Is internet sex cheating

[Catch22Dem]

Suppose your SO engages in intimate chats with people on the internet. Suppose this includes message boards, e-mail, and instant messages. Do you consider this appropriate?

[bigwillq]

1. Healthy for the ego n/t

[Cuban_Liberal]

2. Doesn't bother me a bit.

It can be REALLY fun if you have a webcam. :evilgrin:

[Catch22Dem]

3. Wow, it's a dead heat! (n/t)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. not cheating when i do it

is cheating when she does it.


its that type of cheating...its kinda icky if your partner is at it..kinda sexy if you are........

[arcane1]

9. hehe

I'm glad men aren't the only ones with that standard :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. i have masculine standards

you do know what a women with a mans moral standard is called right?

[arcane1]

14. what I call them, and what others may, are probably quite different..

my minds conjures up words like "fun" :evilgrin:

I imagine there are many who would apply a double-standard to this particular standard, and use words that are not as nice-sounding... and of course apply only to women

[mopinko]

5. looking, no, chatting, yes

[Robb]

6. If you have any kind of relationship

that you wouldn't tell your SO about because of a fear they might think it was cheating...well, then, that's cheating. :)

[Exultant Democracy]

25. Oh my god, I am not going to be able to get used to this

you as a moderator is some trippy shit. The little moderator shadow coupled with your avatar is just too much.

[camero]

7. Wait a minute

You mean I can post my nekkid pics? :D

[Catch22Dem]

8. By all means, feel free

Far be it for me to judge...without seeing you nekkid first. :) LOL

[DarkPhenyx]

10. You would have to ask your SO.

Some will say yes, other will say no. Some will say "can I join you two?"

[VelmaD]

17. I'll take what's behind...

door number 3 please. :-)

[Sandpiper]

11. I guess it depends on your POV

If it's something that you would want to hide from your SO, then yes, it's cheating.

[Padraig18]

13. Nah.

It's only when it becomes 'in real life' that it's cheating. My ego's not so fragile as to be destroyed by an orgasm and a chat program...:)

[GoddessOfGuinness]

15. Is masturbating while looking at porn cheating?

Some think so, others don't.

Clearly those are questions that should be addressed by couples early on in a relationship.

[nuxvomica]

16. It's not just cheating

It's cheating at cheating!

[populistmom]

18. LOL!

[HamstersFromHell]

28. That reminds me....

I once got a bit involved with someone I met online on a game site.

She "died" the day before we were to meet face to face. Everything just didn't add up once I really started looking at it, so I did some investigating.

Turned out she'd "died" on someone else about 6 months before I met her, using another screen name. Problem was, the guy she was "seeing" never asked questions, and what I found out really embarassed him.

Seems he was "seeing her" under one screen name online. She suspected *him* of "cheating" (How can you cheat if you've never met in person anyway?), so she made another screen name and came onto him using the new name...and sure enough, he started seeing her behind the "other's" back. I'd say you just aren't living right when the woman you're cheating on and the one you're cheating with are one and the same.

:evilgrin:

[regnaD kciN]

29. Uh-oh!

I'd say you just aren't living right when the woman you're cheating on and the one you're cheating with are one and the same.

I fear we're about to be hit with another recurrance of "The Pina Colada Song"...

:scared:

[populistmom]

19. Yes, probably for most of us

I mean if you can't tell your partner and engage in this, it probably is, at least on an emotional level, but if that's all it stays, there's no risk at least regarding STD's, pregnancy, etc. I don't think this happens in healthy, happy relationships.
If it's something your partner knows about and is okay with, that's something else, but the hidden stuff should cause the person doing it to re-evaluate and look and why they are doing it and what's missing to cause them to get to that point and either try to improve it so it doesn't happen again or do what you can to get out if it can't be improved.

[SheWhoMustBeObeyed]

20. As long as your primary relationship is solid and you're open about it, no

I agree with those who say if you can't tell your SO about it, then something's wrong.

[BringEmOn]

21. Wear a party hat!

[HamstersFromHell]

23. Do you have to have a positively charged towel...

...to clean up all the electrons afterward?

Likewise, would being on the net via dial-up help with cases of premature ejaculation?

Inquiring minds want to know...

[MurikanDemocrat]

22. Yes

[Zinfandel]

24. Living out ones fantasies...something must be lacking, why feel threatened

If it's going to happen...it will, it's not the internet where the problem lies.

Maybe it's best in the long run.

[maveric]

26. It killed my 18 year marraige. Yes its cheating.

We got a computer in 95 and went on Compuserve. My ex found chat rooms and became addicted, spending 12 hours a day in them. Then she'd have her "friends", all men BTW, call the house. She claimed it was innocent and that they were just "friends".I put a stop to that so she had these "friends" call her at work where she was warned and written for taking too many personal calls at work. This evolved into an online love affair and she left me and the 3 kids and moved to North bay Ontario (we live in San Diego), where she subsequently divorced me and married this guy who turned out to be a wife beating drunk who abused her daily.
Now, my boss, a young mother of 3, is having an online affair and her family life is hell. Duhhh!!

[ScreamingMeemie]

33. maveric, how awful for you. This really hits at how devastating

what some think is innocent flirtation actually can be. My hugs to you. Thank goodness your kids have you!

Hugs,Laura

[BiggJawn]

34. Same story here.

Freakin' AOL. First it was "M4F" and "Ask a Man anything" chatrooms, then the "F4F" and "Bi-Curious" rooms.
Then the trips, then the ultimatum: "Get your kid and your SHIT out of MY house or I'm calling the Sheriff!" and then the way she just "happened" to "leave out" her sex toys and books on Lesbianism when I came over to get the rest of my stuff...

Remember, Mav, "the best revenge is Living Well."
Hope you and the kids are doing OK.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

36. i feel bad for you

"Lesbianism" : it isnt really very respectful to lesbians.

[Marius]

27. Well...it's the internet.

It's a keyboard and a bunch of other semi-complicated stuff. It's not actual physical encounters with other humans. So in my opinion, it's not cheating.

[Piperay]

30. The Internet cheating often

leads to real life sex cheating. I know because I was a victim of it when my BFs on-line chatting to other women lead to him meeting one and having a full-fledged affair. :argh: :-(

[BiggJawn]

31. She'd spend all night "jilling off" then come to bed at 4AM...

...expecting me to finish the job some guy or gal in a chat room started.
First coupla times it was fun, but EVERY night? Christ, I needed SOME sleep, why couldn't she get off-line at 11 and we could both get a good night's sleep afterwards.

Then there was the "meetings" in Chicago...("Hair Show" my ass...)

It's cheating if it's interactive with a live person on the other end. Motel, telephone, internet, i don't see any difference.

If your just slapping-off to pictures of somebody you'll never meet, I don't see a lot wrong with that.

[Misinformed01]

32. Not only cheating, but disgusting

Cyber relationships come with a built in excuse--"it's not real because I can't touch the other person," or the even better one..."you are jealous of a computer."

Bullshit.

Intimate interaction with another person is cheating on a relationship....if a person didn't need what the person on the other end of the phone line was giving them, then what the hell are they doing there?

[geniph]

35. If they hide it, and lie about it, yes

if you know about it, and you're okay with it, no. It's only cheating when deception and dishonesty are involved.