How old is too old!

[Lady Freedom]

Do you think age matters in a relationship? If so, how old is to old in age differences?( pick which age you think is the cut off time)

[Lostmessage]

1. Is your boyfriend older then you Lady Freedom?

Age doesn't mean anything as long as he doesn't wear depends.

[stepnw1f]

3. Or is he younger...

Wink Wink

[Lady Freedom]

45. older

n/t

[Lady Freedom]

4. yes he is

No depends, but he has a heart as big as Texas( and no Bushy in it!)hehe!

[Lostmessage]

6. That's great

Don't get your heart broken like I have. I have given up all hope NOW.

[Sapphocrat]

12. That's GOOD, Lostmessage!

Didn't anyone ever tell you...? When you truly, TRULY give up ALL hope, that is when you open yourself to something truly good coming.

Nothing metaphysical about it -- it's just the way things usually work. When you're actively looking, you give off this... well, desperate sense. When you really give up, suddenly you'll find yourself much more alluring to the sex of your choice.

Honest!

[Lady Freedom]

14. How true!

I meet my guy when I was stood upon a date. We started talking and became friend! A little later we became a couple!

[Lostmessage]

17. I had my heart tore apart years ago and I put a wall up

I took that wall down and I had my heart broken all over again.

Sometimes It hurts so bad that you can't imagine how it feels unless you have been there.

[Bertha Venation]

29. oh, sweetie

:hug: :loveya:
I'm sorry.

[camero]

15. Why?

:shrug:

[Lostmessage]

18. I took that imaginary wall down and I had my heart broken

All over again.

[camero]

19. Who did that?

I know how hard it is to take down the imaginary wall. I just have to figure out what I'm gonna send ya. :)

[Lostmessage]

20. Aren't you sweet

How far are you from Orlando?

[camero]

21. about 95 miles

I'm closer to Clearwater.

[Lostmessage]

22. I might be getting a job in Marketing in Orlando

:D

[camero]

23. Cool

:D Have ya interviewed?

[Lostmessage]

24. I know someone that owns a business in Coconut Grove?

The town has Coconut in it and his wife and 4 kids help him run the business. It's suppose to be beautiful in that town and he said that I could work for him.

[camero]

26. I'm about 5 hrs away from there

It's a nice area though. The summers are hotter there than here.

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

2. I think

I'm going to punch someone right now.

[Lady Freedom]

10. That's not a nice thing to do.

Who, may I ask, is this poor punching bag?

[Lizz612]

47. Oh darling.

Remember I love you best :loveya:

[mykpart]

5. I voted 10 years, but

that's just for myself. I don't really care about other couples. Whatever (or whoever) makes you happy. It's too hard to find love in this world to rule out anyone.

[Lostmessage]

13. I voted 10 years also

Some men like younger women and more power to them when they get dumped as soon as the women is done with them.

[Sapphocrat]

7. It only matters...

...if you're trying to migrate to your partner's country, in which you must qualify on "skilled" merits, and you lose points for being over 44.

(Thank GOD for Australia's interdependent category! It doesn't matter if I'm 100!)

[Womblestuffer]

48. I love Australia, I lived in the UK till I was 15 then I came to the US

When I joined the navy we visited Perth and I realized that Australia seemed a combination of both countries, OH Tonia Butterly, where are you now and are you married?

[Rowdyboy]

8. Thats a tough question

One of my friends (age 50) has a 20 year old lover. They have nothing in common except sex. The child is totally out of his depth in conversation, realizes his limitations, and reacts with teenaged bragging and snobbery. How can this be a serious relationship?

I think a certain "generational" closeness helps a relationship. I'm glad my partner remembers the day John Kennedy was shot. I'm thrilled we share memories of Lassie and Captain Kangaroo. We relate on a shared level culturally (he's 5 years older than I am).

[murielm99]

27. There are exceptions to every rule.

My first husband was 22 years older than me. We got together in the first place because we had alot in common. None of the problems we experienced were due to our age difference.

He died after we were married for six years. He was only 49.

I have been married to my second husband for 25 years. We are only four years apart. We have a generational closeness, and we grew up in the same town, went to all the same schools. I can't honestly say it makes all that much of a difference in our relationship. That is not what drew us together, not what keeps us together.

Age had nothing to do with it for me.

[corporatewhore]

9. it depends on the age of the younger party

[Lady Freedom]

11. legal age.

[BrotherBuzz]

16. Nation of Islam

Had a bit about age that I found interesting, and outright sexist.

Men should seek a spouse half their age plus seven years.

My, what's a fifty year old woman to do?

[Edge]

25. Age matters...

I wouldn't go out with a woman who is older than me by about two years. Age does make a difference, not only for my reputation, but because I don't and wouldn't want to date an older woman.

I much prefer a woman who is younger than me.

[Liberal Christian]

49. Since women mature faster than men and keep on going

You're probably right to make that choice.

Sheesh.

[Nikia]

28. Around 10 years

From other couples I know, that seems to be around the upper limit. Depending on the couple plus or minus a few years. At around 10 years, they still feel like they are around the same age. If one is older than that, there starts to be generational issues and excusing the older one of being too old or the younger one of being too immature. When there is a big age difference, other people often question the motivation of the couple which may be unfair but don't you question the motivation of a well off 50 year old man marrying a beautiful 25 year woman more than if he were 30 or she were in her 40s?
Of course, it always depends on the couple. What do I know, I am 27 days older than my husband so we are pretty much the same age. Attitude has a lot to do with it. Soomething that I noticed with people around 10 years old than me is that some of them are much older than others. Some seem to be around my age, 26, while others seem to be in their 50s. I am talking mainly about attitude and behavior. A couple of a greater age difference with the older person seeming younger than they are and the younger person seeming older than they are might really work well even if they are 20 years apart.

[Bertha Venation]

30. Lady Freedom, Mrs. V. and I are eleven years apart.

We met when she was 47 and I was 36. We married a year later. We both waited a very, very long time to find our soul mate, and by god it was worth the wait, so:

Don't let anyone tell you that x-number of years is too many. Who is anyone else to judge?!

[Lady Freedom]

44. Thanks Bertha Venation!

:)

[Rhiannon12866]

31. I suppose it could get ridulous, but I don't see age as a big problem

In fact, most of the women I know are involved in marriages or relationships with guys at least 5 years younger than they are. Two successful marriages that I know well involve an 18 year age difference. The woman is older. I think it is the coming thing, and it's about time, LOL!:D

[populistmom]

32. It depends

When my husband and I met, I was 18 and he was 27. Would I want my daughter doing that when she's 18? No, no, and no. We were at different places and he was much more ready to be serious than myself even if I was a rather serious and reasonably intelligent 18 year old. Now however, just short of 32, I'd probably have more in common with a man who was 45 than a 30 year old and wouldn't hesitate to date someone probably up to 50 or so if I were seeking a new relationship. I can't imagine a younger man being able to offer me what I would need on all levels.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

33. No such thing, and here's why:

Couple 1: 50 and 30 (diff = 20).

Couple 2: 25 and 13 (diff = 12).

Any questions?

[lolly]

36. Point Taken

The older you get, the less it matters.

Maybe should be expressed as some sort of percentage.

Even when you get older, however I think I would draw the line at

Anyone as old as or older than either of your parents.

Anyone as young as or younger than any of your children.

[Nikia]

38. My uncle ran into a problem with daughter's friends parents

He divorced his wife and started dating a 19 year old girl when his daughter was 15 year old. Not only did his children not see her as a step mother figure, his daughter's friends stopped coming over to his house. The parents had a negative opinion of this relationship and thought that since he was interested in a young woman that he would want their daughters as well. One woman even called him a "baby raper" at a high school sporting event.
If you have teenage children, you might want to think twice about dating teenagers.

[Burma Jones]

34. I am 10 years older than my wife

BUT - her parents and oldest sister are older than me.

[Bossy Monkey]

35. Varies from couple to couple

Alice is 13 years younger and we're doing fine, except for my incipient senility. I advised her firmly not to get involved with me 'cause I'm too old, but she would hear none of it. Guess she was right. Bridging an age difference works for some people, doesn't work for others. People's maturity level and compatibility depend only somewhat on calendar age. Good luck to you.

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

37. Wanted to come back and say

Age should never stand in the way of anything. Never ever.

[Rhiannon12866]

41. I agree, Maggie

And how are you?:hug:

[supernova]

39. I think the older the two people are the less difference it makes

I mean who cares if like Berth V and Mrs V you're in your 30s and 40s? Passed a certain point, your maturity/experience levels kind of even out.

I think, however, it does make a huge difference if one of the partners is very young. You change so much and your expectations change. And you quite possibly could pick someone who may seem "sophisticated" and "wiser" but that person could turn out to be manipulative and hurtful. Or you could simply reach the age when that person is no longer as interesting to you as they once were.

[Rhiannon12866]

40. This is excellent advice.

I would never be interested in the guy today that I thought was cool at 15. People change, mature, but at different rates. It all evens out when you get to a certain age, LOL! Love or friendship.:-)

[durutti]

42. 2 year difference.

I'm 20, so no younger than 18 and no older than 22.

[0007]

43. Generally speaking 'tis easy to set standards for oneself

But in reality it is all in the person. We think we're in control but love controls us. Love is a power that no one controls.

[youngred]

46. It depends on the age of those involved

:shrug:

A three year difference among teenagers can be huge, amongst those older...not so much

[Lady Freedom]

50. kick

:dem:

[Rhiannon12866]

51. The older you get, the less difference it makes

At 86, my grandmother became involved with an "older man." He was 90, I kid you not. He was nothing short of amazing. My grandmother, unfortunately, had outlived two husbands, and this was the youngest man of the three. I wish that she had found him much earlier.:-)