So, I need some advice.

[Dark]

OK, so I'm going on a third date with a nice guy, but I feel like it's just not clicking. I want to tell him, but I'm not sure how, or if I should do it on the date or wait til afterwards and call, or do it in person.

I just want to know whether or not I should do it on the date or later on, and if I should do it in person or over the phone.

I'm still new to this dating scene thingie.

Any help's appreciated.

[fizzgig]

1. i would do it before the date

no sense in wasting his time or yours

[Dark]

2. Thanks, but it's a little late to cancel

I'd been debating this since the first date, and wanted to see if it would go away.

It hasn't improved, so I decided today that I'm going to end it.

[Haole Girl]

3. I'm not going to give dating advice...

I'll just wish you luck... and send a hug. Good luck &...:hug:

[Dark]

4. Thanks. I want to let him off easy, cause he's really nice, just not for me.

:-)

[Chan790]

5. As a guy...

who takes a few dates to get comfortable...since you didn't do it already and you say it's too late to back out; I'd go on the date and keep an open-mind. If you still feel this way at the end of the date...do it face to face.

Be honest, tell him you don't feel any chemistry. All those lines that people use to do the dirty work...suck. Just be real about it, but not mean. Don't do it on the phone..that's tacky. Don't make him meet you someplace so you can break-up...that's cruel.

I often use, with eye contact and clear body language: "I'm really not feeling any chemistry with you and I'm pretty sure I'm not right for you either...I think we'd both be happier if we moved on." Honest and to the point. It's just a third date, you don't owe him anything but a modicum of decency about it.