Ever been in love?

[Inchworm]

I'm a cheezy melt...

*big sigh*

We needs music!

:hug: gnight

[DarkTirade]

1. I thought I was once.

Now I'm not sure if I actually was and things just changed, or if I was just being young, stupid and hormonal. :P

On the plus side though, she had big boobs and the sex was good.

[Inchworm]

3. To me.. boobs

are a plus

:)

[DarkTirade]

11. Oh, these were more than just A plus... :P

I think I kinda got spoiled actually. After that boob size just didn't seem to matter anymore.

Why am I talking about my exes boobs? I should get to sleep. My brain is starting to go haywire.

[Inchworm]

12. could I interest you in a superior

tin foil hat?

:rofl:

[DarkTirade]

13. Everyone with half a brain knows that tin foil hats AMPLIFY the mind rays!

Duh!

[Inchworm]

14. tryin to tell ya

you aint safe!

tell it! tell it!

:party:

[DarkTirade]

15. *mumble mumble* can't eat the hats* mumble mumble* cheese bites back

[Inchworm]

17. millions of peaches..

:hi:

[DarkTirade]

19. You wanna talk about conspiracies?

The peaches are the biggest one of them all! They taste sweet. They want you to eat them.

But they're peach colored and fuzzy and shaped like butts, and they have something brown and inedible in the center.

They're trying to teach us to eat our own asses.

I'm still working on who the 'they' in this scenario are though. I believe they're related to the same people who are in charge of the shoelace conspiracy.

The plastic tips at the end of shoelaces are called aglets. Their true purpose is sinister.

[Inchworm]

23. mess with the drunk guy.. I see lol

eat a peach

reguardless of the context

noone has werms

everybody is a wick

aglets rock. weeeeeeeeeeeeeee

:P

[DarkTirade]

24. Ahah! You knew the true spelling even though my addled brain didn't.

You must be in on the aglet conspiracy.

The milk must be delivered!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear Inchworm...

Indeed, I have been in love, sweetie!

I enjoy being in that exalted state even now, in the last third of my life!

Goodnight!

Sweetest of dreams...:hug:

[Inchworm]

4. G'night sweet lady

:hug:

[Heidi]

5. Am.

:)

Sweet dreams, friend. :hug:

[Inchworm]

6. cool stuffs

I'm gonna be good tonight :P

:hug:

[RoyGBiv]

7. Yes, and ...

I think it should come with a Surgeon General's warning.

[Inchworm]

9. muahahah

:thumbsup:

[LeftyMom]

8. I think I've posted about it once or twice.

:rofl:

[Inchworm]

10. I feel nekkid!

:rofl:

[UndertheOcean]

16. Yes

feels like another world

[Inchworm]

20. yup!

another world..

:hi:

[crim son]

18. Two times.

I don't trust the feeling that much. Sleep well.

[Inchworm]

21. what do you replace love with?

if you dont trust it. Silliness?

:shrug:

[crim son]

26. Silliness. Is that based on an impression you've garnered

or something Freudian?

I've replaced love with a variety of things over the years: drawing, writing, home decoration, childcare, piano, teaching piano, cooking, drinking, philosophy and lately, adopting cats. None of these are sufficient but my experience with love is such that they are all preferable.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

22. Twice. It sucked both times. I really hope it doesn't happen to me

again.

[Inchworm]

25. aint gonna say me too

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

27. Yeah

.

[Inchworm]

35. Cool

and Good Mornin!

:hi:

[Indi Guy]

28. I've been in love too often for my brain...

...

[Inchworm]

36. Thats a good thing

isn't it?

:hi:

[MissMillie]

29. yes... but

it's never been mutual.

[Inchworm]

37. Drat

:hug:

[Callalily]

30. Yes, and hope to

be in love once again. *sigh*

[Inchworm]

38. Yay!

That's a wonderful thought.

:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

31. Been?

I AM in LOVE!

[Inchworm]

39. Woot!

I'm happy for you. It IS a cool thing isn't it?

:hi:

[Pierre.Suave]

41. Very Cool...

So cool it is impossible to even explain how cool it is.

[sakabatou]

32. Well yeah

Why do you think I'm with my gf since March of '07?

[Inchworm]

40. Sweet

keep it up.

:hi:

[Tommy_Carcetti]

33. I think I was in love once....

She was Brazilian, or Chinese, or something weird. I met her in the bathroom of a K-Mart and we made out for hours. Then we parted ways, never to see each other again.

[Inchworm]

42. That's a neat story

Could have been love. Only you know.

:hi:

[Tommy_Carcetti]

49. I wish I could say it was an original joke on my part...

But I'll have to give credit to the writers of "Anchorman" for that one! :)

[Inchworm]

52. well darn- and here I was all romantic and stuff

:rofl:

Bliss rules!

:P

[supernova]

34. I was once

but that person was very damaged and took it out on me a lot of the time.

I can't say that I've ever experienced it from someone who is capable of returning it. It would be lovely, I suppose. I don't know yet what my present situation will turn into.

I'm glad that you're happy though. :-)

[Inchworm]

44. Thank you

I hope your present situation blossoms :)

:hug:

[blondie58]

43. yep, yep, yep

actually, I am at the present time. Going on two years and we met on the internet. This time around, I was really careful to pick someone based on the content of their heart, not something superficial like their looks or their bank account. I found a good one- and it just feels right. I've never been more sure of anything in my life. So, Inchworm, you;re saying that you're in love, being a cheezy melt?? :-)

[Inchworm]

46. Yup, yup

I am. I was all smooshy when I started this thread and wanted to share. Reading it this morning I'm getting all schmoopie again. There are probably better words to use, but cheezy melt, smooshy, and schmoopie work just fine for me. hehe

:hi:

[ProfessorGAC]

45. "You Know, I Thought I Was."

"To that Tina lady. She wasn't right for you."
The Professor

[Inchworm]

47. I'll be sending this in

for translation. ;)

CSI quote?

:hi:

[ProfessorGAC]

48. Nope

It's from "That Thing You Do". I just love that movie, and when i saw the OP, it was the first line that popped into my head.

Sorry. Got a little James Joyce on everyone.
The Professor

[RadiationTherapy]

50. My wife hates that I consider "love" to be largely a chemical reaction

"love" being the cheap connotation it is in our culture; sort of the 'flash in the pan' thing.

I am a fan of time spent and usually largely disregard my friends' relationships when they are less than a year old; not in a wet blanket sort of way, but I am just not that interested except for the sex details.

"new person" sex IS pretty hot, I admit.

Congrats, you gooey, cheezy thing!

[Inchworm]

53. Yea

"what is love" would be an odd thread indeed.

Thanks.

welcome to DU! :hi:

[BarenakedLady]

51. Yes.

Congratulations Inchy. Enjoy.

:hug:

Mmmmmmm cheeeese....

[Inchworm]

54. Thanks, you

If your ears ring on occasion...

:rofl:

:hug::loveya::hug:

[Evoman]

55. I have strong feelings of attraction and affection for my girlfriend.

But not so much that it over-rides the rational parts of my brain. I call that love, but others might not. But this sort of gooey, yelling loudly, melting stuff just isn't me. When I was younger, I was a fairly angry child. When I was a teen, I started getting interested in psychology as a way to get over my anger. Since then, I've developed skills to more or less shut off strong negative emotions, only letting them come through when it suits me. The side-effect? I don't get stupid about love, and my choices for relationships have been almost flawless (I've never gotten together with someone who has been bad for me, or screwed me over).

I really think people need to learn to control emotions better. It REALLY helps you out.

[Inchworm]

56. If it quacks like a duck

hehe. terms, labels...

I can come across much like you say. I use it as a defense for many of the same reasons you stated. Sad thing was that I never let anyone in until I was 38 years old. We just clicked. It was almost like I knew her all my life. And here I am... in love.

It is the bees knees!

:)

[RadiationTherapy]

59. That is interesting to me

I was a pretty oversensitive sap who had his heart "broken" (I no longer believe in this thanks to Frank Zappa - "broken hearts are for assholes...") too many times. I also had to learn to control very strong emotions; as a result I do not feel overwhelmed by love like so many do.

[supernova]

60. I still get overwhelmed by love

I don't mind the sensation of being overwhelmed; it can be quite pleasurable.

I'm just trying to find someone with whom it's safe for me to do that with though. So, I'm being rather standoffish right now, until I can figure out if he's going to treat me well or not.

[Evoman]

61. What a lot of people don't realize is that you don't HAVE TO go through that.

Everyone can learn to control their emotions, it's just that most people don't want to. And when they are not thinking rationally, they set themselves up to get hurt over and over. And it's like a broken record. It's sort of pathetic.

Now, this is usually where somebody comes on and spouts some cliche about how it's "better to have loved and lost...blah blah blah" or assures me that I'm never going to be happy unless I open myself to being hurt. And I find it all very silly. I'm not some sort of recluse. I've had more than my share of girlfriends and dalliances, and I've had plenty of fun. I've also got a long term girlfriend with who I share my life. There is no drama in my relationship, we never fight, I am at peace, and if something does happen (like cheating, etc) then it will end and I will keep on going.

I'm sorry if I sound defensive (and perhaps I am), but I am often lectured by lovey dovey people who have terrible relationships, are unhappy, and get all excited about all the love they have, when they have it. And then I have to put up with their sorry little sob fests when they get, as I put it, romantically pwned.

[supernova]

64. Well, in my case

am biologically wired to be very intensely emotional:

http://www.hsperson.com/

[Evoman]

68. So am I.

Didn't I mention that I was a very emotional, very angry kid? That's just an excuse. At it takes is a critical (but realistic) assesment of every emotion that pops into your head, and a determination to controlling them.

To be honest, when I get hurt or very threatened (i.e. when I twisted my ankle, or when I had to jump out of the way of a car that almost hit me) I lose that control and I get extremely angry and hostile (although in my defense, it takes me mere minutes to recover).

[supernova]

80. You make a lot of assumptions

If you ever met me offline, I'm probably the coolest cucumber you'll ever see, including yourself. Hot headed isn't my thing at all. In fact I tend to stay away from such stupidity.

I know very well how to have self control. I'm looking for someone with whom it isn't always necessary.

[Evoman]

102. Fair enough :)

[redqueen]

66. I'd much rather the roller coaster than the carousel.

To each their own.

[Evoman]

70. Yep.

Just don't come crying to me when the cart comes off the rails :P

On edit: Besides, have you ever REALLY tried to ride the carousel. Most people haven't, so they don't know how satisfying it can be.

[redqueen]

71. Wouldn't dream of it...

hehehe, but if I start a thread here about it, don't click it! :P

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

57. I love my family and myself - but I don't think romantic love will happen to me again.

And falling in love with someone is not on my agenda. I always end up hurt.So I have a guard up because it hurts me more and more everytime. Feels like a tank just crushes me. Sometimes I feel like I am the only girl in the world who wants a guy to love her but all I meet are guys who only want sex. And since I won't give that,I will rather stay alone.

[Inchworm]

58. Yea

I can see where love could be a hard horse to get back up on. I have a daughter and she practically spoke your words. "Sometimes I feel like I am the only girl in the world who wants a guy to love her but all I meet are guys who only want sex."

I think she bumped into love serving coffee in a diner. So, it may just happen?

:hug:

[MissMillie]

63. no, you're not the only one

you and I are in the same boat.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

72. Trust and forgiveness are two things that is hard for me to deal with ...

and it has been hard lately. I want a kid but I am no longer sure if I want a husband because I am always afraid that one day,his feelings will change and I will be left alone. I do have feelings for a guy right now and its so hard for me to trust him because of my past. I really care about this guy a lot.But I am always questioning his every statement and move - its like I have my dukes up in a boxing match. I don't want to be fooled anymore.

[MissMillie]

77. you're reading from the story of my life, except

that I had a child... w/ someone who of course left me and the child alone.

I want to be able to trust, it's just that trust and intimacy take time, and I have yet to meet a man who wants to invest the time. They want the sex first. I don't play that way any more.

The sad thing is that as I have gotten older, I think I'm all the more worth the investment. I like who I've become (the trust issues aside). I'm interesting, and loving and genuinely willing to share my life...

I run into two types of guys

1) The "I'm-in-this-for-what-I-can-get-out-of-it-right-now" type and the

2) I've been married and I'm never doing that again type.


I'll pass. Neither one of those guys is worth a moment of my energy. I have much more interesting things to do than to chase after a dead-end.

[RadiationTherapy]

A wise person once proffered me this bit of flame bait

"A man trades love for sex; a woman trades sex for love" Add most/many and I think it is useful.

Change the "male" and "female" to yang and yin energies and I think we are even closer to something worthwhile.

love...look into my eyes and kiss me!!

[RadiationTherapy]

83. A wise person once proffered me this bit of flame bait

"A man trades love for sex; a woman trades sex for love" Add most/many and I think it is useful.

Change the "male" and "female" to yang and yin energies and I think we are even closer to something worthwhile.

love...look into my eyes and kiss me!!

[MissMillie]

88. well, I'd like to trade love for love

and then after we're at that point I can start to talk about sex.

[RadiationTherapy]

89. That's part of the point, what is you partner looking for??

Presuming you are "yin" dominant, of COURSE you want love for love; the saying is a warning to all in my opinion.

There are plenty of people out there looking for "no strings" sex too.

I relate because I am a love oriented man, but my astrology indicates I am very yin dominated due to a proliferation of water and earth signs.

I have found that my long term relationship works well in part because I am more romantic with my wife than I am prone to and she is more raw sexually than she is prone to.

That's it! I am starting a thread!

[MissMillie]

93. ideally, he'd be looking for love

the sex would just be "gravy"

[RadiationTherapy]

97. If you were into astrology

I would tell you to look for a man who has a preponderence of "yin" signs:Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces, Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo

[redqueen]

62. YES!

I am. :)

[Inchworm]

65. WOOT!

:applause:

hehe

:hi:

[redqueen]

67. Heheheh... well I have been for a while actually...

the other person doesn't feel the same but I'm still enjoying feeling this way. :)

[Inchworm]

69. awwww

you just upped my schmoop levels!

:hug::loveya::hug:

[redqueen]

73. Hey... enjoy what you can right?

He's at least very fond of me... can't ask for more than that. Well I could, but that would be greedy. :P

[SallyMander]

74. Yeah :-)

He's asleep on the couch right now and looks so darn cute i want to curl up with him... but he needs the nap so instead i'm just smiling at the back of his head. :)

[VenusRising]

75. :o)

That's so sweet. I do that to ZI, too. :loveya:

:hi::hug:

[SallyMander]

76. You guys are the cutest

It's so obvious you're crazy about each other. I love it. :)

:hug:

[VenusRising]

78. We always joke with each other

It's amazing we have people who want to be around us because we're so sickeningly cute. :rofl:

[SallyMander]

81. LOL

I guess it might make the single-and-unhappy contingent a bit jealous...

But friends should just be happy for you! :)


:pals:

[VenusRising]

82. A lot of our friends are in that single-and-unhappy group.

And they are happy for us.

It's just that we would like to see our friends have the same thing we have with someone they really love, so we could be just as happy for them.

What can I say? We're bleeding heart spread-the-love kind of liberals. :)

[SallyMander]

85. Of course you are!

That's why you're here -- and why you're awesome! :D

I had a friend visiting a few weeks ago who was coming out of a bad breakup... i was a little worried that B and i being so happy would make her feel worse. She's one of those totally fantastic people who deserves the best of everything, but has just had bad luck in relationships. I hope she gets as lucky as i am someday!

[VenusRising]

86. My girlfriend said to me the other day...

"My man picker is broken" :rofl:

Poor girl. She has the worst luck I've ever seen.

[SallyMander]

87. "Man picker"!??!?!!

:spray:


OMG that's funny!!!

[Fox Mulder]

79. Nope.

[Inchworm]

84. Maybe it'll sneak up on ya

Ya never know.

:hi:

[1gobluedem]

90. I am in love

It's very nice.

[Inchworm]

92. Yay!

very nice indeed.

:hi:

[Fire Walk With Me]

91. Yes.

[Inchworm]

94. Woot.

:)

[Chovexani]

95. Aww. I am right now.

I'm happy for you. :)

My bf and gf make me STUPID. Like, I'll be in mid-sentence and just stop because I'm squeeing so hard on the inside. :)

[Inchworm]

96. HeHe

aYup...

Too much time together and your face hurts from the silly grin :D

:yourock:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

98. No.

In love with an idea, yes, a concept, the idea of a man I'd thought I'd meet at last--my heart ached, literally, when it fell through.

Not with anything beyond fantasy.

[Inchworm]

100. The concept isn't near as enjoyable to love

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

99. yes...

i have

am

:hi:

[Inchworm]

101. Yay!

is great

super

:hi:

hehe