How do you let go of something you thought

[lost-in-nj]

was good..
(it WAS good)

even though it was your decision...
because even though your mind says yes....

your heart knows better..
so it seems

:cry:

and how do you get around not feeling jealous or hurt when

you hear they are in a "good" place and moving on???

but damn you wish them well... and nothing but happiness
because thats what they deserve


just asking......

thanks

:hug:

:hi:

lost

[lost-in-nj]

1. hmm

thats what I thought....




lost

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear lost...

Oh sweetie...

That's a tough one...

How do you do it?

You just have to think that the other person's happiness is more important than your own, and take it from there...

VERY painful.

I have no good answers.

Change your focus, think about yourself...

Move on with your own life, sweetie...

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

5. yes

they deserve to be happy....
no question....

i am trying to think about "me"..
its kind of hard
but I will do it


Thanks CP
Sept. is a special month
but I will get through it





:hug:

lost

[crim son]

3. Time helps.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

7. yes it does

thanks Crimmie

:hug:


lost

[LeftyFingerPop]

4. crim son is correct...

time

sometimes a lot of it

[lost-in-nj]

8. .....

:hug:


yeah

you know....

lost

[Danger Mouse]

6. A deep breath. Close your eyes. Sit outside. Listen to the birds, or the noise.

Let your mind clear.
'This will pass'
'It will end'
'The hurt doesn't last forever'...

[lost-in-nj]

10. aww sweety

that sounds like my mantra

now if it would just sink in!!!!
THANKS

:hug:


lost

[Danger Mouse]

11. I know what it feels like.

:hug:
Trust me.

[SPKrazy]

9. It Was Good...

and then the memories are something to cherish.

You deserve nothing but happiness too lost and my hope is that you will find it.

You are a good person and you are sweet, and smart, and will undoubtedly always be thought of well... very well.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

if things could have been different then who knows...

:loveya:

[The Straight Story]

12. My thoughts on your post:

Emotions outlast what we think because they are more powerful.

We hope, even when there is little - because it gives us the strength we need to go on.

We feel loss, even when our minds wanted it, because the hole left behind cannot be filled with simple words or logic.

We grow and find a new source of rain to make us grow, because the clouds that bring the rain to us are seeded with the emotions that are rooted deep within. The storm brought about by doing what we know is right colliding with what our heart felt can bring a rainstorm like no other.

But when those clouds clear we will see daylight again, and we will turn towards it and find that we needed that rain in order to continue to become what is we were meant to be - not a small stem, but a large and beautiful sunflower.

You don't let go, you simply grow and remember that those things which were once so painful helped make you who you were meant to be.

A free flower flowing in the wind, fed by the tears of days gone by, and nourished by the light of knowing what you did was right.

And when you bloom, it will be they who look with envy upon you.

:)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. My dear Straight Story!

This is the most amazing post!

Prose poetry...

You should put it in your journal...

So everyone can see it!

Really perfect...

Thank you for posting it tonight, sweetie...

:hug:

[The Straight Story]

14. Good to see you tonight my friend

How is the weather in ca? We had some nice thunderstorms here tonight, and more rain in one day then I did my whole time in CA.

God I missed the midwest :)

[lost-in-nj]

15. ....

:hug:

:cry:



thank you


lost

[The Straight Story]

16. My good friend - I went through much the same once myself:

I split up with a woman I loved and wanted to marry. She wanted to wait and we could no longer live together.

I met AutumnMist and made a choice to be with her.

The very next Day I told my X girlfriend I was with someone else and moving away.

She told me she was pregnant and wanted to marry me.

I still love her to this day. She has moved on, is married, and has another child. But I never forgot her. We still talk of course, and I am still the only person she can talk openly to about things.

I of course love my wife, but to me - if you ever truly loved someone you don't just stop. I truly loved her, but it was just not in the cards.

We still laugh on the phone, can talk about anything, but we both realize we have moved on.

You don't ever forget, you just deal.

[Forkboy]

17. You never truly do. And that may not be a bad thing.

Life rarely has us in a position where we feel all is well, where we're truly happy. When it does happen it usually isn't for long. But to me, it's better to have those kind of memories than not. At least I know that, for a stretch anyways, life really was good. And if was good once before then maybe it might be again.

I'm sad for the people who have never experienced that at all, because they don't know what they're missing. In that regard, the pain I feel when I think about those good times I've had is almost a good thing, because the pain wouldn't be there if the love wasn't there first. And at least I got to experience that.

And I'm just weird, of course. Melancholy is one of the most life affirming emotions to me. Hate and love are easy emotions to reconciliate my mind with, because each one is a master at justifying itself, so it's that middle ground that always throws me for a loop. And I like being thrown for loops. It's why I like weird music and movies, and oddball people (no offense...;) ). It's those things that make me struggle to understand that I get into, and what gives me what enjoyment I do actually get out of life.

But enough stoned ramblings at 6:00 AM on a Saturday morning. I hope that whatever has you down doesn't have you down for long, and that you find a more stable emotional ground to stand on. :hug: