People love to raise other people's children!

[Shell Beau]

:eyes:

My M-I-L always tells me what I need to do with Bella. It gets old after a while. At first I just smiled and was glad to hear others take on things, but now it has gotten so damn old. She is always telling me "well this is how 'husband's sis' did it. This is the best way. You should do this..." AHHHAHHHAHH!!! STFU already.

[XemaSab]

1. If you don't breastfeed you're an unfit mother

and your baby should be taken away. :P

[Shell Beau]

2. When I did quit breastfeeding, my grandmother said "what a shame".

:eyes:

She is not the sweet old lady type of grandma! I love her to death, but she has an evil streak!

[MorningGlow]

3. Aww

:hug:

I know just how you feel. And I hate to say it, but she isn't going to stop anytime soon. My MIL is in Florida and doesn't really have much to do with MG Jr., but my mom and aunt make up for it. :eyes: The latest is I let him play too many video games. And I don't force him to keep socks and shoes on in the house. (What?) STFU indeed!

[Shell Beau]

4. No socks and shoes in the house? What a shame?

Terrible mom you are!!!

:P

Seriously, I will make note to NOT do that EVER! It is aggravating. Like I am not doing a good job or something! I feel like I am doing an excellent job. She also said once that I don't let Bella cry and that will carry on when she gets older. I need to let her sit and just cry sometimes. Uh, not gonna happen. If she is upset, I am going to comfort her.

[MorningGlow]

6. Ohhh the crying thing--I hate that!

I don't understand the reasoning behind that. We never "let" Jr. cry, and he's turned out very even-tempered. He's not a whiner in the LEAST. The advice that pissed me off was when the pediatrician said we should lock Jr. in his room with one of those childproof doorknob thingies (the ones that spin around unless you squeeze them) to get him to stay in his bed. Yeah, I'm gonna let my kid scream and cry in a locked room, alone, and he'll give up and go to sleep on his own. Riiiight.

Anyway, you ARE doing an excellent job--judging from your pics, you've got one happy kid, and that's all that matters! :applause:

[Shell Beau]

7. Wow! His doc said to lock him up?

:wtf:

That is messed up!!

And thanks! :) She is a happy baby and that makes me feel that I must be doing something right. Really I should say "we" because my husband is an awesome dad.

[MorningGlow]

12. We're looking around for a new pediatrician

She's very "tough love" which bugs me sometimes. And the whole group is very hands-off when it comes to treating illnesses, which is pretty good, but sometimes they're TOO hands-off--I don't think they investigate possible problems until the kid's limp with some sort of plague or other.

[Shell Beau]

13. I really lucked up with our pediatrician.

I couldn't ask for a better doctor. He has 5 kids of his own which may help!

[MorningGlow]

14. That's what freaks me out--this chick has three of her own!

Is this the way she's raising hers? If so, YIKES.

[Shell Beau]

16. Like maybe she locked her kids in their rooms?

That is wild to me. I have never heard of that one.

[MsKandice01]

5. Get used to it...

My son is almost 6 and my mom still nags me about my child rearing...not quite as much as she did when he was a newborn, but it's still just as annoying. My latest scolding was because I dared send him outside without putting a t-shirt on under his clothes. Dude, we live in California!

[Shell Beau]

8. Haha!! My husband's grandma told me that if I took Bella out without

being properly clothed, she would "catch" the colic. Yeah, you can't catch colic. :rofl: I guess they mean well but it pisses me off. I just hope I keep my cool about it.

[Lyric]

20. God, my Mom drove me CRAZY with the clothes thing.

LyricKid was born on the 31st of May in VIRGINIA--not exactly a cold part of the country. My Mom just INSISTED that he needed a onesie on under a full set of clothes, plus a blanket covering his carrier whenever we went out. I told her there was no fucking WAY I was going to do that--after the first week or two, babies have the same temperature comfort-zone needs that *we* do. If WE are too hot to be wearing two layers of clothes plus a blanket, then the BABY is too hot for that too.

For most of his first four months of life, we hardly put clothes on the baby at all! If he wore anything, he was just in a light cotton onesie, with the exception of the handful of times we took him "out," in which case he got a one-piece, short-sleeved, short-legged jumper with no onesie underneath. Drove my Mom crazy, but he was cool and comfy and happy.

:hi:

[Shell Beau]

23. You mean he didn't freeze to death? I am shocked!

I know my baby. She is hot natured. She sweats in her carseat so I try to keep her in cool clothes. Arrggghhh! It is frustrating.

My mom does it from time to time. Not as much and not as in your face. I guess it doesn't bother me as much coming from her because she is my mom and we are super close. I try to remember that my MIL means well.

I email pics all of the time. Well now I need to send them in email through Shutter-fly because that is what his sister does. Tough titty! I will email them the way that I choose to. She can still see them just as easy and she doesn't have to pay for them. If she wants to upload them to shutter-fly, then fine. Go for it.

[skygazer]

9. Mostly they just want to feel involved

That's what I think.

My mother-in-law drove me batty when my girls were young and I resented it. But it dawned on me slowly that she was just trying to find her role in my kids' lives, and trying to feel like a useful and valuable resource.

It still drove me nuts but I was able to hide it better. :P

[Shell Beau]

10. I try my best to just smile and nod.

See, my husband's sis had a baby about a year before Bella was born. So, naturally, his mom thinks I should do everything that his sister did. Use the same bottles, diapers, wipes, formula, etc.

She has also started butting into our finances. I will draw the line there if she keeps it up.

[Left Is Write]

11. I would love to say STFU sometimes.

My MIL told my husband she's concerned about how I am "indoctrinating" the kids with my liberal political beliefs.

[Shell Beau]

15. Oh my! That is a classic one!

I feel it will get pretty hot when I start hearing that. My husband's grandma's boyfriend (got that? ha) still uses the "n" word. If he EVER says it in front of Bella then it will be ON!!! I will educate her about that my way. He is a radical racist really. I avoid him at ALL costs, but sometimes at Christmas and Thanksgiving it is inevitable. I have somehow managed to keep my cool around him by not being in the same room as he. BUT, it will get ugly if he is still around when Bella can repeat what she hears. I WILL NOT have that.

[Left Is Write]

17. I was really upset when I heard what she had said.

There were some other remarks, derogatory remarks about things I believe in, and it was a very big "ouch" moment for me.

And yes, I am passing along my values and beliefs to my children, just like every other parent does.

[Shell Beau]

18. Of course.

My husband's mom raised him differently that I would ever raise my child. He turned out perfect. So did his sister really. But, I can't imagine spanking all my kids for doing something because the real culprit doesn't speak up. Yes! They all got spanked when another did something wrong if they didn't own up to it. That ain't happening in my house. That is cruel. Plus, she never let them toddle around. She told me they never had to child proof their house because they knew not to touch stuff. They got popped when they did. HELLO! What about letting a toddler explore? That is what they need to do.

I can see this becoming an issue if she keeps it up. And if I ever see her pop Bella, well she better watch the f**k out.

[Iggo]

19. There've been billions and billions of moms.

And most of 'em figger it out on their own and do okay.

I don't worry about raising OP kids.

[Shell Beau]

24. If only others thought that way.

I have made note to myself to not try and tell other people what they need to do. If they ask, fine.

[Gormy Cuss]

21. It's obvious from the photos that you've posted here that you're an unfit mother.

Really, who would teach a baby to flip the bird?
:D

[Shell Beau]

22. I gotta prepare her for GD! I mean come on!

:P