Does anybody else here dislike attending weddings?

[zanne]

I have to go to my nephew's wedding tonight. I'm sure it'll be very nice; evening ceremony, followed by dinner and dancing at local country club. I'm sure I'll be bored out of my skull. No matter how they dress them up, weddings are so predictable. I know there'll tons of pictures after the ceremony, so we'll all spend about an hour waiting for the bride and groom to show up. Then the rubbery wedding food, then the chicken dance, then the cake, then throwing the bouquet.....

I know it's a spcial day for the people getting marrried and their immediate families, but I really, really hate going to these things. Is there something wrong with me?

[malta blue]

1. LOL

I am going to my cousin's wedding tonight and I have to drive 200 miles to get there. It would not be so bad if it were local. Call me crazy, but driving 200 miles today and 200 miles tomorrow is not my idea of a "fun" weekend.

Oh yeah - there will be crappy food - HORRIBLE wine - lots of fake smiles, etc.

[zanne]

3. I have to drive 100 miles for this one.

Maybe I can fake a heart attack and leave early.

[MonkeyFunk]

2. Nah, I love 'em

but then, I don't go to very many of them, so it's usually a pretty special occasion.

[Midlodemocrat]

15. Same here. Once my family and friends got married

the weddings stopped. Now we're in the cycle of children of family/friends.

[Rhythm]

4. I wouldn't mind it if i was attending OURS...

I've only had to go to 3 in my life, but i didn't have that great a time at any of them.

#1 was my best friend's oldest sister - an ugly couple not made any prettier by the expensive clothes and the flowers. I didn't attend the reception, either, as the only people i knew in a crowd of 300 were the bride's immediate family.

#2 was my little brother's first wedding. He married his high-school sweetheart *aww*. It was about 3 years after our dad died, the wedding was held on what would have been our parnets' 30th anniversary, and it was held in the same church where Dad's funeral had been, so that loss was heavy in the room. My brother's best friend, who was supposed to be his Best Man, didn't show up for the rehearsal or the wedding, so our soon-to-be stepdad got put into that capacity. At least the music was good - a couple of their friends who had a country band provided some appropriate music for the ceremony, then the whole band entertained at the reception. They were good, but i didn't care much for country music at the time.

#3 was the wedding of a gal-pal who used to be my best friend's g/f. I didn't meet the groom until the reception (a rugged-looking Army paratrooper who looked great in his Class A Formal) because she had been living on the west coast since a few months after she had met him. The ceremony was beautiful, she looked radiant, but the reception was weird, because nobody really 'knew' anyone. And i kept on picturing my best pal as the groom in the scenario, and being quietly sad that it didn't play out that way.

The next one that i attend will be in the position of being one of the ones getting married, damnit. That way i know beyond a doubt that i'll have a good time!

[MicaelS]

5. Of course there' s something wrong with you!

You could always go and make such a scene of yourself (which wouldn't be too hard, considering it's you), that you will never, EVER get invited to another wedding in your remaining time on this earth. :rofl: :hide:

[zanne]

6. Will faking a heart attack do the trick? nt

[MicaelS]

10. No that's not your style

Get on top of a table and scream something loud and long, about Bush, Republicans, Conservatives, Neo-Cons, Texas, Guns (didn't think I'd forget that did you?) and so on. That should do it. :bounce:

[zanne]

12. Well, that might happen anyway...

You don't know my family. Half liberal, half conservative. It's alot of fun at family reunions.

[UndertheOcean]

7. Just don't go then . And no there is nothing wrong with you

It is typical human nature to complain about trivial things.

[zanne]

8. Sheesh. nt

[Chan790]

11. Hey can you tell my (former) best friend that?

He's still pissed that I didn't go to his wedding after I told him I wasn't going to his wedding. This was after I told him I didn't want to be in the wedding party because I probably couldn't attend. There was never any subterfuge...I was very-upfront that I wasn't going.

It's been like 3 years and he still won't talk to me.

[CreekDog]

9. My grandmother got into a fight at a wedding

someone in the wedding party shook their finger at her.

she was fun. :rofl:

[zanne]

13. My sister-in-law and brother-in-law had a fight at their son's wedding.

Somebody had to call the cops. That was ugly.

[Bunny]

14. I don't care much for them, either. I don't mind attending the ceremony, because those are usually

nice, and the sentiments are touching. But I have never been to a reception that wasn't boring in the extreme!

[TommyO]

16. I'm so glad that none of my friends had weddings like that!

One couple married young (and are still together). No chicken dance, no hokey-pokey, though we did do The Time Warp as the last dance of the night!

The other took place on Halloween weekend and had the wedding party themed to a masquerade, simple, formal, but with extravagant masks. Mine is still hanging proudly on my wall.

My brother's wedding also avoided the pitfalls, though since both families had a "ski" at the end of their names, there were a few polkas!

[kedrys]

17. Here!

There's a reason why the s.o. and I eloped. We didn't want to have anything to do with the hassle. I've been to two other weddings other than my own, and both were pains in the arse.

[zanne]

23. I've been to dozens of weddings in my 56 years...

Big families on both sides. My husband and I spent 30 minutes planning our wedding. We set a date, got out the phone book, found a JP and invited immediate friends and family. We had a BBQ/pool party for the reception. Everybody had fun.

[Crazy Dave]

18. I don't mind friends and families but...

...I get pissed at co-workers who always invite the entire office just to get gifts. I don't buy them shit.

[sasquatch]

19. *raises hand*

[hedgehog]

20. You should have been at my daughter's wedding. We had the reception at

a campground with a separate room for dancing. So people were dancing in one room while under the other tent people were actually talking! Some of the older guys even played cards all night! One guest brought along a young puppy too young to be left alone all night! The next morning my husband and MIL made a pancake breakfast for the survivors!

[tigereye]

32. that sounds like a fun wedding - I love the informal ones...

[mokawanis]

21. I too don't like attending weddings

and don't quite get why people have them. I think it's a far batter idea to take the money one would spend on a wedding and spend it on a great honeymoon trip.
I'm just bored at weddings, though receptions can be a lot of fun when the booze starts flowing.

[zanne]

22. I like dancing with the kids...

But the rest is all fake enthusiasm.

[BrotherBuzz]

24. I love deviled eggs

I often find them at weddings. Booze is fine too, but I love them deviled eggs. Oh, and everyone is mostly dressed in fine clothes. The whole event is worth dressing up for, especially if they have deviled eggs. I love deviled eggs.

[Ikonoklast]

35. You must be a gas to be with

The next morning.




:hide:

[RetroLounge]

25. Hate them

Especially my own...

RL

[Starbucks Anarchist]

26. I'm going to an Indian wedding next week.

Those things are dissertations set to music. :scared:

[azmouse]

27. I dislike them and will never go to another.

I didn't even go to my brother's second wedding. Can't stand his wife. Of course, it helps that I live in AZ and the wedding was in PA. I had a long-distance travel excuse but I know they understood why I did't show up.

[LeftyMom]

28. Depends.

My mother's was a lot of fun. Lost and Harukas was a blast. My cousin's ultra-formal marathon Catholic wedding of doom? :boring:

[pitohui]

29. yes they stink, hubby and i married in secret

no one can expect us to attend any weddings because NO ONE not even my mom attended ours, it was completely secret to avoid any of this circus -- we told folks afterwards and also put a big stress on PLEASE NO GIFTS -- in that way we save a lot of hassle for others and for ourselves

marriage is not about a "special day," it's about a lifetime in my view


as another poster said, save the $$ wasted on a wedding that no one enjoys and either have a nice honeymoon or put a down payment on the house

most folks i know who had "big" weddings are divorced or in debt

also some "big" weddings among younger people are basically about jacking the parents who pay for it for anything they can get, there's no reason for that

as for older people who pay for their own wedding and still think it's diana and charles getting married...look how that one turned out

if you're not shallow, why would you want to waste that $$$ on what is basically just a big inconvenient party? (but i think all parties, not just weddings, are boring)

[Debi]

30. Yep, Mr. Debi and I got married at the courthouse

had to wait until after 4:30 b/c the judge we asked was busy until then (and Mr. Debi had court during the day as well - my boss sent me home at noon, said she didn't feel right about making me work on my wedding day). Anyone who wanted to attend was directed to go to Courtroom #1 at 4:30. Many of the judiciary/county attorney office/recorder office/clerk office came as well as did some attorneys who were finishing up their day. Mr. Debi's staff and folks from my office showed up along with local family (I told Mom and Dad not to come b/c it would be a quick ceremony and then off to dinner)We stopped at Mr. Debi's hangout for a couple of drinks with friends and then went to dinner w/our witnesses. No big party and no gifts. Home by 9:00 and back at work the next day.

I'm not against big weddings if that's what the parties want to do with their (or their parents) money. I just hope that they are focused on the next day/year/decade rather than on that moment. If they think that's how life will be ... they will be sorely disappointed!

[tigereye]

31. I love weddings. but I suppose they are sort of predictable...

I love dressing up for em, they are moving, I love watching people have a bit too much to drink and getting silly, I love seeing how people deal with the logistics and complexity, I love the partying aspect (with none of the responsibility) and I love getting big hats to wear to em.


So I guess I like em even though they are predictable, although I think each one is different in it's own way:



my faves - huge court-house in Minneapolis, and three, count em, 3, bands, tradi. jazz, and 2 punk bands! So that was very cool

Strawberries in champagne in a receiving line - and the huppa and glass shattering at that ceremony

Wedding where all the musicians are friends of yours...


Weddings where the bride wore a leather motorcycle jacket over her gown...

Seeing cool and odd little churches and non-church venues...

[LostInAnomie]

33. I hate them.

The whole time I'm think "What a fucking waste this all is". All that money, and all those resources, for something that could be handled with a trip to the court house.

I get really cynical at them. I scoff at the vows and the sermons. I roll my eyes at all the symbolic bullshit and platitudes. I'm not pleasant to be around at them.

The only thing I like is the open bar.

[fizzgig]

34. i went to only my second wedding of my adult life last weekend

it was a friend's wedding and it wasn't bad. they did do the chicken dance, but it was a hilarious techno remix.

i've got another one coming up in about five weeks. it's going to be much fancier that the one last weekend, but i think it's going to be a good time.

the only family wedding i've attended was my uncle's 10 years ago. i had a miserable time. i was 17 but had to sit at the kids' table (the oldest cousin is 12 years younger than i am) and i didn't really know anyone.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

36. It depends...

I've been to some that were a lot of fun; some that were a total bore. They are like any other party or event, I guess -- it depends a lot on who's there and how everybody behaves. And if there's good food and an open bar. :)

[MorningGlow]

37. I used to like them when I was young (little kid, teenager)

Because they were semi-rare occasions and usually lots of fun--something different to do on a Saturday, breaking up the routine. But as I got older and actually started listening to the ceremony...:scared: The Catholic ceremony is a snooze--and the couple ALWAYS choose the same damned readings ("Love is patient, love is kind blah blah blah"). Doesn't ANYbody read the bible for themselves? So much wonderful poetry in the Psalms, Song of Songs, etc., but these alleged religious people never think of looking there.

When Mr. MG and I got married, we made every effort not to do anything too commonplace. We got married on the deck of our house, which was on a small lake. I walked down the "aisle" to Enya. A UU minister married us (although I would have preferred my witch elder--but my family would have fainted) and he read Native American blessings and poetry by A.A. Milne. We dodged the party house circuit in favor of renting out a small restaurant at a golf course. We forbade the DJ to play any Village People, Whitney Houston, or Mariah Carey, even if people asked for it (but nobody did), as well as the Chicken Dance, Tarantella, or Electric Slide. But I think he caved to the last one.

[dropkickpa]

38. I like informal weddings

As in "They threw a good wedding". Formal weddings bore the hell out of me.