Does a beautiful woman usually need to be told that she's beautiful?

[MrScorpio]

Yes or no. And please discuss if this is a good thing or not.

[OmahaBlueDog]

1. She needs to be told and told often

..and by someone who knows how

Buying her jewelry wouldn't hurt either.

Note to Ava: If a man who looks like he's 30 offers to buy you a drink and tells you your beautiful, hold out for jewelry.

[Deja Q]

2. Like a tongue ring?

I can think of other rings too, but I reeeeeeeeeeeeally don't want to go there right now...

:yoiks:

[OmahaBlueDog]

3. I have a friend who works for TSA

I've heard some interesting metal detector stories....but I'm getting away from the theme of the thread.

[AlCzervik]

4. Is this a problem for beautiful women, some type of shortage of people telling them

how beautiful they are?

Declare a general strike over it, maybe.

[Lucian]

7. My thoughts exactly.

[AlCzervik]

10. Please, won't someone think of the beautiful women?

:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

[flvegan]

5. Every beautiful woman I see, I tell her. Even if she's a stranger.

I have the pepper spray burns and taser marks to prove it.

[Bucky]

6. This is just one of many valid strategies for tricking her into picking up the tab

I can't tell you how many of my evenings have ended on the fateful words,
"My God, woman, you are so beautiful. Uh-oh, where's my wallet?"

It's practically an aphrodisiac.

[Oeditpus Rex]

8. She might not need to be told, generically

But she might appreciate hearing it from her man, or her woman.

Said man or woman should be compelled to oblige, as in such cases the compliment really isn't on her physical appearance.

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

9. Not on a daily basis

being stared at everywhere you go is probably not fun and they get the picture I guess.

[PaddyBlueEyes]

11. Mine doesnt....

But I still tell her everyday.

[noamnety]

12. Nope.

If she's not your partner, it's not your place to comment on her body at all, one way or another to begin with.

If she is your partner, it's nice to let her know the things you appreciate about her - and it's probably a more meaningful relationship if those things aren't superficial.

[Xipe Totec]

13. Beautiful women leave me speechless

which is a major problem most of the time.

[MrSlayer]

14. Sure, women like being complimented.

Whether or not it's a good thing is kind of irrelevant.

[Angleae]

15. Also, the answer to "Do I look fat in this?" is always NO.

Unless you intend to piss her off for the rest of the day/week/month/year.

[XemaSab]

16. I was pretty cute when I was younger

The only two guys who ever said I was good looking were nasty old trolls who were trying to get in my pants. And one of them had previously said I wasn't that hot, and he hooked up with my friend.

[Oeditpus Rex]

17. When you were younger?

Unless you went to the ugly parlor in the past week or so, you're pretty cute now. :shrug:

[XemaSab]

24. Thanks

;)

[bluesbassman]

18. Just the insecure ones,

and they're way too much maintenance.

[Kat45]

19. There are some beautiful women who don't know they are beautiful.

Some didn't get compliments as they were growing up; some went through awkward stages before becoming beautiful. Some were never part of the popular crowd and were therefore never considered one of the beautiful ones. Some may have never had a boyfriend who told her she was beautiful. Many women have self-esteem problems, issues with their looks, especially as they see all these drop dead gorgeous celebrities as presented in airbrushed, filtered magazine layouts. Women often rate their own looks lower than they really are. Yes, there are some beautiful women who don't know they are beautiful. It happens.

I don't consider myself beautiful, but when I was in college I apparently had "a good body" that interested a lot of the men I knew. One day a friend of mine told me that she heard a guy we knew saying that I had a great body but acted like I didn't even know it. You know what? I didn't (know it). I was shy, not part of the popular clique in high school, had never had a boyfriend, had never been complimented on my looks by anybody but my mother's old lady friends. Why would I have known?

[GreenPartyVoter]

20. I was told I was beautiful when I was younger. I never really believed it, but it was still nice to

hear it. :)

[Haole Girl]

21. It never hurts, I think, to tell a woman she's beautiful

Of course, I can't speak on authority. Only as a woman. Then again, some women may become vain if they are told too often... again, I'm no authority. Oh, I have no idea! Thanks for confusing me! lol

[leftofthedial]

22. all women deserve to be told that they are beautiful

except maybe Babs bush and Condi Rice.

Lynne Cheney too.

And that giant thing that worked for king george.

I'm not including the Coultergeist in the "woman" category.

[Critters2]

23. I know I do!

:)

[stewartcolbert08]

25. Unless she is conceited!

[Skittles]

26. no, don't feed the egos of those stuck-up be-yatches

:7

[LeftyMom]

27. Why not tell her that she's smart, or you admire her principles, or that she's got a lovely voice?

As a society we have an unhealthy obsession with looks, and it's especially unfair to women. While all people benefit from honest, sincere compliments, women and girls tend to receive many more about their appearance than their other attributes, where men and boys tend to be complimented for what they do.

[MrScorpio]

29. Your post is getting to the core of what I wanted to have discussed in this thread

I was watching a few minutes of celebrity plastic surgeries, where so many women who were very beautiful as they were, went under the knife and now most of them look like freaks.

Didn't anyone ever tell them that they were beautiful as they were? Would that have changed their decision to inflate their breasts to the size of gunboats and the size of their lips to balloons? Isn't the stone face making look of Botox a new cultural obsession?

I was shocked by commenter after commenter saying that these unnatural looking "improvements" made these women look "better".

Look at Nikki Cox and tell me, does she look "better"



I'm wondering if this obsession on looks in this country, where even beautiful women aren't even beautiful enough, is a form of insanity.

[rockymountaindem]

30. Voice? Really?

I've always found a woman's voice to be important to me. If I think one of the girls I know has a nice voice I've always been happy to point that out. I never thought they really cared one way or another if I said it, but maybe they did :shrug:

[LeftyMom]

31. Maybe it's because I do a lot of public speaking (and a little singing)

but personally I'd much rather be complimented on my voice than my appearance. If nothing else, it's generally a much more sincere compliment, not a socially expected comment or step 3 on some no-fail 10 step list to getting laid.

[MrScorpio]

32. I really think that America's obsession with plastic surgery...

Speaks to the fact that we don't give enough credit to whom we are as human beings

He development of our minds and talents

What we can do to help the lives of other people and our communities

And much stronger still, if we recognize the humanity of other people on this planet

None of this stuff is happening if we're constantly obsessed with the natural progression of our own looks

[SeattleGirl]

34. Spot on, LM!

While I don't think there's anything wrong with noticing a person's looks (I think we all do that to one degree or another), to make a person's looks their main value is wrong.

This is especially true where women are concerned. Seems we are always too fat, too skinny, too short, too tall, too scared, too bold, too SOMETHING.

I would posit that we are all just different, and that we each have something of value to add to this world.

Too bad there are so many people for whom looks (and/or money) are the bottom line measurement of a person's value.

[LostInAnomie]

28. Nope. Tell her she looks like crap.

Treat 'em like dirt and they'll stick to you like mud. :hide:

[Dogmudgeon]

33. She needs to be teased

Too many men have already kissed her ass when what she really wants is a spanking.

(That, of course, is in the metaphorical sense.)

Teasing is a most appropriate form of social intercourse. I have yet to meet a woman who so much as respects a man who supplicates at her feet. Teasing also tells her that the man respects her. It's socially intimate peer behavior. Women who have a need to be treated like royalty usually have some big problems (this is also true of men).

"Yeah, yeah, I know, I'm wonderful. But I want to hang out with someone who isn't afraid of me."

What explains the allure of Julia Roberts, Goldie Hawn, Sandra Bullock, Lauren Bacall, Shirley Maclaine, Katee Sackhoff, Mary Lynn Rajskub, Amanda Tapping? They're your best friends' little sisters. Then they grow up.

--d!

[Bryn]

35. I've been called beautiful all of my life

by family, friends, strangers to the point I'd be embarrassed and shy too often that I wanted it to stop. I am now 58, thought it should stop, but no, recently I was at liquor store buying wine for Mom for her dementia as advised by her doctor when a new cashier, a young girl, came out, saying..."I love your hair. You're so pretty!" But what I like the best...an attorney who showed up at court because Ford company was suing me for "not paying for repossessed car" which happened in 1995, he was their attorney. I showed him papers that I did pay Ford through Consumer Credit Counseling. He said to me.."Ford is stupid!" like he was pissed. Then he said to me "You have a beautiful soul." :) Of course, he let me get off. I believe that true beauty comes out shining from within. I would hate to be beautiful yet so shallow and empty. It's not everything.

Of course, it's important for someone to tell her/his partner that she's beautiful. Always!

[Why Syzygy]

36. Beauty isn't just skin deep. It's a soul thing. Tell her. nt

[Heidi]

37. "Need"????? (nt)

[travelingtypist]

38. I had horrible teeth until I was 42.

I felt horrible about the way I looked. Then I got new
teeth. Men especially tell me all the time by the way
they treat me -- smile, flirt, check me out, do nice things
for me -- that I'm attractive. Only a horribly insecure
beautiful woman doesn't already know how her looks affect
people.

[DemBones DemBones]

39. Yes, because there's a lot of insecurity that comes with beauty.

A beautiful woman knows she's liked for her looks so she's insecure about whether guys like her for herself at all, and there are a lot of jerks who pick on beautiful women, apparently because they think they couldn't get one to go out with them (and with that attitude, they couldn't). It's because of them that beautiful women need to hear that they're beautiful. Everyone needs to be complimented on their looks.

[SKKY]

40. Doesn't everyone like to receive complements ever so often?

[Sky Masterson]

41. Define beautiful

:)

[MrScorpio]

42. I personally go with the age old definition that it's in the eye of the beholder

But today it seems that a woman's beauty is underachieved unless some kind of surgical cosmetic procedure is involved.

[Sky Masterson]

43. I don't think she needs to be told everyday.

But a few times a week is appropriate.
When I tell a woman that she is beautiful I don't just tell them to make them feel good.
I do it because it makes me feel good.
Hell I tell some of my best female friends that they are beautiful quite often.

[miss_american_pie]

44. Depends on the motivation behind it

I would think.

[Sky Masterson]

45. Have I told you how beautiful you are in the last twenty minutes? :o)

:P :hi: :loveya:

[miss_american_pie]

46. No you did not

And thank you.

:hug:

[Sky Masterson]

47. You are welcome my friend.

:) :hug: