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You're right. If they've only been together for a year, and they haven't had sex for the last six months, then there is definitely a problem that is not being addressed. I think in most relationships, gay or otherwise, people f*ck like rabbits when they first get together. You're just so infatuated by the other person and by the "newness" of the relationship that you can't keep your hands off one another. If that intensity has already faded for Jack, then it may be that he's not being completely honest about his feelings.
Also, affection that you show to your partner should come naturally to you, you can't do it because it is expected by your partner. Jack should kiss Greg because he wants to and because it is comfortable for him. It doesn't seem to me that Jack's libido is lacking if he is checking out other guys. If he didn't want to have sex at all, with anyone, then that may be one thing. But if he is withdrawing sexually from Greg, when his sex drive is otherwise normal, then that is not a good sign.
This is just a hunch, but if Jack is attracted to men and just recently started having sex with them, then it could be that Jack is still in his "sowing my wild oats" stage. If so, then a relationship with Greg may not be what he really wants, and he may be afraid to admit it for fear of hurting Greg.
Based on the limited amount of information that I have on this situation that you provided in your OP, I think all signs are pointing to trouble here. I certainly don't think they should move in together until they get these issues worked out.
I'm no relationship expert, but I have been in a gay relationship (or three). I hope this helps. :hi:
And FYI, it's not just straight guys that are flaky about returning phone calls. I admittedly have this problem also, and it regularly pisses off my female friends. :)
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