Does anyone else believe they simply don't fit in the world?

[Writer]

I don't.

Anyone else?

Edit: My issue is that, for me, 1 + 1 = 3.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. i am too short for this world. nt

[av8rdave]

2. I can sympathize...

Until my senior year of high school, I was the shortest/skinniest male in my class.

Still have an old yearbook somewhere that lists my career prediction as circus midget man.

[Writer]

3. Here are hugs for both of you.

:hug:

[av8rdave]

7. Thanks...I'll pass my hug on to Lioness....

I grew out of that phase in college...in both dimensions! lol

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. aesthetically i dont care but i have seriously trouble finding clothes or reaching things

its a world made for the tall ones :(

[av8rdave]

10. That is unfortunately true. I remember well what it was like

[ThomCat]

69. You act taller.

:)

And by that, I mean that you have a commanding presence. I always remember you and taller, looking me eye to eye.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

72. thanks thom. its just that i always having to stretch akwardly.

socially i dont think my height is a problem :)

[zanne]

70. I've never thought of being short as a problem.

I'm 5'2" and I never felt short. Actually, I kinda like short. When I was younger, I dated both tall and short men--I thought the short ones were just as sexy as the tall ones. (And I could almost look them in the eye!)

[Tuesday Afternoon]

4. I am in this world but, I am not of this world.

Iam just passing through on my where to somewhere else.

[Writer]

11. That's a very Zen perspective.

[Oeditpus Rex]

5. Yup

Not in this time and/or place, anyway.



I've felt that way since I was 10 or 11.

[Writer]

9. That is exactly how I have felt.

If I had lived in a time and place that honors merit over ego, I think I would have been fine. But not here, especially in this privileged, ego-based system that is America.

[The2ndWheel]

8. One size fits all

Even if you have to be crushed.

[Writer]

12. Well, crush me, then, and be done with it!

[The2ndWheel]

21. Too easy

http://www.bspcn.com/2008/03/13/top-10-most-depressing-quotes-from-orwells-1984/

“We are not content with negative obedience, nor even with the most abject submission. When finally you surrender to us, it must be of your own free will. We do not destroy the heretic because he resists us; so long as he resists us we never destroy him. We convert him, we capture his inner mind, we reshape him. We burn all evil and all illusion out of him; we bring him over to our side, not in appearance, but genuinely, heart and soul. We make him one of ourselves before we kill him. It is intolerable to us that an erroneous thought should exist anywhere in the world, however secret and powerless it may be. Even in the instance of death we cannot permit any deviation . . . we make the brain perfect before we blow it out.”

[Writer]

25. That's brilliant stuff.

Personally I'd prefer to jump off the planet than continue to subject myself to this process.

[PassingFair]

Who "fits" anywhere?

We are all who we are, and we are temporarily
HERE, and then we're gone.

No one fits.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

13. I don't fit in Middle American suburbia

Plenty of other places are okay though.

[Writer]

14. Which places?

[Lydia Leftcoast]

34. Large cities, small college towns, Japan, Europe

:-)

[Writer]

38. I hear ya.

There's nothing more depressing than a sanitized suburban lifestyle.

[MsKandice01]

15. I've never felt like I "fit" anywhere...

But since most people I come across annoy me to the core, I haven't figured out whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.

[Writer]

16. I hear you totally.

You're not just confronting the person, you're confronting their baggage... and for me, that baggage clashes with the baggage that I carry.

[Fox Mulder]

17. I have never felt like I have fit in this world.

:shrug:

[Writer]

19. ...

:hug:

[MISSDem]

18. I have always felt that way.

Like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. I always feel like people just don't understand....

[Writer]

20. "people just don't understand...."

I know what you mean. I, for one, understand how that feels. :hug:

[The empressof all]

22. I use to feel that way

When I think though of all the humans that have lived- through time and all the rest to come -I'm so overwhelmed by my temporariness -that my fitting in seems less significant.

[zanne]

77. Kind of puts things into perspective, eh?

We're a speck in the universe for one brief moment in time. It's our world, too and we should enjoy it.

[Guava Jelly]

23. Screw the world! It's full of assholes anyway

You do fit in to my little segment of it though my friend :D

[Gidney N Cloyd]

24. I've been treated like a semi-wanted guest most everywhere I've ever found myself.

Usually more tolerated than welcomed. So, yeah, I guess I've never really felt like I fit.

[Heidi]

31. I can't make you feel like you fit, but

I'm glad you're here. :hug: <-- that's a truth hug, not a pity hug.

[Gidney N Cloyd]

32. Thanks.

[zippy890]

26. I don't

I'm a changeling,I'm convinced.
Left on my parents doorsteps by aliens/??? from other dimensions i don't know.

:silly:

my mother will neither confirm or deny, just says she loves me.

I like to look at stuff like this which is a mathematical representation of 4th dimension.





and knitted hyperbolic shapes



don't understand any of it tho



:( :-)

[redqueen]

27. Yup.

[regularguy]

28. I just want to fit into my marraige again.

The World? Eh, I can take it or leave it.

[SarahB]

29. I don't fit with MOST people

but why would I want to be like most people?

I'm more than content with all the weirdos in my life whom I love tremendously! :loveya:

[jobycom]

30. The expectation (by others) that you should is the problem.

The world is a long avenue lined with local shops, each unique and different and serving its own purpose, but too many folk want to rip them up and replace them with corporate franchises, so that every block looks the same. A Starbucks now and then isn't bad, but when that's all you're offered, the avenue gets dull. You are the neon lights on the avenue of the world. (Damn, wish I'd I have thought of that line in a bar...)

My issue is a statement that a college chemistry professor once told me: Treat every statement you hear as a question. I think he meant only in terms of science, but I apply it to everything. Sucks, too--I'd have made a great corporate ladder stooge, otherwise.

[SidneyCarton]

33. Two words: Mormon Liberal

I don't belong anywhere.

[zanne]

71. OMG! How does that happen? nt

[SidneyCarton]

75. My parents were converts.

I have no issues with my faith, in fact many members outside of the United States are quite liberal (most of the Brazilian Mormons I knew voted for Lula) It's just the fact that here in the states, we're a little too caught up in this mess.

[TZ]

35. I don't feel like I fit in here, the US...

I really think, based on recent experiences/friendships..that I would fit in elsewhere..Australia, I think..Haven't met an Aussie yet that I haven't gotten along great with....

[Ilsa]

65. Yep. I don't know where, though. Just not quite here.

Not ready to leave. yet.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

36. All the time.

I used to care, but now I think the world can blow me.

[mikita]

41. you said it

can't say it any better than that. Thanks.

[BeachBaby]

37. I'm coming to that realization more and more each day.

I haven't been doing too well at adopting the society standard lexicon of "Look out for Number One".

[TZ]

39. .....

Neither do I...and that can lead to great pain sometimes..but it also has the potential for GREAT rewards....

[Spacemom]

40. I've always felt like I didn't know how to live "in" the world

It's like I'm half a step removed from what everyone else is doing. It can be very lonely. :hug:

[hunter]

42. All those people who do feel they fit in this world...

... simply don't know any better.

This world was created as a playground for the fungi. All other forms of life are incidental.



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fungus

[raccoon]

43. All you who feel that you simply don't fit in the world--did you by any chance

grow up with a problem drinker, or a parent who had mental illness, or something similar?

I used to (to answer Writer's question) and I did (to answer my own question).

[Gidney N Cloyd]

44. I grew up with a couple republicans. Does that count?

[raccoon]

68. I reckon so, LOL. nt

[bixente]

45. At times

Because sometimes I have problems simply being with other people. It's difficult to put it down to a specific anxiety disorder, though - agoraphobia? Generalised anxiety disorder? Not sure now.

Well, maybe this doesn't fit the purpose of the thread.

[bigwillq]

46. No, I have my place.

:)

[LaurenG]

47. No I don't fit but I can make myself fit in order to make it here.

:shrug:

[I Have A Dream]

54. My friend, you fit in *my* world.

:loveya:

[Redbear]

48. Yes, yes, yes

and yes.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

49. I've been gone over 2 months, and get no more replies to my posts than I did before

Does that count as not fitting in?

[nuxvomica]

52. Welcome back, Goddess!

And welcome back to anteater as well. :hi:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

60. Thanks!

Cheers to you! :toast:

[I Have A Dream]

50. I don't, but I'm OK with that.

I've found enough kindred spirits that I don't feel lonely.

[BridgeTheGap]

51. Have you tried astral projection? n.t

[hobbit709]

53. As far as I can remember, I've been a misfit.

[distantearlywarning]

55. Yes, constantly.

I feel like I'm from another planet, got dropped here accidentally, and didn't receive the manual about how to live on Earth and effectively pass as a human.

[nuxvomica]

56. I don't fit

I can't even find jeans or shoes that fit me properly, much less a whole world.

[Lorien]

57. Yep

I'm a far lefty liberal who prefers reading or good conversation to TV, hates to shop, and loves nature. I guess that I really don't fit in America, but maybe there's a better place for me elsewhere...

[texanwitch]

58. I have always been my own person, never wanted to be part of the crowd.

I could be a semi-hermit.

I like my private time.

There are a lot of people like us, and I think we are the normal ones.

[YankeyMCC]

59. Stand up and look closely

at your feet? Are they touching the ground? If not it could be you're a Mark I model human living on the Mark II Earth. ;)

Seriously, I suspect most (all?) people who take to time and effort to self-reflect and examine their lives feel that from time to time. Some unfortunately feel like that a lot if not all the time.

It took me a very long time before I ever had any significant stretch of time where I felt comfortable, so I can sympathize. I think the key is that the world is only what you can perceive and understand and you have to accept that truth and the truth that the rest of the world just is what it is and therefore you only have to fit into the bit of the world you build around you.

There must be more because I still feel 'disconnected' at times but that might be a totally different problem.

Anyway, I hope you feel better.

[moggie]

61. I am sideways to most things

I suppose there are benefits to being perpendicular. You look past most of the things which others have to face head on.

[pink-o]

62. A little knowledge is a dangerous thing!

It's taken most of us off the beaten (mainstream) path. When I was younger I assumed everyone wanted to be educated and informed (I also assumed if they weren't, then they wouldn't mind my enlightening them. Hah! Took me awhile to understand why they all hated me.) but it's come clear that most people would rather live in blissful denial or self-imposed isolation from the truth.

Those of us who don't are fer-shure marginalized, made to feel "weird" or "different". But I would rather live without the Matrix than be spoon-fed the life The System wants me to lead. Our Big Brains evolved for a reason, we didn't crawl out of the Primordial Ooze all those millenia ago to reach the 21st century and not use the hard-fought brain power our ancestors fought so hard to acquire.

Those of you who feel lonely, different, or frustrated by the fact that the rest of the world doesn't accept you, know this: Truth is always better than ignorance, education and being informed is where you get your power. Whatever pain we might feel for being shunned, it's a small price to pay for knowing what the fuck is going on!

(edited to change an ambiguous preposition!)

[greendog]

63. I say let's keep the misfits...

...and get rid of everyone else. :evilgrin:

[stuntcat]

64. I fit with the plants and animals!

But not with the people.. and of that I am SO frickin proud :hi:

[DarkTirade]

66. Never have been, more than likely never will be.

Nevertheless I'm here and I'm planning on making the best of it.

When I was younger I thought making the best would involve taking over the world or something like that... but now I realize it's just too much work for too little a pay-off.

[SPKrazy]

67. More like I was on the outside looking in

which is really the same thing expressed differently.

I use to use alcohol and other drugs to try to make myself feel like I fit. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't.

Today I am able to have some times when I feel connected.


I think that most humans want to feel connected to this world. To be a part of and not apart from.

You aren't alone

:hug:

[groovedaddy]

73. Isn't this a "one size fits all" kind of world? n.t

[crim son]

74. I used to believe that. Now I think the only difference between

me and those who appear to feel comfortable, is an extreme (read: debilitating) sense of self-awareness. I swear the first time I saw the night sky I recognized myself to be a flea on the ass of the universe and I've never learned to feel differently.

[zanne]

76. There is no such thing as normal. nt