What are your favorite non-physical qualities you appreciate in the gender of your choice?

[Radical Activist]

Sorry if someone has already posted this.

Sure, looks matter but what other some other things that turn you on? I don't mean things that are important in a relationship. I'm thinking of non-physical things that get you excited.

Predictably, I'm a sucker for women who are political activists. There's one woman I knew for a little while and finally asked out after seeing her lead chants with a bullhorn at a protest rally. I was drooling. :loveya:

[mitchum]

1. A really vicious sense of humor

[Generic Brad]

2. Independence

Nothing is a bigger turn on than someone who does not need a significant other to feel complete.

[Radical Activist]

9. Me too

But it seems like they usually feel no need to date me either. lol

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

3. Strong Spirit And Intellect.

I also love sarcastic women, who can zing me right back.

[Fire Walk With Me]

4. Inner beauty.

[chknltl]

5. If a gal likes me first is a biggie for me! I am easy like that.

Oh, and to be left alone during football season is another handy trait.

[huskerlaw]

6. Intelligence

Obviously of the left-leaning variety. An excellent sense of humor. Kind-hearted, but not a pushover. Caring, open, moderately attractive...

Hell, who am I kidding? At this point I'd settle for male and breathing.

Well no...I think I'd still require the intelligent liberal bit. I'm not *THAT* desperate. Yet.

[LeftyMom]

7. Righteous anger.

Being pissed off at the world just to be pissed off isn't attractive, but being informed and angry about important things? I dig that. Smart, pissed off guys- hell motherfucking yes.

[Radical Activist]

15. Yeah

I get the righteous anger thing. Always nice.

[RoyGBiv]

8. Confidence ...

Independence, intelligence, and a clear awareness that she knows these things make her special.

[Chovexani]

10. Intelligence. And a wicked sense of humor.

My current BF is a math genius. He's so fucking smart that it's scary. I always tell him I'd hump his brain if I could. :D He's also painfully funny. I say painfully because we were IMing when I was at work the other night, and he made me get tea up my nose about four times. :rofl:

My GF is also smart as all get out and funny as hell. Our conversations can go from art and philosophy to science to trashy VH1 reality shows. I love her for it.

[Fleshdancer]

11. intelligence, passion, and humor.

My husband has all three plus he taught me how to tango on our second date. What's not to love? :)

[Connonym]

12. Intellect, humor, empathy and the ability to engage in silly conversation

These things are massively more attractive than any physical package.

[Radical Activist]

13. heh

you said package.


Sorry. I was watching a Beavis and Butt-Head DVD earlier.

[NMDemDist2]

18. yup, in that order too n/t

[Starbucks Anarchist]

23. I have at least one of those qualities.

:D

[Connonym]

34. yeah but the line for you is way, way too long

and I'm getting up there in years. I don't have that kind of time :-P

[Starbucks Anarchist]

44. In fairness, most of the people in line are just lost.

:P

[BlueIris]

14. Pertinacity.

[SarahB]

16. a man who can cook

:loveya:

[Radical Activist]

20. Interesting

Do you like good food a lot or does it have more to do with a man being willing to take on a traditionally female task?

BTW, I'm reading Shock Doctrine now. Its the kind of book that changes the way you look at the world. Great read!

[SarahB]

21. I like good food, not so much into cooking,

and I like the kind of man who isn't hung up on tradition either.

[Fox Mulder]

17. A sense of humor and intelligence.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

19. Kindness and a sense of humor.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

22. Kindness and intelligence

and, of course, being a Democrat; but that's part of being intelligent. ;-)

[HuskerDU]

24. Shared interests.

I like girls who like sports and rock-n-roll. My GF has been to more Cub games than me, but she actually likes some bands formed after 1990. It's always gotta be a give and take.

[graywarrior]

25. Strange, offbeat, weird, out of the norm, unpredictable and slightly pissed off.

[Radical Activist]

28. Yep

One inch button girls usually fit that description.

[Shine]

26. Unique perspectives, a quick wit, inner wisdom, compassion, humor

patience, optimism, a willingness to have an open heart...:loveya:

[Inchworm]

27. Personality and Compassion

I lucked out. :)

:hi:

[flvegan]

29. Oh, that one's easy

It's all in mindset. For example, if I can say one of the following two things, and still have her dig me...she's gold:

1. "So then once on the whaling vessel, he opened the petcocks and that fucker went right to the bottom of the ocean."

2. "After jumping the fence, it only took me a couple seconds to cut her chain. Once she was free, it was only a matter of minutes before she was safe, and then on to our house."

[LeftyMom]

32. But where would you find a crazy girl like that?

:shrug:

[flvegan]

35. veganfreaks.com/dumbasses

[LeftyMom]

36. That too.

:eyes:

[Oeditpus Rex]

30. A somewhat odd combination of

a "pioneer woman" spirit and a wonderful sense of whimsy.



Had that once. Blew it. :(

[DarkTirade]

31. Brains. Quirkyness. Geekyness.

That's the trifecta for me.

[Wapsie B]

33. Intelligence, kindness, sense of humor......

those are biggies with me.

[Adsos Letter]

37. Sense.Of.Humor. ... and intelligence...

[enigmatic]

38. self-awareness

That's a big one for me.

[Heidi]

39. Intelligence and kindness.

Respect for others. Willingness to help others without expectation.

These are qualities I admire in all people, not just guys. Here's to smart, kind, respectful and helpful people everywhere!

:loveya:

:yourock:

[Callalily]

40. In no particular order . . .

humor, compassion (as well as passion), and intelligence.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

41. Intelligence. Wit. Independence. Open-mindedness. Creativity.

Respect for me and mine.

I'm big on intelligence and independence, though, as well as respect. :)

[YankeyMCC]

42. Passion about something positive

like volunteering in the community, hiking, painting (anything creative)...anything like that.

[TZ]

43. Intelligence ,sense of humor

and the ability to be confident enough about themselves to be able to laugh at their self (in other words don't take yourself too seriously). Arrogance cancels out all the other good qualities to me.

[mainegreen]

45. Prompt and reliable.

Nothing ticks me off more than trying to spend time with a person who is neither prompt nor reliable.
My wife is both. It's heaven.

[SOteric]

46. Intelligence, Street Smarts, Common Sense and a dark, twisted sense of humour.

For example, see DS1.

[BreweryYardRat]

47. Smarts -- but it's so hard to find a smart single girl!

:(