I am so nervous.

[coloradodem2005]

I have never had good luck with women. Now I have been talking to this girl online. Now we are talking about meeting up face to face. I am going to call her tonight. She knows that I don't have a job.

Speaking of which, I need to start looking again. I have been really disheartened. Main reason why I am nervous is because

(a) I am still recovering from last year which was a nightmare.

(b) I have bad luck with women.

[absyntheNsugar]

1. Chin up and act confident

Women focus on confidence - so projecting that confidence can go a long way!

[aldian159]

2. Relax

if your nervous it will show. Be confident. If you are sure of yourself everything will fall into place.

[brainshrub]

3. Does this woman live in the same area-code as you?

[NewHampster]

4. You've already won half the battle

My experience only.

Women love honesty and humility more than anything so be as honest with her as you are with us.

Chances are she is just as nervous if not more.

The meek always get the best looking babe.

[coloradodem2005]

7. Thanks.

[Bertha Venation]

5. She knows you don't have a job and she's going to meet you

face to face. I'd say that's a great sign as to how she'll react to you, jobless or not.

Buck up, honey. It will be good. Be confident and don't let last year color today.

And quit saying "I have bad luck with women." The more you repeat it the more you MAKE it to be true. Starting today, you do well with women!!

[coloradodem2005]

6. Thanks.

[mitchtv]

8. luck has nothing to do with it

Be your lovable self

[ChiefHappyButt]

9. Hey! Taking chances is what it's all about.

I hope it works out. At least, you've already discussed online your various interests, and can carry that forward.

[hippiechick]

10. Have you exchanged photos ?

My experience with online dating (which is more than I care to admit) has mostly been negative because people put forth the best parts of their personalities and sort of 'forget to mention' the bad ... ie,
I could say that I'm 5'9, redheaded, 38DD ... and a guy is thinkin' wooo yeah ... but not tell you that I'm committment phobic, bite my nails, have a kid, and weigh 190 ... to embellish the good and downplay the not-so-good which once you actually meet, cannot be hidden.

Make sure you know what you're getting into, be safe, and good luck.

:hippie:

[coloradodem2005]

11. I posted my picture and saw hers.

[stopbush]

12. My suggestion: re-watch the Seinfeld episode where George

decides to do the opposite of everything he would normally do. As I recall, he not only got the girl, he ended up with a big job with the Yankees.

You'll be fine. Hell, you've already got the "no job" part down of the Costanza Gambit. Is there any chance you could move in with your parents before the meet-up? :)

[coloradodem2005]

13. I already live with my parents.

Just so you know, I am one of those recent college graduates who could not find a job.

Funny analogy, but I think that I am a lot better looking than George Costanza. I am not as big a loser as he is either. FYI, I will not pose for pictures in my underwear either, like he did.


Other than my misfortune with jobs and living with parents, I am nothing like George.

Damn Bush economy sucks!!!!

[stopbush]

14. Yep, bush economy sucks.

I'm out of work for 2.5 years...and I don't have the option of moving in with my parents!

[ScreamingMeemie]

15. Today is the day your luck changes. You have taken this slow. You

"know" this girl from talking to her online and on the phone. It's going to be just fine, whatever happens!

I believe in you, now believe in yourself!

Hugs and good luck,
Laura

[camero]

16. We all get nervous. It's a learning process

The fact that she still wants to meet knowing you're out of work says quite alot about her. In a good way.

[flamingyouth]

17. You've decided to meet her, and...

You're talking about it here. I'd say you're very brave already. You've made all of the important first steps. I have a good feeling about this. I know I would be nervous in your position too, but you already seem to have a good relationship with her, so go for it and have fun!

PS - I never had good luck with men either until I met my husband. In fact, my dating life could easily qualify as completely disastrous, but hopefully there will be a funny novel in it some day!
:hi:

[coloradodem2005]

18. Mi dating life has been nonexistant and I am 24.