriginal_Sin

words & lyrics by someone else...

[pokerfan]

37. only when their spouse doesn't "understand" them like you do

:sarcasm:

[SoCalDem]

38. No

If they are married to YOU !!

[cherish44]

39. Depends on if you can be with someone who is cheater

and can live with the fact that they'll probably cheat on you someday. Oh and you if you don't mind dealing with a very angry bitter and possibly nasty jilted spouse.

[Strong Atheist]

40. While in theory I am in favor of free love, the way the world works I would

never do that. I would have, when I was younger, stupider, and hornier...

[friedgreentomatoes]

41. It's ok for the unmarried person.

(I am assuming you are talking about one unmarried person fooling around with someone married)

As far as the married person is concerned, better not be my spouse :x( but it depends on them and what kind of arrangement they have. Even if they don't and this person is simply cheating, you are absolved of any responsibilities.

[raccoon]

42. No, unless they're married to you. nt

[MissMillie]

44. Far be it for me to judge anyone.....

But.....


The things we do in our lives have consequences, and often those consequences affect people other than ourselves.

So the question should be:

Am I willing to deal with whatever consequences that may come from fooling around w/ someone who is married?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

46. well stated miss millie

[Swede]

47. It's only okay,if you don't get caught.

:shrug:

[Deep13]

48. I do.

And I'm married too.

:evilgrin: :hug: :loveya:

[Dogtown]

49. Just don't go back for 2nds

Guerrilla Love, hit and run!