I need love from the Loungers

[nadine_mn]

I am seriously (series) crying as I type this:

Ok I have posted before about my issues w/ my mom so I won't get into it but here's the deal:

Mom is 56, has ulcerative colitis and brain anuerysms (she has had them for about 15 yrs - they are clipped but she has mini strokes and seizures) She is very thin and not strong. She is also stubborn and stupid..yes stupid I said it. She knows her health is bad and she is weak, but 3 yrs ago she adopted a 6 month old German Shephard. I tried to talk her out of it - I mean it was my suggestion for the rescue (she wanted a pure-bred puppy) but I hoped she would go for an older (3-5). She had recently put down her 11 yr old GSD (hip problems and cancer) - he was over 100lbs and she had problems w/ him until he got sick (problems being he would drag her around the block on walks). She had been to dog trainers etc, but she kept thinking it was all the dog's fault.
So - the reason the dog was at the rescue was because he was a fence jumper...and when we went to pick him up he jumped over two fences to get to us. She knew he was young, strong, and a jumper...she still adopted him.

Fast forward 3 yrs, she has gone to puppy school w/ him, and she has sent him away to doggie boot camp...the problem...he jumps fences. He is a healthy 75 lbs GSD and a strong mother f*&$#. I weigh well over 300, I was holding his leash loosely when he decided to go charging after a neighbors dog - the leash flew out of my hand so fast I had burn blisters. My husband tackeled him before he could jump the fence, my mom just walked away. She now chains him to a tie-out with a prong-collar for him to potty, he doesn't go for walks, he is in a kennel all day while she is at work. He is becoming territorial around the house and her.

In Oct we took him for a week to socialize him and walk him, (we have 3 80lb dogs and a cat) - hoping maybe this would help calm him down. My mom lives 30 minutes away..recently he got loose from her and her hand was so bruised (due to her medical condition) nshe couldn't take care of him so we took him again and we have had him for the last 2 weeks.

She wants us to keep him (which really means she keeps him then when he gets "problematic" we take him until she misses him again}. My husband and I have told her that we can't (we rent and we are already 1 pet over the city limit). She says that I promised her I would take care of him him if something ever happened to her or if she dies...which is true. This is cold, but if she dies I would use some of my inheritance to help buy a home where we could have him. I haven't told her that, just that of course we would care for him if she dies. We told her to bring him back to the rescue, she refuses...she says I have to. She has decided to kill herself so we are forced to take the dog. This is my mom in high-drama mode. She says that in one sentence, the next asks if we want to go to a play with her.

I think I have gotten her to accept that she will have to take him back to the rescue..we are bringing him back to her Sat.

The problem:
(1) My brain knows that it is for the best that he go to the rescue and find another loving home, but my heart loves him so much. We have visited him at my mom's regularly these last 3 yrs, our dogs love him, my husband adores him and I love him. He is really a wonderful dog, smart cute funny and yes strong but he responds well to commands and training. So he will be easily placed.

It just makes me so mad! she knew she couldn't care for him, she knew he was too strong for her...and she blames him!!!

Once she got tangled in the tie out and fell, she called me crying because...wait for it...he didn't check on her to make sure she was ok. What?

Imagine adopting a child who is deaf, sending the child to learn ASL (which the bright happy child learns) then refusing to learn it yourself. Then blaming the child for not being able to communicate with you and after 3 years "sending" the child back. Ok my apologies for the example, it is not the best..but I am too upset to to be clever.

2) I know she will adopt another GSD soon if she gives up this cutie.


Why does she insist on GSD - because she has decided that they are "her" breed.
Why not an older dog - she doesn't want them to get sick and die on her.

I have been over this a million times w/ her.


I love this dog and it breaks my heart....

here he is with 2 of my dogs (my ma is the background)

[Chovexani]

1. I am so sorry!

You poor thing! :hug: :loveya:

I will give you and the furbaby good Lounge juju. I hope things work out okay.

[DarkTirade]

2. ...

:hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

3. ~

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