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ccharles000 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 03:50 AM
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Did you get into trouble as a kid because you played with toys that did not "fit" your gender?
When I was little my mom got me an easy bake oven for christmas because I would not shut up about it. I loved it so much I remember making my mom eat so many turnovers to this day she gets sick if she spots one. My dad did not say anything that I know of.But one day when I was 8 he found me playing with my sisters my little pony's and I can still remember how mad he was(he is an asshole most of the time).He bought me a BB gun and had me shoot his empty beer cans in the back yard.We did that only one time(I did not care for it).I just thank god he did not find out about my love of sailor moon.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 04:51 AM
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1. My mother was called by the kindergarten teacher
because I was playing with the trucks and building toys that were for the boys.

My mother, God bless her, said, "Well, what's wrong with that?"

But the teacher was horrified and finally put me in my own corner to play with whatever toys I wanted, but would not allow me to play with the boys.

I had no interest in playing with the girls.

Of course, that would change.:evilgrin:
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 08:30 AM
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12. Same thing happened to me in kindergarden
That nun hated me.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 03:56 PM
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25. Lol!
I wasn't in a Catholic school, thank god.

And I was in kindergarten many years before you,; very discouraging that crap is/was still happening.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 11:54 PM
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26. I went to a really conservative Catholic School
My sister went to a different Catholic school (we moved) and they didn't do any of that nutty stuff.
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datasuspect Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 05:54 AM
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2. i got in trouble for playing with my weiner all the time
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KG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 09:10 AM
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15. same here - big boys need big toys.
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hobbit709 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 05:56 AM
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3. Toys?
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TZ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 06:37 AM
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4. nope
I loved my Tonka trucks. I was lucky I suppose, I grew up in a pretty liberal environment.
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carlyhippy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 07:35 AM
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5. I had some boy toys
I had a GI Joe doll, cause Ken just wasn't sexy enough for my 10 barbie dolls, poor Ken ended up being the cabana boy when I set up the pool.

I had a BB gun, hotwheels, marbles, remote control cars, along with all the girl toys I had. I guess I played with them equally.

Now, I guess today my boy toys would be more this:


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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 12:15 AM
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31. nice board
mmmmmbeach
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Symarip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 07:44 AM
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6. I didn't really have any toys growing up
I had a box of hand me down lego's and a few stuffed animals. My dad took off on my mom when I was six. When I was around eight or nine, my mom started going to college. So from ages 6 to 15 we were as poor as poor gets. I didn't have cable or new clothes or anything. When I was 11, my dad bought me a used trombone because I had an interest in music.

So yeah. Legos. Stuffed animals. Trombone.
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Rhythm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 07:48 AM
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7. My parents alternated between buying me 'girl' toys and gender-neutral things
I'd exterminate the baby dolls and Barbies pretty quickly. Hated them with a passion.
The "Easy Bake Oven" was buried under a mound of stuffed animals in the back of the closet.

Lincoln Logs, Tinkertoys, and Legos were where i gravitated generally. That, and making my folks play assorted board games; their one attempt at a 'girly' game, "Mystery Date" fell flat.
I also always played sports--softball and basketball--and was pretty good at both.

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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 07:55 AM
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8. I remember Mystery Date!
We called that one guy "the dud".
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 08:06 AM
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9. Never got into trouble.
But I used to love playing with my sister's Barbie Dolls. I used to cut their hair and stuff clothes under their clothes and pretend that they were pregnant. My sister and I are twins, so I would play with her toys and she would play with mine.
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Haole Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 08:07 AM
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10. Oh yeah
I truly felt deprived I could not have a G.I. Joe. Barbies sucked when I was a kid... you couldn't bend their legs. :-(
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Blue Diadem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 08:29 AM
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11. I had a barbie and an easy bake oven. I thought boy's stuff was more fun.
I didn't like Barbies. I mean really what could you do with them other than change their clothes? It was in the '60's so they didn't have many of the accessories that came along in later years. I don't remember ever having a babydoll. My sis always had those and I suspect that's why I didn't.

My Mom used to get upset with my dad for letting me help him with car repairs or house repairs after my brothers were grown. I can hear her saying "She's a girl, she shouldn't be doing that." She also got angry when he showed me how to shoot a BB gun.

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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 08:33 AM
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13. I couldn't say
as I had little interest in toys typically associated with girls.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 09:08 AM
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14. No. I did pay with Barbie dolls and other "girlie" toys, but I also
played with my brother's He-Man and G.I. Joes. I loved playing with his cars and trucks too.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 09:12 AM
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16. no. i played with barbie and worked with the carpenters in the wood cutting shed
no one thought it was particularly odd
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hunter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 10:43 AM
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17. I played with toys that didn't fit my species...
I played tug-of-war-with-the-dog-toy the same way our dogs did: holding the toy in my teeth.
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Rising Phoenix Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 10:44 AM
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18. I didn't get in trouble for it
people just figured it was cause I was the middle child in between two brothers.....People bought me lots of girl toys, but I always had the boy toys too.....I liked to mix them together.....
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 10:47 AM
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19. Once - and it scared teh shit out of me
I was playing in my mom's room and tried on her wig.

I looked in the mirror and was soooo scared because I looked JUST like my mom!

Frozen in shock.. I think I got a hairbrush to the arm and ran out of the room...

:scared:
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yellowcanine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 10:56 AM
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20. I had a doll that I maintained was a boy Amish doll because of the long hair.
My older brothers ruined the scheme, though.
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 11:00 AM
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21. I grew up with three brothers....
I didn't even HAVE a Barbie Doll until
I was 12 and bought it myself with
babysitting money.

My brothers promptly violated her and
left her strung up by her neck, half-
clothed, on the door knob in the livingroom.

So, NO, I never got in trouble for playing
with toys that did not fit my gender.

I frequently got in trouble for wearing
clothes (or NOT wearing clothes...) that
fit my gender.

I HATED wearing dresses, especially the
kinds with crinoline NETTING (SCRATCHY!!!!).

Mother made me wear them to church.
Probably contributed in no small part
to my atheism, now that I think about it!!

:evilgrin:
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Tommy_Carcetti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 11:08 AM
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22. No, but for a while I did beg my parents for My Little Ponies after my older sister got them.
It had nothing really to do with me liking My Little Ponies. Rather, it was basically sibling jealousy. My sister got something and therefore I wanted it too. If it happened to be pastel colored plastic ponies with stars or flowers on their rumps, so be it. She got it, so I wanted it too.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 12:18 PM
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23. No. My parents aren't exactly well-read in parenting advice or gender theory,
but they were smart enough to figure out that action figures weren't going to give me The Gay or something. They also had the good sense to dress me for durability and comfort, not for fashion, and resisted the urge to put me in pink, frilly everything.

I played with a lot of "boy" toys because most of my little friends were boys, and honestly because a lot of those toys were more fun.
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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 01:17 PM
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24. No, I got into to trouble for playing WITH the other gender.
Besides, the only toy I ever got was empty box. My parents said it was G.I. Joe Deserter. x(
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WildEyedLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-14-09 11:58 PM
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27. Nope, my parents bought me NInja Turtles and GI Joes and model fighter planes
I never owned a single doll or Barbie, except for the few random ones well-meaning but misinformed family members bought me. I'm very lucky that my parents just let me be me.
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Reverend_Smitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 11:21 AM
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34. Me too...
it they bought me "girl toys" they know that they would be wasting their money so why not get me what made me happy. I loved my Ninja Turtles!

I grew up relatively well adjusted and didn't even catch "teh gay" or anything :P Though I will say there is less of a social stigma with girls playing with boy's toys than the other way around, and I'm not sure even my parents would have been cool with that
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Jamastiene Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 12:00 AM
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28. Not really. I was lucky in that area.
Edited on Fri May-15-09 12:07 AM by Jamastiene
I was allowed to sit in the yard for hours playing with my GI Joes and my Tonka truck.

They HAD to have had some kind of inkling that I was never going to like "girl" toys. I buried Barbie up to her neck and coated her with honey next to an anthill then sat back and laughed my ass off. Took care of that huzzy once and for all.

I went back to playing with my GI Joes and my Tonka truck. I built a beautiful city then went inside and brought Godzilla out. GI Joe lost the battle, to say the least. And Godzilla rode the Tonka truck off into the sunset...then my mother made me come inside and go to bed. :sulk:

I don't know what became of Barbie after that day, actually. She never made it back inside the house. I was sent to therapy for the "violent urges" not long after that... and no more Barbies were offered to me. :evilgrin:
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 12:02 AM
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29. No, I got in trouble for bullshit charges like "committing" genocide and "crimes" against humanity
I mean, those two are mutually exclusive concepts, right?

Sometimes I don't understand the world.
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Jamastiene Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 12:09 AM
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30. I got pretty good at driving the remote control cars that weren't my favorites
over caps. I weighted them down so they'd make the caps go off. I learned how to use duct tape and the jar of pennies I had saved at a very young age. That was fun. :evilgrin:
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 11:34 AM
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35. I read that too fast...
Crimes against humility.

What would that be????
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 12:23 AM
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32. nah, my parents were pretty cool about stuff like that
in fact we were really encouraged to read and use our imaginations - didn't have a lot of "cool" toys of either gender. A few dolls, cars (matchbox!), kitchenware to play in the dirt - that sort of thing.
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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 01:33 PM
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36. I made my sisters barbie do the Ken doll
:woohoo: :rofl: :hi: :hug: :loveya:
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Tektonik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 02:24 PM
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37. I had mostly boy toys and nerd toys, BUT
I HAD to have a Cabbage Patch doll.

I mostly played with video games, messed with my globe (pretending I was from Australia, etc.), read encyclopedias and almanacs, and Ninja Turtles.
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MorningGlow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 03:17 PM
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38. Yeah, in kindergarten
I usually played with "girl" toys but I had a couple of Tonka trucks and a Big Wheel--my parents weren't concerned that they would cause gender issues. But when I entered kindergarten, I wanted to play with the STP cars that the boys were racing (the long, skinny drag-race-looking cars that had a plastic strip you'd shove in and then yank out to get the wheels spinning). But they told me I couldn't play cars them because I was a girl. They told me I had to go play with dolls. Bastids.

I complained to the kindergarten teacher, and she told me I could play with whatever toys I wanted, but I didn't feel like going back to the blockheads and asserting myself. So I remember I went off to play with a dollhouse in the corner and snurfled self-pityingly for a while.
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-15-09 10:27 PM
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39. We played football, soccer and baseball (with a giant plastic lime green bat) when
I was a kid. The girls were expected to participate equally. Played with dolls with my friends and I liked barbies late into my teens. I liked playing with the long hair on them since my hair was short till I was 13.
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