I'm going to die alone.

[BlueIris]

No, not now.

But man, I have never felt that my relationship prospects were bleaker. GOD. It's not that I'm bitter, exactly, it's just that I'm...bitter.

[Rising Phoenix]

1. for you

:hug:

[BlueIris]

2. Awwwww. Thanks. Now can you fix society so that I have someone to date?

[Rising Phoenix]

3. sure

maybe it will help me get a date too....

[MissMillie]

4. I know exactly how you feel

I've never liked myself more... and never had fewer prospects.

Oh well... I have my cats.

[BlueIris]

5. Yeah, I have a really sweet little puppy now.

He's a Welsh-Corgi mix. Totally cute. But he's not a boyfriend/life partner, you know? Plus, I think he's gay.

[MissMillie]

7. the best we can do

is make our own lives so interesting that we don't think about whether or not we have a partner.

It's not always easy, especially at night when, after working so hard on all that interesting stuff, you just wish you had someone to talk to about it all... and to hold you.

[crispini]

31. I completely agree.

It's so easy to find someone to do fun things with but it's a lot harder to find someone who really wants to be with you, full time.

[Tyler Durden]

32. He can hang out with one of MINE:

The noise alone should keep you from being lonely.

[alarimer]

6. I feel the same way

Almost 40, I feel like no one will ever want just me. They are all looking for someone younger, taller, more model-like or something.

Of course I am pretty picky myself and really do not want to date right-wing rednecks, which is all there seem to be around here.

[gmoney]

8. we can all die alone together...

:/

[BlueIris]

9. Yes, let us bond in our Lonely Hearts Club.

[crim son]

10. I hear you.

In my case it's not because there are no prospects, but because I'm emotionally stunted and find it impossible maintain a relationship. I'm unhappy in one and I'm unhappy alone. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[ThomCat]

11. I'm sorry.

Me too.

I'm going to end up in alone in a nursing home, in a wheelchair, rotting in front of a tv, waiting for a nurse to come change my diaper. x(

No husband to be there for me, no family to come visit.

I guess this is part of why I'm so social now. I want to be able to remember people when i'm all alone.

[MissMillie]

12. I will whisk you away LONG before that happens

You'll be bored w/ me, but you'll have me anyway.

[ThomCat]

50. :)

:hug:

[BlueIris]

13. ...egh.

Maybe we shouldn't think quite that bleakly, right...right???

[ThomCat]

51. You're right.

:)

[Midlodemocrat]

38. With a personality like yours, you'll never be alone.

You can come and live with me.

:hug:

[ThomCat]

52. You're awesome.

I'm sure you here that quite a bit. :hug:

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

14. Me, too.

Nobody will even come looking for me, and my cats will eat me. *sigh*

[DS1]

15. People in relationships still only have a 50/50 chance of going first

;-)

:hug:

[northzax]

16. someone has to

or are you saying that if you had a partner, you'd want to die first and make them die alone? seems unfair.

[BlueIris]

21. I was expressing my frustration at the lack of suitable partners in my future.

Particularly as I become more sophisticated, educated and enlightened and those around me continue to disintegrate into pools of sub-human slime.

[northzax]

22. well, with that attitude

you'll be all partnered up in no time! :)

[BlueIris]

24. Cute. My "attitude" isn't the problem, our cess pit of a civilization is the problem.

[northzax]

25. well you enjoy your quest for a fellow advanced being

have you considered a scientology meeting? I hear they are nice and advanced out of the cesspool too.

the rest of us will just stay down here with our partners.

[Tyler Durden]

17. You KNOW, if you had a picture in the GALLERY....

Some of us "taken" people could at least OGLE you.

Bathing suit shots are good, too.

Just sayin'...

[AllegroRondo]

18. where is the Gallery?

[Tyler Durden]

30. Here:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_oet&address=358x166

[BlueIris]

20. Right, because I just have this overwhelming need to be 'ogled.'

And have people evaluate my worthiness on the basis of what they think of my "bathing suit" shots. Because people just love being objectified that way. It's not like this was a post about lack of prospects for relationships or companionship in our sad, sorry, broken, bigoted and deeply misogynist world. I just need to have someone ask to ogle me. It'll be my last wish, before dying (alone).

[Tyler Durden]

29. Just trying to be cute...

I sowwy.

Unless you're pushing 90, I'd say your chances of dying alone are slim. And that only because you probably wouldn't get around as much.

What's going on anyway? Every so often, life sucks you know. Life sucked for me for about 10 years, and it was because I WAS in a relationship.

[MissMillie]

37. that's exactly what I was thinking when I read that

there's a big difference between having someone in your life, and being ogled. I get ogled all the time. It's creepy coming from someone you don't know.

[Bucky]

49. You're right. A bathing suit photo is exactly the opposite of what you should do.

What you really need to post is you without a bathing suit. That'll show 'em.

;) Literally.

[J-Lo Biafra]

57. Mean to tell me your killer sense of humor hasn't snagged you a mate?

[supernova]

19. I sometimes have that fear

wish I didn't. x(

I don't want to grow old alone. :-(

[lost-in-nj]

23. I feel the same way.....

maybe if I stop looking....
I'll find it....
yanno that
I found you when I wasn't looking saying

maybe you to!!!!


lost

:hi:

[LanternWaste]

26. May I say only this....?

May I say only this....?

It's much better to be miserable because you're alone than it is to be miserable because you're with someone.

You're one of the Good Guys (Good Gals?)-- Something will happen to lift you out of your funk, and as for me, I hope it happens soon. :hi:

[IzaSparrow]

27. My friend John is looking for something to do...

whaddaya say?
He kinda looks like Sting fwiw.

[IzaSparrow]

28. no pun intended

:silly:

[supernova]

34. Where does your friend live

and would he be interested in a buxom blonde? :D

[IzaSparrow]

55. He lives down the street from me...

cbus, OH.

I'd have to check. I don't know if he's equipped to handle you.

[Brewman_Jax]

33. I know the feeling

I seem to keep coming in 2nd behind "someone more interesting". :(

[Deja Q]

35. .

:hug:

A good spouse is hard to find.

[Redstone]

36. I hope your day has gotten better than it was this morning whenyou posted this.

If not, I hope things get better for you tomorrow.

Redstone

[Critters2]

39. I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

I do, too, FWIW. And the way I've been feeling lately...the sooner the better. And the inscription on my tombstome: THANK GOD THAT'S OVER!!

But, I do hope you feel better soon.

[Gormy Cuss]

40. Spring's coming.

That's usually a good season for your kind.



Sometimes being alone sucks. Hope your prospects look better soon.

[no name no slogan]

41. That's okay. Dry spells are good.

The dry spells make it easier to appreciate when we are alone.

I'm alone myself, and I have to say that I'm enjoying it much more than I thought (and this is after ten years of marriage and a couple years of relationships, too, mind you).

[LisaM]

42. What are you looking for?

My S-I-L looks far younger than her age. She is constantly dating younger men (and is in a relationship now with one who's married to boot). I have tried to assess for her what I think would be a good match and she resists, because she wants a "hottie" (to give her credit, she works very hard, and successfully, at being fit and looking good). But no matter how hard she tries, one day she will be aged out of the hottie market. And then what? I keep encouraging her to find an age appropriate person, likewise fit, with whom she has some intellectual compatability and she fights me.

Now, I know the BlueIris is intellectual, poetic, etc. Are you seeking intellectual companionship too? Because this is what Joanie (I'll call her that, not her real name) simply won't do. It's a hottie or nothing. She's terrified of acting her age, and I know that she will be alone one day. I'm lucky that I found her brother. We aren't perfect, but we are so well matched in interests and beliefs.

[yurbud]

43. I made it to 43 before I found a keeper

[redqueen]

44. I also know exactly how you feel.

Honestly, I've just resigned myself to it. Easier than feeling blue. And one thing's for sure... we're not alone in being alone.

:pals:

[some guy]

45. But...but...

that hot guy hit on you the other day, and you're the color of the year!

and the goddess Iris...

:D

:hug:

[EstimatedProphet]

46. I agree with you. You are absolutely right.

You're bitter.

[Bucky]

47. Shit, Iris, just think how bad you'll feel when you *really* hit bottom.

No, seriously, I know the feeling. It could be the universe is telling you to put it on the back burner for a few months. If things are really bothering you, it's totally cool to seek some counseling or explore some off-beat social venues to shake up your routines. I've found the best way to deal with a rut is to get out of it.

[pitohui]

48. we all die alone EOM

,

[Evoman]

58. beat me to it.

[Grateful for Hope]

53. BI

I am sending you a mega hug. I never post here (I think this is my first post in the Lounge), but, tonight I decided to read the posts in the Lounge (for own "not good day" reasons), and I saw this thread.

Mega big hug:

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

54. I think that ultimately we all die alone

we can have loved ones around

at the moment I don't know who would be there

I'd rather go quick

then wouldn't know it.

[Radio_Lady]

56. BlueIris, please see my PM to you tonight.

You may be signed in and miss it. That's happened to me a couple of times.

I think you have to refresh your browser and likewise, your current DU session, before the "NEW MESSAGE" prompts comes up.

Anyway, thought I'd give you a heads up.

In peace,

Radio Lady Ellen

[Evoman]

59. Dying alone is better than dying married to someone who is bitter.

People who are happy are more fun to date and marry.

Just sayin'.

[Blue_Tires]

60. i know of what you speak....believe me nt

[Catbird]

61. Relationships are no guarantee (of anything)

My parents had a long and generally happy marriage. They both died alone, as we all do.

My mother had dementia and gradually lost all her memories of her family and friends. My father died before her, in the same nursing home where she was staying. He meant nothing to her by that time, and we did not take her to his funeral.

My mother died in advanced dementia. I was with her when she died. I doubt that she had any idea who this woman in her room was. Perhaps she was aware that someone was with her for her passage; I don't know. I think one of the nursing home employees might have stayed with her if I had not been there.