How to address an age gap, A 41 year old woman and a 25 year old guy

[Womblestuffer]

is this age gap too great?? How about a 41 year old guy and a 25 year old woman??

[Robb]

1. It's fine either way.

The only drawback I can see is not understanding one another's pop culture references. :)

"Who the hell is Spiro Agnew?"

[Dookus]

2. nothing inherently wrong

with either situation.

Enjoy.

[Adams Wulff]

3. Demi, it's a little late to be wondering now.

[Womblestuffer]

4. lol

[Fleshdancer]

5. He's of legal age.

there was an 18 year difference between my parents and they were soul mates. If it works, it works...as long as everyone is a consentual adult of course.

[Scaramouche]

6. Do the math...

Does 25 go into 41 more that 41 into 25...

Tip the waitress, I'll be here all week...

on edit: rimshot

[Adams Wulff]

8. Speak for yourself, bub!

[Scaramouche]

17. On peux faites le maths...

Using the French formula, divide the male's age in half and then add 7 years for the perfect female match...

[Another Bill C.]

7. That's not much difference.

My son had a relationship with a woman 17 years older. He wanted a family and she didn't so it didn't go very far.

I had a relationship with a woman 22 years younger. It worked for a while until she felt old age creeping up on her -- it was me.

[GOPisEvil]

9. Who cares? If they're happy, then it's all good.

:-)

[LynneSin]

10. Works for me

:shrug:

Why should men have all the fun with younger folks

[Womblestuffer]

12. LynnSin.........I posted both combos, She's 25 and I'm 41......

and the attraction is more mental than physical, I rarely find women who I can really talk to. She's a self acclaimed nerd and we have similar interests.

[lolly]

11. Is the Age Gap too Great?

For what?

[Nikia]

13. It depends on the people

If they are not too old or too younger for each, that is what matters. They should be sure to honestly discuss if that is an issue to either one of them before they marry or move in.
They are both old enough to be considered mature people in the eyes of socity. If one was in their late teens or even a few years younger, there might be some issues that way especially if the older party has teenage children.
In the case of the older woman, younger man though, the couple should be honest about whether they want children, if that is really possible, and whether it is good for their relationship to strart trying for pregnancy right away.

[DuctapeFatwa]

14. Few people will comment on it in 20 years, even though a mere 10 yrs ago

it would have been a crime.

[alwynsw]

15. No problem here.

Whose business is it except the two involved?

[Skittles]

16. to whom do they have to address this issue?

whose business is it? If they are two adults and no coercion or brainwashing is involved what is the problem?

[camero]

18. I agree with you

It is nobody's business.

[hippiechick]

I don't have a problem with it, but ...

I'm 37 and considered dating a 22 yo last year, but the more time we spent together, the differences were just too great.

I guess it depends on the individuals involved, but it's nobody's business to legislate it ...


:hippie:

[kodi]

19. "Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediments".

still good, after all these years.

[DrWeird]

20. pretty pink, baby blue...

laaady!
So what if your head has a couple of gray hairs?
I think it's kind of funky
(in a Claire Huxtable kind of way)

You show me how it's supposed to be done,
I'll make sure you have young fun!

[tom_paine]

21. Not at all. If two people are in love, then good for them!

You shouldn't give a shit what anyone thiks, especially in matters of love.

Hell, even if you are not yet "in love" do what you want.

When I was younger, I'd be with older women and no worries (about the 25-41 range). I don't have an obsession with them, but I never turned one down (provided I found her attractive peronality & looks-wise) based on age alone.

Besides, the old canard that an older woman can teach you a lot is TRUE TRUE TRUE!

Go for it, and screw the prudes who pooh-pooh you!

[voice of reason]

22. nothing inherently wrong

But I had a 40 yo women friend who was seeing a 26 yo for a few months and they just eventually realized that they were in different and incompatible life stages and ended it. That doesn't mean this would happen to all such relationships, but it's probably best to address any perceived problems earlier than later and make sure you're both ok with it.

v.o.r.

[geniph]

23. I'll never figure out this double standard

I mean, you have 72-year-old guys marrying 19-year-old women, and having kids, and hardly anyone blinks an eye. Paul McCartney, in his 60's, marries a pretty young lady in her 30's, and that's perfectly fine. Yet let a woman even look twice at a man more than 5 years her junior, and people flip out. Why?

I figure, if you can carry on a conversation with the person, then you're suited. So long as everyone's of legal age, the ages really are not anyone else's business. The only time it's even any kind of consideration is if the woman is past the age of childbearing and the man wants children and insists they be his own. Mother Nature's little joke on us is that men can continue to engender children when they are 100 years old, presuming they can get a woman to hold still long enough.

[DuctapeFatwa]

24. It's one of those odd places where East and West fleetingly meet, and

interestingly, East wins.

In the west, a woman's greatest value is her sexual attractiveness.

In the east, her greatest value is as a producer of sons.

[camero]

25. It happens both ways now

I dated a 19 year old when I was 31 and took alot of stuff. It kind of contributed to the break-up.

[qwertyMike]

26. Ask Demi Moore

and Asthon whasshisname

[qwertyMike]

27. I was 40 when my 23 yr old g/f got pregnant

My first born (sigh)
We had a son 2 yrs later
We separated 2 yrs later.

Daughter's 18 now, the boy's 15
WE ARE VERY CLOSE (tthe kids and I)

The age difference was he main reason. I felt like I had THREE kids.
Loved her though.

[Lady Freedom]

28. Well, I can't say a thing against it!

I'm 25 and my man is 50(but you can't tell it!)

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[ronnykmarshall]

29. I could not see myself with a 25 yo.

25 year old guys are too much to handle. All the sex, day in, day out!

Good lord! I'd be a mess.

[beevul]

30. Hey, I am a 33 yr old guy with a 46 year old GF!!!

Shes my soul-mate.:loveya: We are both virgos, with birthdays 3 days apart.:pals: We read each other minds, and finish each others sentences.:loveya:

I have never been in such a good relationship.:)

Within the context of legality, the age gap is meaningless. If you love that other person, I mean REALLY and TRULY love that person, age means nothing. If your family and friends care and respect you, your happiness will be enough for them. Happily, everyone in my family loves my GF, and is happy for us.

[populistmom]

31. If it's right for them, so what?

I have had a lot of life experiences for someone my age (lots of moving, travelling, and cultural exposures and experiences as a child, was a mom at 20, married many years) that I tend to have more in common with men who are old personally, but we all have different needs and experiences, so it may very well be right for her. Who am I to judge someone else's relationship? :shrug: