A question for those of you who've lost your mates

[geniph]

My husband is working on a major remodel for a client whose partner died in December. The client invited me to come see the work John's done on his house today. I'd sort of like to take him some flowers, as this will be his first Valentine's Day without his partner (they were together for something like 20 years). My question to you is, do you think that would be too painful for him? or would that be a nice remembrance?

[Insider]

1. would be nice

to ME, a nice arrangement. as long as it wasn't a single flower, or roses...

edit:
apologies. i have NOT lost a mate. just chimed in.

[geniph]

2. It's a good thing you said that

because a single rose is what I had in mind! Yikes, I guess that could remind him of both his loss and his singleness.

[notadmblnd]

4. I wouldn't want it done for me

My husband passed in Oct last year. I still lose it (my composure) if someone brings it up or reminds me that he's gone

[deurbano]

8. My deepest condolences...

I am so sorry to read of your loss.

[geniph]

9. I am so sorry for your loss

and the losses of the others here. May time ease your pain.


:hug: if I may.

[Bronco69]

3. I would take a nice arrangement

but not roses. And definately not a single rose. :-)

[commander bunnypants]

5. I think that would be a nice gesture.

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DDQM

[msanger]

6. you could invite him for dinner

It might be nice to not have to spend the first anniversary alone. Of course, it might be more painful to spend it with a "couple."

From my experience, any act of kindness is appreciated. And if you can figure out what the widower would actually like, so much the better.

Your heart is certainly in the right place.

[adamblast]

7. Dinner? Flowers? Nearly anything will be fine...

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>>From my experience, any act of kindness is appreciated. And if you
>>can figure out what the widower would actually like, so much the
>>better.

>>Your heart is certainly in the right place.
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I second that... It's the thought, they always say. Be natural, be sympathetic, and treat him like he's made of flesh and bones, not glass.