What if a woman calls you "safe"? (please delete)

[TXlib]

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[mr_hat]

1. It means you can be left in a carpeted room for up to 10 hours.

[demnan]

2. When I was in college

so many guys just wanted to get a woman drunk and have sex with them and you really had to be on your guard about accepting anything from a guy, unless you wanted to end up in bed with him. Meaning a meal, a drink or a ride back to the dorm. (this was before AIDS).

To me a safe guy is a guy who wouldn't try to get you drunk and rape you and therefore was the only acceptable kind of guy to date. But I didn't choose to be sexually active in my college years, so I may have a different perspective than most.

[waterman]

3. It means you're wearing at least three condoms

[southerngirlwriter]

4. I must be soooo jaded and cynical.

To me, the word "safe" -- both when I use it referring to a guy and when I heard a female friend use it in reference to a guy -- means that he's not a predator. You can accept a drink from him without fear that there will be a date-rape drug in it. Should you decide to date or bed him, there won't be videos of it on the internet the next day.

I have....experiences.....in my background that are not all that atypical. They have made me self-defensive enough that I won't go to sleep on an airplane or doze off in a waiting room, and won't sit with my back to the door, or too far from an exit, in a situation where there are lots of men.

When a friend tells me that a guy is "safe," it means two things to me:

1.) I don't have to fear him.
2.) If there are other men around that I do need to fear, he would help me out if it became necessary to fight or flee.

"Emasculated?" Sounds like the opposite to me. A "safe" guy doesn't have to prove he's a man by being dangerous or predatory or otherwise an asshole.

But, that's just one straight girl's experience. :shrug:

[salinen]

5. Most Men I know are safe.

But it only takes one in a thousand to fuck everything up. I have been known to get agro on those types. If they get thrilled by frightening Women, I going to frighten them. I'm a guy BTW