Having a horrible weekend

[Qanisqineq]

I want to cry but can't.

Learned my cousin died yesterday when a train hit his car. It is finally hitting me tonight that it really happened. Doesn't help that my husband is in Iraq and I have no family around here.

Plus, I am having surgery on Tuesday and have to get by alone.

Sorry to be so depressing.... just had to get it off my chest.
:cry:

[still_one]

1. You are not alone

Things will be better tomorrow

[Catch22Dem]

2. Aw man

I'm sorry you're all alone. You know, we're all real people. If someone lived in your area and you didn't have anyone there, I'm certain someone would be more than willing to pop in and visit. Maybe bring you a book or magazine or something. Perhaps even some contraband ;)

[ugarte]

3. Prayers for you

The saying goes that God never gives you more than you can handle, but sometimes it seems that way.

[Semi_subversive]

4. For what it's worth Tolania

I'm praying for you and your hubby. And crying is good for the soul.

[Stephanie]

5. Is there any family that can stay with you for your surgery?

If you have a sister, or your mother could come, you should ask them.

[Catch22Dem]

7. Or a brother or father

:shrug:

[Stephanie]

8. sorry

paradigm would be *my* family...

[Qanisqineq]

9. No, they are all 15 hours or more away

[Stephanie]

Maybe you have a friend that would hang out with you.

It would make it easier. And most friends would be happy to do it. People like to do things like that - being supportive - it makes them feel good. Don't do the surgery alone if you don't have to. It will ease some of the stress.

[zbird]

6. Big hugs sent out to you Tolania.

So sorry to hear about your cousin.

Good luck on your surgery Tuesday.

Don't worry about coming here to vent... you're among a lot friends here. We've got big shoulders.

:hug:

[Fovea]

10. I hope this finds you better

Don't try to confront everything at once.
Just take it as it comes.
Be well, and I wish you luck.

[Qanisqineq]

11. Thanks everyone

for the kind words. It usually doesn't bother me too much. But tonight I feel very alone.

[bubblesby2002]

12. Sending good thoughts and good luck your way.

:hug:

[flamingyouth]

13. I'm so sorry, Tolania

I'm thinking of you. :hug:

[nini]

14. So sorry about your cousin..

that's got to be rough with all the other stressful things going on for you now. I will be keeping you in my prayers for your surgery and for your grief over your cousin. I hope things get better for you soon and you are reunited with your husband.

Keep us informed if there is anything we can do to help you through this.

:hug:

[Qanisqineq]

15. It didn't seem real

until I saw his name in his local newspaper online tonight. It hurts more because he was estranged from the rest of the family for the past year or so... over money owed, which now seems so stupid.

[nini]

24. That is so sad..

I know so many families who let things like that happen.. and lose so much time together. We never know what tomorrow will bring.. So sad for all of them to have that extra burden now.

Hang in there and again we're all here if you need us.

:hug:

[AliceWonderland]

16. Good thoughts to you, Tolania

I hope you get through this painful time. Best of luck with your surgery on Tuesday.

[grasswire]

17. are you a military wife?

Aren't there some sort of support groups that help military wives? If you aren't anti-church, you might phone one nearby and ask for some pastoral care.

[Qanisqineq]

18. yes I am

but I don't live anywhere near a military base (my husband and I lived apart the last couple years because I was in graduate school and he in the military)

[Skittles]

19. you're not alone, Tolania

you have us. Don't apologize for unloading, we are here for you.

[CanuckAmok]

20. Tolania...where are you?

This is where the good ol' DU Regional Support Program would kick in, if there was one...

[KCDem]

21. big hugs to you

I wish you good vibes for tomorrow's surgery. Life can sometimes be incredibly lonely, huh?

Sorry to hear about your cousin as well.

:hug:

[latebloomer]

22. This is rough!

I can't imagine living with the constant anxiety of a husband in Iraq-- you must be a strong person! I will be thinking of him and holding him in the light.

Also, my sympathies on the loss of your cousin-- that is tragic.

Please feel free to call on us for support-- we are a very kind bunch.

[Rhiannon12866]

23. I am so sorry, Tolania!

This kind of thing tends to put things in perspective for the rest of us. I will be thinking about you tomorrow and sending healing thoughts. I have had surgery three times and know it can be frightening, especially if you are alone. Fortunately, I wasn't, but that's one of the times that you feel most alone in the world. I hope that it isn't serious.:-(

I am also so sorry about your cousin. What a time to face surgery when I'm sure you need to be with family. Just remember that your DU family is here for you and that we care.:hug: