The concept "Love at first sight"

[Deja Q]

:D

[fishnfla]

1. My beautiful wife of sixteen years, the first time I laid eyes on her

I said to myself, 'now theres a woman I could spend the rest of my life with'

I can still picture her walking off that elevator.....

[DarkTirade]

2. Too complex a question to answer.

Sometimes love at first sight can be defined less by how someone looks than what kind of person they look like. And if that assessment is spot-on...

[zingaro]

3. I chose "empty lust only" but would add

that sometimes that lust isn't all that empty. :9

I do not, however, buy the notion of *love* at first sight.

[SPKrazy]

5. OH dammit!

don't be reasonable

be a romantic

lust isn't empty

people fall in love

:hug:

[zingaro]

8. dude...I hear you! Life hasn't sucked all

of the romantic right out of me. I'm the swooniest of mooniest sappy pains in the ass, trust me, but I think all that "love at first sight" stuff is total bullshit lol.

I think love is built, it's a process, it's a discovery, it's a curiousity, a satisfaction, an intertwining, a co-mingling, an abiding trust, a miracle, an electricity generated over time, a transformational substantive change in oneself. It's like creeping ivy - you didn't even WANT the shit on your house and suddenly *poof* full coverage. And you're left standing there thinking "shit, how'd that happen" and you might even want to pull it down but you can't because it's just So Very Pretty and you're *taken* with it, frivolous as it may be...

But I don't think it's possible for "love" to happen instantly. I think you can absolutely want to fuck someone inside out the instant you lay your eyes on them, or smell them, or touch them, but I don't think you can LOVE them in that instant.

I think that you can grow into love with someone you've NEVER seen and have that all dashed upon meeting them.

And I think that love can be damaged and even destroyed over time.

But none of that is instant. *Love* is not Minute Rice. Not even close. ;)

Not that I believe Love is for ME anymore. I'm done with that nonsense. I'm going to join a convent and dedicate my life to...oh shit, there's a problem with this plan. Why didn't I see it sooner? Anyway, I've sworn off Love. I'm going to spearhead a 12-step campaign for the rest of us jaded crushed-and-broken folks. ;)

:rofl: I'm so jaded I ought to be green.

[Deja Q]

14. Lust is empty.

But love transcends lust.

[puerco-bellies]

4. It happens right after you mentally comitte to your current sweety.

If you are lucky in life both individuals share the same feelings and are romantically unencumbered.

[elleng]

6. Its

chemistry, natural, nature.

[Fox Mulder]

7. I think it's a bunch of crap.

[youthere]

9. The instant I met my husband I knew he was the one...

now we've been married for twenty years (together for 22) and he's still the one. Funny thing is..I didn't even like him that much when I first met him...but there was that Murphyesque part of me that said, "This is the guy I'm going to end up marrying."

[Blue_Tires]

10. i've loved a precious few women at first sight

but it was never returned in any case....

[hunter]

11. Real for me.

And entirely unexpected.

[MissMarple]

12. Pheromones. n/t

[CatholicEdHead]

13. True

You get that lighting effect every so often, of course in my experience it tells me now to run away as I am due for a big fall if I continue on that road.

[Seedersandleechers]

15. Happened to me

when I was married for 10 years, and 8 months pregnant. The love was engaged to be married but "love" won out.