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LuckyTheDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 11:38 PM
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Facebook etiquette: Is this a good sign?
I interviewed for a job and was promised a follow-up interview. The follow-up has not yet been scheduled. But the guy I interviewed with now wants to be my Facebook "friend."

Is that a good sign, a bad sign or neutral?
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 11:52 PM
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1. He either wants to get a better feel of you on a personal level...or just thought you seemed nice.
Those are the two possibilities that come to mind.
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LuckyTheDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:37 AM
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12. Turns out we have friends in common
So I probably turned up on his "people you may know" list.
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 07:09 AM
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19. And he didn't think you were a total dickhead, so he added you.
:P
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rockymountaindem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 12:15 AM
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2. I don't know, but if you've been around any cardboard cutouts lately
now would be a good time to edit your profile.
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:32 AM
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8. grople grople!
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T_i_B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:42 AM
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16. Yep that's the worry
...that prospective employers may be using Facebook to screen applicants. I'd leave off accepting the friend request until you know if you have the job or not.
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petronius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 12:20 AM
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3. It sounds to me like a sorta bad sign - there is a serious lack of professionalism
at the place you interviewed. </stick-up-ass>
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:22 AM
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4. I must be weird...if I were job-hunting, the first thing I would do is
close out my Facebook. I guess it all depends on the field you work. I think it is a test of some sort. :shrug:

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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:32 AM
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7. Close out or set security levels to maximum?
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LuckyTheDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:35 AM
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11. For what purpose?
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 10:07 AM
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20. Are there levels over there at Facebook? For Real?
You can sell me that and I would buy it. I have never been over there. I was on MySpace for about 2 minutes (more like 2 weeks). I didn't really care for it and I figure Facebook to be more of the same. Isn't it more of a social networking type of place? Seems like I have read articles where people have been exposed (?! ;) doing things that would not be considered professional and would make a potential employer question the applicant's judgment.

I went to five different high schools in four different states so, I am kind of interested in this type of thing but, I am hesitant because of the spam MySpace dumped in my email and it was not the easiest place to maneuver.
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:02 PM
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21. Yes. You can make it so that you are unsearchable and only visible to friends.
Of course, if you post on someone's board, you will be visible, but the person won't even be able to try to friend you.
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Lil Missy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:29 AM
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5. EXTREMELY unprofessional, and a very bad sign.
If that were me, I'd contact their HR department.
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LuckyTheDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:33 AM
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10. Wouldn't that be an overreaction?
Why should I contact HR?
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Lil Missy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:38 AM
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13. Because it suggests an abuse of power situation. "Friend me if you want the job"
Per chance, are you gay? And is he?

Just smells to high heaven to me.
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LuckyTheDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:44 AM
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17. I am married with a kid and not gay
He also is married and has at least one kid. While that does not necessarily mean "not gay," I do not think the guy is gay.
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Lil Missy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:59 AM
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18. It's your call. Just seems a bit creepy to me.
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:31 AM
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6. He wants to spy on you. You should have gone invisible/unsearchable before seeking jobs
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LuckyTheDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:33 AM
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9. It's not like I post nude pix of myself
My Facebook page is pretty tame.
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:38 AM
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14. I understand. My page is pretty tame too. In fact, I'm trying to make it into a kind of resume
but here is the thing. You gotta watch what goes out over the live feed. Some of my friends have it so that whenever they post a comment on a picture or a video, it broadcasts that to every one of their friends. An offshoot of this is that I have seen pictures of many of my coworkers and several superiors celebrating halloween, birthdays, etc with some pretty boozy pics. I've also seen people I don't know in stupors because if person X is my friend and comments on person Y's picture, I suddenly see the picture and comment.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-10-08 02:39 AM
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15. This is my thought too...
They can't see your facebook without being your friend, right?
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