this has to be some bizarro alternate universe

[malta blue]

Are you fucking kidding me???? :nuke::nuke::nuke:

Now he says he is not leaving until tuesday because that is when the internet connection will be established at his new place and he has to be online on monday. I told him there are plenty of wifi locations and he can set up shop with his laptop but he is not backing down - that is is before the 1st and so I am being unreasonable.

:wtf:

I reminded him that when one tells their spouse that they would like a divorce, one should have one's SHIT TOGETHER. This is not some half-assed thing here, we are talking about the dissolution of our marriage.

Who the hell does he think he is???

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

[UndertheOcean]

1. Call the police , he's playing with you it seems

[malta blue]

2. I'll be calling my brother and my cousins soon

This has to stop!

[Fran Kubelik]

3. I'm sorry

:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

4. jesus h. christ on a raft

what a prick :nuke:

I am so sorry. You're in my thoughts.

[malta blue]

5. just make him go away

:mad::nuke::mad:

He tried to cook me dinner again - :wtf: he is really delusional. Does he think we will be exchanging christmas cards or something? :banghead:

[ThomCat]

6. Damn.

:(

:hug:

[malta blue]

8. thank you dear friend...

:hug:

How are you these days?

[ThomCat]

15. I'm doing okay.

I was given a gift of a manual wheelchair. A friend of a friend's grandmother used to use it, but passed away. The family was looking to give it away. So it found its way to me free of charge. It's an expensive model too. So now I need to find out more about my patron so I can remember her through this gift of her wheelchair.

Now when friends want to go somewhere I have a chair that can be tossed into someone's trunk. :)

The Wizard Rock Festival was yesterday. It was Awesome. We sold out before we even opened the door because there was a line there waiting for us hours before the doors opened. The music was awesome.

How are you doing? :hug: :loveya:

[malta blue]

16. that is great about the chair!!!!

I am doing okay, no thanks to mr jerkyboy, but I will get through this - and you will come visit again soon :loveya:

[TZ]

7. Wow.

Maybe he regrets his decision..he really seems like he's making excuses now. I'm sorry you are going through this..:hug:

[malta blue]

10. too effing bad.

Once I told my kid, there was no turning back and he knew that. He actually grinned while he told me it was tuesday. I can't stand this motherfucker.

[Orrex]

9. Call your internet provider and ask them to disable your service for a week.

Tell them that you're going out of town, and you don't want your house-sitter using your service.

Sure, you'll be offline during that time, but so will he.

[malta blue]

11. ooohhh....that's a good one....

I wonder if they would charge me.....

[mwooldri]

22. If it's RoadCrawler...

... then just take the cable modem back to the office, mumbling like "i'm switching to DSL". They'll cut service that day and they'll stop charging you. Then call back a few days later say "DSL is lame, can I have my RoadCrawler back?" You'll probably have to wait for someone to show up and plug it in for you but that's one way of doing it but it is extreme extreme extreme!

[raccoon]

27. Great idea.

But then I wonder if this is just a dumbass excuse on his part.

Best wishes to you. :hug:

[mcctatas]

12. Tell him it will be mighty hard to access the internet with

10 broken fingers and two black eyes so in the interest of keeping it simple he should get the fuck out!

[Orrex]

13. Just break his dominant hand. That's the one he's probably using...

[mcctatas]

17. I disagree...

break them both, it'll make you feel better;)

[malta blue]

14. that's what I am thinking....

I mean really - who pulls this crap? Narcissistic sociopaths? Oh - that's right...I live with a freaking delusional mighty man....

[Texasgal]

18. Tell him to get the fuck out!

You are not his door mat!

What an asshole!

[MilesColtrane]

19. The next time he leaves...

...change all the locks on the doors, and throw any of his stuff remaining out on the lawn.

Maybe he'll take a hint.

[Dogtown]

20. Take a vacation.

To anywhere.

That pinned-down feeling is what he wants from you. You're free. Have a spontaneous adventure until he's out of excuses.

[mikeytherat]

21. Call a locksmith and have all the locks re-keyed. Today.

Don't wait until he's gone and make sure there he has no key. Several months from now, have them all changed again.

mikey_the_rat

[BarenakedLady]

23. I'm sorry you are going through all this.

:hug:

[malta blue]

24. **thank you all**

for all your input.

I am afraid to confront him about it. There, I have said it. I will be fine once he leaves, but as long as he is in the house, I have to be careful. And if he is reading this, then I am glad he knows I am telling the whole freaking world. I have told him that one should not use their size to intimidate. And no, there has never, ever been a violent moment, but is is quite frightening when angered.

[Lars39]

25. Any way he might be reading your online postings?

I agree with the poster who suggested changing the locks, too. I'd go farther...rent a storage unit and move his stuff in it and hand him the key. :hug:

[malta blue]

26. I am sure he is reading my posts on line

and I don't really care. I am the one who got screwed over here. This is all his decision and he needs to get the hell out of my house.

[Midlodemocrat]

29. He is? WONDERFUL!!!

Hey, Mr. Malta Blue. You are the saddest excuse for a human being this side of John McCain. In fact, John McCain is actually a better person than you are you rat faced, dimwitted, moronic waste of bread.

Go dig yourself a hole, preferably near sewer run-off, enter it and never resurface again. You'd be doing the world a favor you fucking douchebag.

[Iggo]

28. Turn off your internet. (n/t)

[malta blue]

30. I am too scared to do that. nt

[Haole Girl]

31. Why don't you rent "War of the Roses" and play it - repeatedly - all weekend?!

:evilgrin:

[Missy Vixen]

32. It's time to call one's brother and cousins

In the meantime, Mr. Malta Blue, this is especially for you: Intimidating anyone with your size? Playing passive-aggressive little mind games? You are a bully, and a waste of human skin. You wanted the divorce. Get the fuck out and move on with your life.

Julie

[malta blue]

33. amusingly enough, my 17 y/o cousin

who is actively being recruited by Rutgers for football (think BIG BOY) caught wind of it on my facebook and has already gathered up a posse ready to move in at a moment's notice.

[KitchenWitch]

34. I think it is time to have your 17 y/o cousin move in until the STBE moves out.

[malta blue]

41. He lives about 3 hours away, but sent me many

a message saying to just let him know - that his dad would drive him up and they would get him out. Between my cousin and my uncles and brother, Mr BM would not stand a chance in hell of disputing anything. I don't even think it would come to blows at all, it would just be the show of force/support from my family that would make him fold into a little pile of shit.

[KitchenWitch]

35. Are you the "network administrator" on your wifi?

You can block access to his computer's mac address. I am sure a geekazoid could help you with that.

[Fleshdancer]

36. turn off or chage the password to the network.

and when he bitches about it, tell him the locks on the doors are next.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

37. how old is he?

[Gormy Cuss]

38. Call your lawyer.

The STBE is being manipulative whether he knows it or not. He picked the date to leave, you agreed to it, end of discussion. He needs to solve his Monday internet access problem all by his sorry ass selfish self.

You are NOT being unreasonable -- he is. And yes, he probably wants to believe that he can tell all his future gfs what a wonderful and amicable divorce you had.

[Shakespeare]

39. This is the best advice on this thread.

And whatever you do, do NOT threaten violence, or have someone close to you do so by proxy. That can come back to bite you later. Good luck--I know (from personal experience) how much that situation sucks.

[IndianaJones]

40. told ya so. nt.

[jobycom]

42. It's not who he thinks he is. It's who he thinks you are. Mommy.

Sorry you are going through this.

Can you disconnect the cable until he goes? Clip the wire, or call the cable company, or just take the modem with you?

[malta blue]

43. ***update****

After he received calls from my brother basically telling him that he would indeed be moving out on Sunday, and my telling him that he would have to do so, he has conceded to get out on Sunday, but will need back in on Tuesday to move his stuff with a mover.

So, I think we have reached an agreement with that - thank the gods/goddesses.

[KitchenWitch]

44. Good

Glad you have your brother's backup.

[malta blue]

45. I feel so relieved now too.

I have been sick to my stomach for days with him being there anyway, and then he tried to tell me it was going to be longer :banghead:

My brother, cousins, everyone in the family was ready to come up and "move" him out.

[Haole Girl]

46. I'm glad

:hug:

p.s., Any way you and your brother could be there when he starts taking stuff out of your home?

[malta blue]

51. I will be there on Sunday and will probably have to

take Tuesday off. My stepdad is older so I am not sure I want to ask him to oversee the movers on Tuesday.

[bertha katzenengel]

47. it is SO good to hear this

:hug:

[malta blue]

52. thank you Bertha

:hug::hug::hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

48. it is SO good to hear this

:hug:

[EFerrari]

49. You will not be alone there on Sunday or on Tuesday, right?

Please tell me you won't be.

[malta blue]

50. unfortunately I will be alone on Sunday night

and will have to take the day off on tuesday to supervise. I can probably get some friends to come over though.

[EFerrari]

53. If you ever had any concern at all about your safety

you cannot be alone on those two days. That's all. Don't do it.

I myself made too many trips to the ER when I miscalculated. I guess I shouldn't complain that I made it all the way to the hospital.

:shrug:

[malta blue]

54. I am pretty sure I can have someone be there on Sunday

but Tuesday is hard because all of my friends are at work. My stepfather is older (77) so i would feel bad asking him to "represent" on Tuesday, but I know he would be there if I needed him to.

[EFerrari]

55. Good. And on Tuesday, any other person/s is good enough.

Don't you have an Avon or Amway rep that is wanting to show you new stuff on the porch?

No importa. Other people can defuse the situation by just being there. I know you can figure that out.

Be safe, hermanita. Prevent regrets r us. :hug: