Why is it always "Wife swapping" and not HUSBAND swapping?

[yvr girl]

It's sexist, I tell you.

[redqueen]

1. owned / owner

[ThomCat]

24. That's it exactly. You have to own something to loan it to someone else.

:(

[redqueen]

36. I'm puzzled by all the rationalizations used to attempt to ignore this...

or otherwise explain it away as something innocuous / not meaningful.

:shrug:

[billyoc]

2. Husband swapping doesn't sound worthwile?

:shrug:

[Lethe]

3. The Iroquois called it husband swapping

they were into that stuff

[arcadian]

4. Yeah!

Why?:shrug:

[PaddyBlueEyes]

5. call it whatever u want

[arcadian]

6. I call it "...and a good time is had by all"

It's non gender specific, third person plural.

[PaddyBlueEyes]

8. Bingo!!

[grannylib]

7. Spouse swapping. Takes care of either gender.

[LostInAnomie]

9. Because I ain't gonna be banging a dude!!!!

Sheeeiiit!

[crim son]

10. Jeebus.

Good question yet, can you imagine the horror of having a strange "husband" in your house. Kudos to the producers of the show for recognizing where the power lies. :P

[edbermac]

11. Why is there a queen bee, but no king bee?

Sounds pretty sexist to me. :hi:

[Fearless]

13. Did you know...

That at the end of the season, the worker bees (female) kick the drone bees (male) out of the hive to conserve food. They then die within a day or two because the don't know how to find food for themselves.

Wow, I should be posting on that nerd-off thread...

[eShirl]

16. I thought the worker bees were asexual

and only the queen was female?

shows what I know

[Fearless]

20. Genetically female, I believe.

[Fearless]

12. Not to be technical but...

To swap one's wife does that not also necessitate some form of husband swappage? In fact in all but a few places such instances of non-husband swappage are quite illegal. Their loss IMHO, but regardless, true.

:+

[Ellen Forradalom]

14. Especially when I have a spare to give away

I'm gonna have to set him out on the curb with a sign "FREE to good home."

[elshiva]

15. You swapping your hubby?

I've got a cat.

[WinkyDink]

17. On "Trading Spouses", sometimes it is the husbands who switch.

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

18. who would want one of us?

I ask ya?

[Chan790]

19. Propose a better label.

There is also:

Swinging: A term I find lame and unpleasant.

Polyamory: I like this term. Technically it describes something else though.

Non-monogamy: Again, I don't like. It makes the act of consensually having sex with someone other than your spouse seem improper. I'm sure to some people it is, however I don't want other people's morality imposed on what I do in the privacy of my bedroom.

Fun: It's too generic...you could say to another couple that you want them to come over for some fun and they might show up with Twister. Then you don't know if they understood what you meant or not. That's kind of awkward.

Thus I see only one option...we need to invent a new term. I feel we should take a lesson by Dan Savage and take input on who would be most offended to have their name forever associated with something they find so abhorrent. So...who would find the act of partner-switching most offensive if it were associated with their name? James Dobson? Would people actually call the swapping of partners Dobsoning?

Edit: formatting.

[Iggo]

23. I'm with you.

I say we call it "Formatting."

[Chan790]

26. Okay...

I hope you know that I meant I had edited the post to format it to read clearer.

It would be amusing if I did in-fact accidentally create a new term for exchanging sexual partners by editing that post.

"Hey Dick and Jane, Beth and I were just talking about it and we wanted to know if you were into formatting."

edit::rofl:

[Iggo]

33. Yeah, but I couldn't resist.

It''d be kinda neat to start a word, though, huh.

[Iggo]

21. Because it's wife-swapping. (n/t)

[DS1]

22. Husband swapping sounds more 'permanent' to me

:rofl:



I get your point.

[RetroLounge]

25. Actually it's Husband Discarding here...

:cry:

RL

[ThomCat]

31. .

I love you. I'm one of several people here who would do anything to make you happy. :hug:

I hope at some point your pain goes away. There's a group of us at this point who all have pain of different kinds, and it would be so nice if we all could have our pain go away.

Life is not nice. :(

[RetroLounge]

35. It goes away is stages, in small increments...

and lessens each day. It's one of those things you don't notice as it happens, but one day you wake up and it just doesn't hurt anymore.

I have more days like that all the time. I don't hurt all the time. In fact, I hurt somedays not at all.

Just occasionally, something sparks a twinge or a little hurt. Then it goes away again.

Thank you my friend. :hug:

Yes, I wish all the hurt would go away, for everyone, physical and otherwise, but that's not reality...

RL

[Taverner]

27. I thought the aprapos term was "key party"???

:shrug:

[Chan790]

28. 30 years ago maybe? n/m

[Taverner]

29. So what's the term today? Swinger?

Wifeswapping is so Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice

[Chan790]

30. We were talking about that upthread...there isn't a good choice.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=7999659&mesg_id=8000092

I liked "Dobsoning" (I think it might drive James Dobson to drop dead.)
Iggo liked "Formatting"

We're open to suggestions. :shrug:

[jobycom]

32. Because we thought of it first.

:P

[SacredCow]

34. Point of view, I guess....

Probably more men are promoting it, so..... It is what it is.

I guess the genderless form is just "swinging."