Thought I would go out for a "girls day out" today...

[Haole Girl]

Well...seems my older sister, the one who always bragged about making so much money, will be homeless shortly. When she looked at me and said, "Where am I going to live?" I - almost involuntarily (it seemed) - said she could stay with me.

OMG... what have I done?

:scared:

[texanwitch]

1. Being a good person.

I don't know if I want my sister living with me.

She would have to live in the RV.

[Haole Girl]

2. My older sister is a trip

She was already getting bossy about having to watch the Olympics, when we came back to my house... and she's not even moved in yet!

[texanwitch]

4. Better set some rules now.

I live with 5 people, rules are important.

Don't let her walk all over you.

My sister is bossy, she would live in the RV.

You are being a good person.

[Haole Girl]

6. Thanks texanwitch

I have conflicting feelings about her being bossy. I mean, obviously she feels like her life is falling apart (and, in many ways it is). So, my thinking on this is to let her pretend she has control over me - to an extent - if it helps her. It's a fine line I'm going to have to walk. I just hope it's very short-term.

Thank you for the advice. :hi:

[texanwitch]

9. My sister is older.

I hope everything works out for both of you.

My sister would live in the very nice RV, she is that bossy.

I wouldn't have my sister be homeless, but living under same roof would never work.

:hug:

[bigwillq]

3. That's what family is for.

:) You do need to set some boundaries though and plan a timetable for her to move out. Do it tonight. :) :hi: Good Luck!

[Haole Girl]

5. Thank you

Good advice... I told her that we'll go over "the ground rules" later. She was pretty upset and humiliated. Being her younger sister hasn't always been easy-- for reasons I won't get into.

“Life is what happens…..while you're making other plans.” John Lennon

[bigwillq]

7. No matter what happened

in the past, now or in the future, she is your sister. Blood. Family takes care of family. You are doing a good thing. Sometimes it's not easy being a sibling but it's still better, imo, than being an only child. :) :hi: :hug:

[Haole Girl]

8. This is true..

that's what I told her. We are family... and family takes care of family. Hey.. that's not a line out of a mafia movie, I hope! lol :hi:

[bigwillq]

10. I think it is.

But it really is true...at least that's the way this Italian was raised! :P ;) :) :hi:

[Haole Girl]

11. I'm not Italian...

but I pretend to be! lol :P

[bigwillq]

12. A lot of people do

it's because we are so cool, good-looking and know how to cook (although I really don't cook) :P ;)

:rofl:

[Haole Girl]

14. It's the food!!

:9 (oh, and of course, that other stuff!)

[RedShoes]

13. the right thing.

I get your drift, though. Unless there's some sort of abuse issue (substance, emotional or otherwise) you are doing the right thing, and you are a very, very good person for it. :hug:

Oh, how the mighty fall sometimes.

[Haole Girl]

15. Thanks

It will only be the right thing to do if I can make it work. I appreciate your kind words. :hug:

[RedShoes]

16. it takes two to make it work...

your sister is going to have to meet you somewhere kinda close to the middle.

[Flaxbee]

17. did she lose her job?

If not, then I'd think the staying-with-you would be transitory - until she can find an apartment or someplace else. If so, it might be a little longer, but that is what family is for - within boundaries, of course.

You did a good thing. It'll be hard on her if she's struggling with feelings of loss and failure, and she may take control issues out on you. You know her situation best, so perhaps you can - just for yourself at this point, don't tell her the moment she moves in you're planning her moving out - set up a timeline you'd be comfortable with. And try to help her meet that.

[Haole Girl]

18. No, but she may as well have

Her entire income has be garnished.. all of it. For reasons I don't care to get into.

Her husband is a true asshole... that's all I'll say. :-(