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Nikia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-17-08 12:51 PM
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My mother wants to have a baby shower for me, but I'm not sure I want to invite coworkers
My mother, who lives a couple states away, would like to have a baby shower for me in the town where I live about 4-6 weeks before my due date. She would like me to include people who I know from the local area.
I work at a small privately owned company with 10 other women, which make up about 25% of the employees at the company. Only one of them works in the same department as me. We both work under the same supervisor, but she is considered a lower position than me. The other women are also lower positions than me. I am not friends with any of them outside of work. With one exception, who is new, they are all over 10 years older than me. A few of these women are downright hostile to me. A couple of others are compulsive gossippers including the woman in my department.
I really don't want some of these women there with my mother, possibily other family, and friends from outside of work. There are a couple that I would like there, but I feel that it would make things a lot worse for me with the other women if I didn't invite them all. I cannot trust any of them not to let it slip that they were going or went to the shower. I think that I would be better off to invite none of them and not mention that I was having/had one. My husband disagrees, but he doesn't have to work there.
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Phentex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-17-08 12:54 PM
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1. If they want to do something for you, they will...
Your co-workers will figure this out for themselves. I would not invite any of them to this "outside" shower and just let them do something for you on their own (if they want to!)
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loveable liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-17-08 12:56 PM
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2. yep, dont invite any of them.
There is no way to tie in co-workers with freinds and family no matter how hard they try.
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DebJ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-17-08 01:12 PM
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3. I agree with the other two posters. If the women at your work want
to participate in a baby shower, they will set up one at your work.
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CreekDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-17-08 01:24 PM
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4. invite who you want
if you are the only person who knows them, like people from your job, then nobody knows better than you whether or not they should be invited.

regarding people that either your husband or both of you know, is the time to consider everyone's opinion.
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