Did I just sexually harrass my new boss?

[Bertha Venation]

I just told my new boss that he reminds me of my nephew (who's 13 today!). He asked how, and I said, "because my nephew's cute." I just barely stopped the "too" from slipping out. But he's cute in the same way my nephew is cute. I can't explain it. They're just similarly cute.

Did I just sexually harrass my new boss? :scared:

[GOPisEvil]

1. Only if your boss found it offensive.

If not, you're OK. :-)

[David Dunham]

2. No. Sexual Harassment Doesn't Work Upward

[Rainbowreflect]

22. I had great comeback pop into my head,

then I remembered no sex threads. :evilgrin:

[matcom]

3. would you sexually harass me?

PLEASE???

go ahead, tell me i'm pretty! :D

[Bertha Venation]

5. matcom, you have the cutest yellow ass I've ever seen.

How's that?! ;)

[matcom]

7. PERFECT!!

:bounce:

i just LOVE harrassment like that!

:loveya:

[Kamika]

4. if you had been a guy and your boss a girl : Yes

Now it was a compliment

[Bertha Venation]

6. hmmm... well,

I'm a lesbian and he's straight, married, Catholic. I guess I've got NO worries.

[Kamika]

12. that wont help

The only thing you got going is the fact you're a woman and he's a man..

A straight married catholic guy saying a lesbian woman is cute would be considered harrassment..

A gay Man calling a straight married catholic woman cute would be harrassment...

such is the feminist logic

[Bertha Venation]

15. "feminist logic" ?

How's that?

[Kamika]

18. the logic

Is that they assume all men are evil, and want to put women down, just because they are men, and women aren't evil.

So when a woman says a guy is cute it's "ok" but since men are "evil" if they say a woman is cute it's harrasment, since men are evil and only said the woman is cute since he wants to degrade her etc

[VelmaD]

20. *rolls eyes*

Kamika, you've had your brain washed by the Right-wing about what feminism really means.

And stop lumping "feminists" into one big monolithic entity and claiming to know how we all think.

[Frangible]

28. Eh, she's right

Go ahead... ask your male coworkers what would happen if they said a female coworker was "cute". It's a different set of rules. So much for treating people equally :shrug:

[VelmaD]

31. I know what would happen...

nothing. Calling a female co-worker "cute" is not sexual harassment. I know this because I completed my agency's annual sexual harassment training not 2 weeks ago. Hell, I've been told I looked cute by a co-worker within the last month.

Find me a link to ONE case where someone was found guilty of sexual harassment for calling a female co-worker "cute". Just one.

This is all right-wing nonsense put out into the medie as a means of minimizing the support for women and men who are victims of sexual harassment.

[Bertha Venation]

23. Bullshit.

VelmaD said it better than I could; I've said enough.

Oh, hell, okay. One more time.

Bullshit.

[Kamika]

26. great...

no offence but can't you two do better then "rolls eyes" and "bullsh*t"

I mean really..

[VelmaD]

27. Sometimes that's the only appropriate response...

to someone spewing right-wing talking points.

[Frangible]

30. That's a fallacy

Ad hominem, poisoning the well to be exact.

"Just because a fact is ignored, does not make it less of a fact." -Aldous Huxley

[VelmaD]

34. If anyone is "poisoning the well"...

of the debate around here, it's the person spewing the right-wing, anti-feminist rhetoric.

[pmbryant]

29. Uh, where'd your hear this?

On this logic, I must consider myself 'evil', and my partner must consider me so as well.

:crazy:

Peter

[wellstone_democrat]

33. my what a bullshit interpretation of the law

And, yes, women can harrass men in the workplace through the creation of a hostile work environment in general or by specific acts.

But, thanks for the "right wing talking point" version of the law!

[LuLu550]

8. no, you said "cute"

if you had said he reminded you of your nephew because he has the same kind of rock-hard ass you nephew the Chippendales stripper has, then your might be in trouble.

[Lars39]

9. Does he know how old your nephew is?

I um, insulted the intern who was assigned to me while I was in the hospital. Something about him not looking that old, like he still played with Legos. :0 I can blame it all on the morphine, though. :)

[Bertha Venation]

14. yep, showed him a pic of when Tory was 11

He's 13 today. The boss barely blinked. Just asked "He's out in California?" Then we chatted about San Diego. :shrug:

[Lars39]

19. Sounds like no harm was done.

He's probably thankful for his young looks. Go in peace, BV! :)

[GainesT1958]

10. No, you didn't...

There's not a male boss in the country...heck, maybe in the WORLD:eyes: ...who wouldn't take that as a compliment, and NOT as a "proposition"!:D

Now, maybe if you'd told him he had a "cute tush" or something like that, he might be taken aback (well, MAYBE he would!:eyes: ), but not what you said in comparing him to your nephew. Probably the most he'd do is ask to see a picture of your nephew!

B-)

[Adams Wulff]

11. No.

Your actions didn't create a hostile work environment, nor did you proposition him with a quid-pro-quo situation.
Remember, the sexual harassment statute in Title XII of the Civil rights act of 1964 is a discrimination statute, not a free speech statute.
If only corporate HR drones would get that!

There. My 100th post.

[displacedtexan]

13. A friend of mine just did the same thing... sort of...

She's a museum docent (in her 70's), and the young man (a newly hired curator)is 30-ish. When introduced, she said, "Well, aren't you just a refreshing piece of eye candy!"

Boy, she got called into the HR office and summarily scolded. The young man, however, had flowers delivered to my friend at the museum.

[Bertha Venation]

16. re the HR scolding -- see Adams Wulff's post

:eyes: at HR departments.

[xchrom]

17. nah -- that's not harrassment

complimenting his extra large package -- maybe.

[Bertha Venation]

24. ew.

ew!

[mmm]

21. Insulted perhaps, harrassed no.

[camero]

25. judging from my hotornot rating

That would not offend me in the least. And I used to hate being called cute. Always liked handsome more. :)

[Demobrat]

32. If he felt harassed

it was harassment.

[geniph]

35. It's harassment if the person finds it intimidating

if they don't find it intimidating or demeaning, it isn't harassment. That's one of the reasons it's so hard to define; it's almost completely subjective.

But I have *never* heard of a case of sexual harassment being successfully prosecuted because someone called a co-worker "cute." Puh-leeze. Anita frigging HILL couldn't win her case!

:eyes: