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Hope y'all don't mind if I vent here...
So I graduated college in December and decided to work abroad in the UK for six months while I decide whether to go to graduate school or look for a job, etc. My biggest college regret was not studying abroad, so this is my chance to live in another country before I get too tied down with life. It's been an amazing experience so far, and after traveling and chilling for a couple of months, I finally got a job last month, at a little bed and breakfast in a small town northeast of London.
It's a great job - the pub is frequented by several regulars, the kind of charming and quaint and very English atmosphere I'd been hoping to find here. I like my coworkers, the food is good, and I get live-in accommodation, so I have no bills. But my boss - the pub owner - is a complete and total horrorshow. He was okay, at first, if a bit demanding and an obvious control freak. Whatever, most bosses are control freaks, I can deal with that. But this past week he started singling me out for special harassment - reaming me over the most trivial and inconsequential things that I had "done wrong." If we were extremely busy and I was running all over the place, taking orders, cleaning dishes, pouring beers, but I forgot to put a steak knife on the table before their order came out, so as far as he's concerned I'm a stupid slacker who can't do anything right.
It culminated today with him threatening to fire me because I: a) hadn't filled a salt shaker on one random table (despite the fact that there is another person working there besides me, and yet this person did not get threatened); b) put a pink and a burgundy pillowcase set in one of the rooms, instead of 2 pinks or 2 burgundies; c) forgot to set up a table (which no one sat at all night) with coasters; d) missed a couple of crumbs under one table when vacuuming.
It is obvious this psychopath wants to force me to quit, God knows why. The cook, a woman who has worked here for ten years, says he's just a prick on a power trip and that he does this to EVERYONE who has ever worked here. She also says he's just bluffing about firing me because he likes to make people sweat. Complicating this is the fact that it's a live in job - I'm sure the idea that firing me would not only leave me unemployed but homeless in a country where I am a total stranger and have no family makes him feel like he has even more power over me. But even if he is bluffing - do I really want to work in a toxic and hostile environment like this? He blustered today that he was going to be reviewing me "week by week" - so in other words, I have to constantly walk on eggshells and wonder what I'm going to do next that will set him off.
I do have someone I could stay with, if worse came to worse, although losing out on this job plus suddenly having to pay rent would destroy all the money I'd set aside to travel with, which is why I came to the UK to begin with. Not that this asshole cares. But, I could make do for a bit and hopefully find a temp job (maybe; they're getting hard to find) if I had to. But I also feel like quitting would be letting him win, since it's obviously what he wants - to drive me to leave. But I am honestly not sure if I can deal with him any longer. He is abusive. If I actually lived here, I'd explore more options and recourse, but he is completely taking advantage of the fact that I have no permanent home and no reliable source of income other than what he gives me. He thinks he can bully me around because I'm a young foreigner on a temporary work visa.
What should I do? Tell him to fuck off and leave, or stick with it, try to ignore his harassment, and try to make it to the end of my original leaving date (early September)?
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