Broken hearted during the holidays.

[redqueen]

Anyone else wanna moan and whinge with me?

Don't wanna share details... just commiserate.

[SallyMander]

1. Not broken-hearted at the moment --

but seriously empathetic.

:hug:

:hug:

:hug:

[redqueen]

5. Aw

Thanks, sweetie. :hug:

[SallyMander]

16. The worst part is knowing

only time will fix it -- but that doesn't help NOW -- and time is so damn slow... :(


:hug: again -- and let us know if we need to get together a Lounge posse and lay down some whup-ass... :evilgrin:

[redqueen]

18. No no...

he's still my best friend.

Thanks, though...

[SallyMander]

22. OK, then, we will let him live.

I hope you feel better soon sweetie.

:pals:

[redqueen]

6. dammit

dupe

[no name no slogan]

2. yay! sign me up!

I am totally alone during the holidays for the first time in years. And it's really not so bad. If anything, it's a hell of a lot cheaper.

[redqueen]

8. I've been 'alone' for years.

I prefer just being alone to this, I think.

[Solon]

3. Yes, my heart was ripped out soon after Thanksgiving...

sometimes I just want to cry.

[redqueen]

11. I have wanted to cry nearly constantly this week.

*sigh*

[Solon]

21. Nights are the worst...

Since the end of November, its been really hard for me.

I think you need a hug.

:hug:

[redqueen]

24. God, tell me about it...

Thank you... :hug:

[Solon]

26. Its hard being rejected...

Here I am, stating the obvious, but its true. It just sucks, sometimes I think I'm better off alone.

[redqueen]

29. It's usually not so hard... I'm used to it....

but I'm used to it being done by people that I barely know.

This was a whole new experience. :(

[Solon]

40. Its harder when you are friends with them...

I know that from experience. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I don't think anything I say will make the pain, the heartache, disappear.

My broken heart was a little more complicated, in the fact that she left me for her previous BF because he's rich. :(

:hug:

[redqueen]

42. Yeah...

I almost wish he'd do something shitty... so I can be mad at him instead of... *sigh*

[Solon]

46. I can't even get angry...

I'm too hurt to feel anger, if that makes sense. I don't know if it makes it any easier or not. Aw shit, I just feel like shit.

[redqueen]

53. Yup.

That's it in a nutshell. Shit.

[Solon]

57. ...

:hug:

[lizziegrace]

4. Not broken-hearted so much as alone

Lelapin's at her father's this year. There are always dreams of someone wonderful, but dreams don't come true.

:hug:

[redqueen]

12. I haven't given up on some dreams.

The love one though... yeah... bastante.

:hug:

[underpants]

7. Awww

:grouphug:

[redqueen]

13. Thanks.

It hurts so much.

[MissMillie]

9. my heart hasn't functioned in years....

not properly anyway. Too many pieces from too many heart-breaks.


the best you can do is remember all that is good in your life....

[redqueen]

14. It's hard at times like this...

it's fresh...

But yes, I'll get back there.

[VenusRising]

10. I'm sorry, honey.

:hug::loveya::hug:

[redqueen]

15. Thanks.

:hug:

[Parche]

17. Me Too

I will tell you mine if you tell me yours....:rofl: :hi:

[redqueen]

20. Not much to tell...

just garden-variety rejection.

[Parche]

25. MINE

Is garden variety family...................:cry: :cry: :hi:

[Phillycat]

19. Aw, I'm sorry.

There have been many years I've been alone on the holidays and it is horrible. It's like you don't want to fall for the whole cultural commercial fantasy that you have to be all partnered up and cozy, but you can't really help it when every image that surrounds you is of loving couples giving each other immaculately wrapped gifts while a golden retriever looks on.

I am not alone this year and I am very grateful for that. I wish for you that you either find your perfect mate or become happy in your solitude. :hug:

[redqueen]

23. I was happy enough in my solitude.

Alone I can handle easily... this is no fun.

[billyskank]

27. I'b always gud for a moad and a wheege.

:hug: for you.

I never know whad's whad eddy more. I thig I hab friends and den dey turn on me. It is makig me iddoo a fuggup too because I nebber know who I can drust. I just dend doo assube dad I ab not really impordad to anyone and eberybody is ready to leab me at the drop of a had. Probably it becomes a self fulfillig brobecy.

[redqueen]

31. Thanks...

I don't take too much personally (when thinking rationally, which isn't always)... but this is just so much worse than anything before.

*sigh*

[SallyMander]

32. Do you needz some DayQuil?

:hug:

[billyskank]

34. Somethig doo unblog by dose wud be gud.

:hug:

[SallyMander]

36. Here you go love

Feel better soon!

[terrya]

28. I'm sorry, redqueen.

The holidays can be tough sometimes.

Here's a :hug: to one of my favorite people around here.

[redqueen]

33. Aw thanks terrya...

I guess it's for the best that it happened before the holidays... I don't know.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

30. yes

just commiserate please

tired of details

[redqueen]

35. You bein snarky?

Wanna fight?

Cause I can damn sure sublimate this pain into anger. Easily.

[SPKrazy]

41. not at all

i am very sad and in pain redqueen

not snarky

[redqueen]

44. Oh I see...

:hug:

*sigh*

[SPKrazy]

48. thanks

i needed that right now

:hug:

i hope you feel better too...

[tigereye]

37. I'm sorry

:hug: for you.

Do something nice for yourself.

[redqueen]

45. Aw, thanks...

I'm trying to think of somehting... maybe whiskey?

[tigereye]

54. just don't mis it with Dr. Pepper!

I'm kidding.

[redqueen]

56. Perish the thought.

Thanks for another precious moment of smileyness. :)

[tigereye]

101. well, I could probably say some things that wouldn't involve smileys...

but then I'd have to send you a bill! :rofl:

seriously, I wish you well.

[Guava Jelly]

38. Just a hug...

:hug: I'm sorry.

[redqueen]

47. Thank you...

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

52. Anytime

You are quite worthy of love and happiness and I truly hope you find it.
:hug:

[redqueen]

58. Noooooooo...

not again... never again. :(

[Guava Jelly]

59. ..

I wish i knew the words to say.
But all i have is my empathy and ear and my hope that you do..
Find a mutual love and happiness.

[redqueen]

60. Honestly, I wish I could find it...

I really do.
:(

[Guava Jelly]

61. .

Of course you do.
You wouldn't be so sad if you didn't.
If you ever need to vent feel free to spam me.
:hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

39. Yes, I fall into that category

And I'm sorry you are going through it as well :hug:

[redqueen]

49. Thanks...

and my sympathy to you as well. :hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

43. That just stinks.

May your heart mend soon.

[redqueen]

50. Thank you...

:hug:

[IronLionZion]

51. How about a hug?

:hug: :pals: :cry: :grouphug:

[redqueen]

55. I could sure use 'em...

thanks. :hug:

[CTyankee]

62. Hear Emily...

There is a pain — so utter


There is a pain — so utter —
It swallows substance up —
Then covers the Abyss with Trance —
So Memory can step
Around — across — upon it —
As one within a Swoon —
Goes safely — where an open eye —
Would drop Him — Bone by Bone.

[redqueen]

66. Thanks...

*sigh*

[CTyankee]

71. At bad times in life, Emily Dickinson always "speaks" to me. I often wonder how

she connects to my situation so unerringly...

[redqueen]

73. Similar personality type?

I don't know... but it is interesting the way some artists can touch some of us but not others, and some artists resonate with others but not us... for instance I have never been able to really appreciate Bukowski's stuff, but I know others adore him.

[CTyankee]

95. Could be. I do know that at E.D.'s house in Amherst, there is a reproduction of

her white dress and some women touring the home beg to try it on! When I was doing a major paper on her in grad school, I started to refer to her as "Emily" and thought maybe I was getting close to the edge...:crazy:

[IndianaJones]

63. that which does not kill you only serves to make you stronger. nt.

[redqueen]

67. Indeed.

I think the stronger part comes later...

[ohiosmith]

64. I hardly know you, yet you are one of my favorite people. Anyone who would hurt you in any way is

undeserving of your affection. It always gets better. Always. :pals:

[redqueen]

69. Aw... you sweetie...

he didn't mean to hurt me, though... he's my best friend in the world.

Shit. :cry:

[Dystopian]

83. Through the pain.....

cherish your friendship. This is rare. I know exactly what you are going through...although I can't imagine anyone experiencing the situation I endured...it wasn't supposed to end, ever. It's been over a year, and we still remain best friends. We lived together for seven years.....
The first year was the happiest year of my life...and I still thank him for that.
I want him to find happiness....He's an awesome man.
I know your pain....time will heal.....
You will get through the pain...yet treasure your friendship.
Wishing you happiness....you will find it.
I really feel for you...I've been there.


:hug:

peace~

[redqueen]

89. I have SO far to go...

:cry:

I want to be the one that brings him happiness, goddamnit. :cry:

[Dystopian]

91. Broken dreams....

I understand....
I wanted to be that person, too. When we settled for the next best thing, it turned out to be the best thing. I know words don't really help in this moment....
Sending a hug...and know that even an unknown person can emphasize and be there with you in spirit...
I hope that all the love being sent your way is of some comfort to you...

:hug:


peace~

[redqueen]

92. It is a big comfort...

Thank you.

:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

65. I'm sorry.

:hug:

[redqueen]

70. Thank you...

:hug:

[supernova]

68. Oh sweetie

I consider you one of my best friends here,

:hug: :hug:

just means you're closer to someone who gives a damn.

[redqueen]

72. *sniff*

Thanks, gorgeous... I can only hope I'm closer to someone who'll want me, too.

:hug:

[WildEyedLiberal]

74. Me too, and it hurts so much

It wasn't even for very long, but I just felt so much... promise... with him... and then he got scared and took off. I really thought it could've been special. It would be easier if he'd just been an asshole and I could hate him, but I can't. I don't think I could ever hate him and that's what makes this so awful.

[redqueen]

77. I'm sorry...

I had one like that, years ago. I hope it gets easier for you soon... till then, I'm hurting with you. :hug:

[WildEyedLiberal]

81. Thanks

:hug: for you too.

[Whisp]

75. I'm in. no details either.

yet.

moaning and whinging here. :(

:)

[redqueen]

78. Aw...

:hug:

*sigh*

[Whisp]

80. a big bear hug to you, redqueen.

this too shall pass.
I know it doesn't sound comforting to you right now.

but. it. will.
it will pass
and somehow you will be stronger for it.

I look at this stuff like a balancing act of some sort.
Love lots, risk lots.
don't play at all and you may as well be half dead.
a broken heart means you had a very big one, before the shatter.

:hugs:

[redqueen]

82. Thanks...

*sigh*

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

76. I'm there......

:hi: :hug:


lost

[redqueen]

79. Hey you...

:hug:

I think I might do some serious drinking soon...

[MnFats]

84. i once got dumped, without warning, the night before Christmas Eve.

she wanted to exchange gifts the night before Christmas Eve, un beknownst to me, because she wanted to actually spend Christmas Eve with her new boyfriend. it was the meanness of it, the self-centered uncaring....well, don't get me started
it was a long time ago but it always crosses my mind at some point during the holidays.
we went out for a nice dinner beforehand, too.
like a lamb to the slaughter.....oh, shit.

[redqueen]

87. Aw...

That's beyond awful...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

I suppose my rough and tumble upbringing does have the bright side of having encouraged me to develop the ability to turn grief into white-hot anger at the drop of a hat... which isn't always a good thing, but in cases like that it sure comes in handy.

:hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

85. I'm sorry, darlin'

I didn't know.

:hug: :loveya:

[redqueen]

88. Thanks... and how could you really...

I haven't exactly been broadcasting it...

:hug:

Or, at least I hope I haven't been...

[LanternWaste]

86. Might I suggest some...

Might I suggest some serious drinking and a few movies that have nothing but car-crashes, buildings getting blown up, and the occasional line of dialog...?

Whoever he is, tell him to piss off.

Seriously though, for what it's worth, my pal once told me, "it's better to be miserable because you're lonely, than it is to be miserable because you're with the wrong person". But for all I know, I'm probably making it worse... I picked a bad day to give up sniffing glue.

[redqueen]

90. Thanks for that chuckle...

they're so few and far between... or hollow... lately.

You're completely right... better to be miserable alone than living a lie.

And thanks for those suggestions... they sound like what I need. A few UFC DVDs and a bottle of whisky would do me fine.

[Deja Q]

93. I will stand in solidarity, but after time one must move onward.

[redqueen]

94. Well this only happened Tuesday.

[blue cat]

96. I'm in the same boat

got lots of advise from fellow DUers. Bought 5 books to help me through it because I was leaning on my sisters too much - wanted constant reassurance from them. Somebody here recommended the book "He's just not into you" - great help. Also "It's called a breakup because it's broken" by same author is the best break up book yet that I've read. Check amazon for used books.

[redqueen]

97. Thanks...

No breakup, there was never a relationship that way... just best friends... but I dared to hope for more, and let my heart get carried away.

[blue cat]

98. We were never exclusive...

I just got too involved and imagined more. Reading about other people going through the same thing helps to feel not alone.

[Swede]

99. First time ever I won't be home for Christmas.

Mom's gone now and it wouldn't be very good without her.

[redqueen]

100. I'm so sorry.

:pals:

[SPKrazy]

102. oh i'm still moanin' with ya

no i'm not snarking either

i'm sad, i'm lonely, i'm overwhelmed with christmas convolutions, and it just isn't getting any better because i'm also sick

with a cold that is making me feel horrid.

:hug: :hug: to you redqueen

maybe tomorrow will be better... hope so

:hi: