there is a huge wave of cosmic shit blowing through my corner of the universe lately

[fizzgig]

wtf is going on?

i've written about my friend who lost her baby in april and all she's been dealing with right now. she had an mri on monday, which turned up a chiari malformation. i've done a bit of googling on it but still really don't understand it, but from what i can understand, part of her brain is now resting on the spinal cord. she's seeing a specialist next week.

another friend of mine has also been going through an extremely difficult time. her husband (who is 28) wound up in the hospital for what appeared to be a heart attack (turned out not to be, but scared the shit out of them), she then got attacked by bees and, a few days later, her dad was struck by lightening. she just called me to tell me that a good friend of hers just died, leaving a two-year-old daughter behind.

i know this may come across as selfish, but i'm tired of feeling so powerless to help my friends. these two girls are the best friends that i have, they are my family and all i want is for them to be ok. :(

[bicentennial_baby]

1. There's something in the air...something bad...

Trust me, it's going around. Curious, it is.

:hug:

[fizzgig]

3. very curious, indeed

:hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

22. It's cosmic or otherworldly and it ain't right...

It's like a wave of suck and pain has descended on many of us. I'm suspicious, in the supernatural sense.

Maybe Mercury is retrograde, but I don't do Astrology, and even then, it wouldn't be this fucked up.

Keep your eyes open and watch your back, sweet girl. :hug:

We'll get through this. :)

[fizzgig]

27. i've been almost hyper-aware lately

i've been through some shit storms in the past, but this is nothing like i've ever seen before.

but you are right, we will get through this :hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

29. And that's exactly how we have to be

I've got your back. :hug:

Just try to smile now and then, and wait for it to all blow over. :)

[Gormy Cuss]

2. I have no idea.

Shit storms happen. Sometimes it just feels like the universe is sending all the bad stuff in one direction. I hope that this storm begins to blow over soon.

Please remember that your friends know that you are there for them. Even when you don't think you're helping them, you are.
:hug:

[fizzgig]

4. thanks, gormy

i've gone through some nasty shit storms in my life, but never one like this. i hope it starts to blow over soon, too.

:hug:

[Shine]

5. There's a total solar eclipse on Friday, for what it's worth.

We won't be able to see it in the States, but the energy still effects us.

[fizzgig]

9. i didn't know that

but i agree with you that we are still affected by the energy

[Inchworm]

6. Brown Matter

true story...

:P

[sakabatou]

7. Yeah, it's odd

I had a 3 seizures in a row not too long ago.

[fizzgig]

10. i'm sorry to hear that

are you doing better now?

[sakabatou]

12. Well...

I have to take 2 different meds 4 times a day. There's headaches, nausea and tremors that happen. Rarely, like maybe once every 6 months, I might have a seizure.

I hate it that I can't drive or ride a bike. I hate it that my memory and hand-eye coordination is crap. I have NLD.

It's a bitch, I tell ya.

[fizzgig]

15. i don't know what to say

but i will offer you a :hug:

[sakabatou]

18. Huggles to you

and whatever the hell that happy-dance creature is.

[fizzgig]

26. that's my fizzgig

:D

i love my little guy

[sakabatou]

34. Well, at least you have a tree spirit

Who cannot like "Mononoke Hime?"

[ScreamingMeemie]

8. Sometimes all you can do is listen.

There is no one on this earth who can do for me the one thing that I need. Just knowing I have a couple of people who care, without strings, helps. No, it may not feel like enough... but when that is all you can offer, it is enough.

[fizzgig]

11. i am glad i can offer them what i can

i don't want them to feel so alone

[many a good man]

13. No corner of the universe is safe

Last week my brother's sister-in-law, who I've known since she was about 9 years old, got into a horrible car accident. Her six month old baby died. Her parents and 5 year old were driving right behind her and witnessed the whole thing.

She had to attend the funeral on a stretcher, because she shattered her lower leg and fractured her hip. Her nine year old couldn't go because she was still in the hospital with tubes stuck up her nose and fractured vertebrae.

Three years she ago she had to bury another baby in a tiny coffin. Her baby was born without a brain and died 25 hours after birth. How in the world does one pick themselves up after shit like that? What can one possible say or do to help???

[fizzgig]

14. my sincere condolences to the families

i don't know how one picks themselves up after something like that, i have been blessed to never have to find out firsthand.

but, as other posters have said, sometimes all you can do is be with them and listen to them if they need to talk.

[tigereye]

16. hugs to all of you

that's a lot to deal with. :hug:

[fizzgig]

20. thank you

:hug:

[fudge stripe cookays]

17. I have a Chiari.

Rosanne Cash also recently had surgery on hers.

Mine is not very serious, but they detected it on my last MRI. I have to have yearly ones for my MS.

Essentially, imagine the very back of your skull, where the rounded part descends toward your spine. In that narrowing area is a little V shape between the bone and where your brain is.

If your brain sags just a little bit into that V shaped depression, that's a Chiari malformation. They have degrees. So mine, not being very serious, has never caused me any problems (that I know of), and I wouldn't have even known I had it if the MRI hadn't caught it.

For folks like Rosanne (and your friend), the problems are more serious, causing constant serious headaches and other problems like the resting on the spinal cord thing.

Hope your friends (and you) will be OK.
:hug:

[fizzgig]

19. thank you for the info

i don't know how serious it is yet, but she has been having headaches for several weeks now, which is why she went in for the mri. this is the last thing she needs to be dealing with right now.

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

21. It's terrible to feel powerless... I know

And I don't think your thread comes across as selfish, at all. :hug:

[fizzgig]

24. thank you

:hug:

[ThomCat]

23. I hope you are surrounded by good things and good news soon.

Even if the bad stuff isn't happening to you, I can fully understand how stressful it is to have it happening to people you love.

:hug:

I wish we all had good news following us.

[fizzgig]

25. thanks, thom

after a bit you start to think that something's gotta give, but it's just not giving right now

:hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

28. Your feelings of powerlessness shows that you are a compassionate person

With the ability to feel immense empathy and love for your friends. You are a good person and a good friend:hug:

My thoughts, prayers, best wishes and positive vibes to you and both your friends:hug: :hug:

[fizzgig]

31. and that is where i am finding the small comfort

is that i have the ability to love the way i do. it can be tiring, but i would not have it any other way.

thank you :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

30. oh god...i hope she's doing alright.

:(

[fizzgig]

32. they are doing the best they can, i guess

but i honestly can't say which one i'm more worried about right now

[Danger Mouse]

33. i won't name names but...

she's a sweet person. it really upsets me to find out she's going through so much. :(
you hang in there, too.

[Writer]

35. kagehime...

Life flows in cycles, and this is only one of many.

It will get better.

Hang in there.

[FloridaJudy]

36. Bad stuff is happening all over.

I almost called the cops on my way through the parking lot just now - thank the gods I understand Spanish! I saw a large man struggling with a woman who was flailing about. When I yelled "Need any help?" she yelled back at me (in Spanish) that she was pregnant and her belly hurt. I offered to call an ambulance, but another neighbor gave them a ride to the hospital. I hope she's all right - I'm not even sure where they live.

Well, at least I know now that people in this complex look out for each other. But I'm still shaken.