Are you a "What you see is what you get" type of person?

[Shine]

in other words, are you fairly easy to read, or do people generally not know what's going on beneath your surface because you keep a lot hidden away? Some people are just more private that way.

:shrug:

Me? People can definitely tell what mood I'm in by how I'm acting. I'm not good at hiding my emotions.

Consequently, I would be a terrible professional poker player.

If I'm in a crappy mood everybody knows it.....but the same thing goes for when I'm in a good mood, too.

:hi:

[Shell Beau]

1. There is no guessing with me! I am laidback! People

always comment to me on how I just give off a laidback vibe. :shrug:

[Shine]

12. Hi Shell!

:hi:

[DarkTirade]

2. That depends entirely on how open-minded the other person is. :)

A closed-minded person will look at me and decide that they think they know who I am. And they will inevitably end up being wrong. An open-minded person will be able to keep updating what they know of me moment by moment and keep getting a clearer picture all the time.

I do tend not to broadcast things too loudly, but they're still there if you look. So I'm a much better poker player when I'm up against people who don't know me. :) Yet my brother can usually guess the cards in my hand just by watching me play.

[Shine]

13. That's a good point about the other person being open...or not.

I can see how that would make a difference. :hi:

[DarkTirade]

24. Well, a good portion of it

is the fact that A) I'm fairly quiet.
B ) I'm fairly laid-back and
C ) I have long hair and I'm a guy.

So a lot of people take one look and just decide that I must be some kind of stoner/hippie. Despite the fact that I'm more than ready and willing to kick their ass if they annoy me (j/k. I only use violence when it's appropriate. Like when they REALLY annoy me. :evilgrin: ), and the fact that I've never done any kind of drugs, my brain is a repository of all kinds of nifty and often useless facts, and I have an IQ somewhere in the 145-150 range.

So closed-minded people tend to judge me based on my appearance rather than on what's going on under the surface. Whereas open-minded people give me a chance, and they'll get to see what bubbles to the surface now and then. And they usually realize that since I'm pretty quiet, those surface bubbles are only a little bit of what goes on in there. :) Those who take the time to get to know me know exactly why I've never done drugs, and whenever they have a 'smart person' kinda question, they usually turn to me. On the flipside there are people who I've met who actually REFUSED to believe the fact that I've never done drugs. Just because I'm laid-back and have long hair.

[Shine]

25. You and I would get along just fine.

:pals: I'd have a beer with you anytime and I'm very open-minded. :D

:hi:

[DarkTirade]

26. What, you assume I drink beer too? :P

I keed, I keed.

:hi:

[Shine]

28. LOL, you know after I posted that, I actually did consider that you might not drink

:D

my hubby doesn't drink, so there you have it! I, however, do. heheh. :toast:

[DarkTirade]

29. I'm not a big beer drinker, but that's mostly because most american beers suck. :)

Gimme a Sam Adams or a nice microbrew or something though... and :beer:


:toast:

[Shine]

31. yeah, I'm with ya on the American beer thing.

they suck. I also like a good glass of wine. I don't drink that often, but if I do, I drink the GOOD shit. :thumbsup:

[DarkTirade]

35. Yeah, I like good wine too.

Unfortunately I can only afford cheap wine. :P Very little overlap there.

[Shine]

37. Well, if you're ever out here on the west coast, I'll buy. How's that?

:pals:

[DarkTirade]

39. Works for me.

I've got a half-sister over in Portland who I haven't seen in a while, so I need to get over there at some point anyway. :)

[WritingIsMyReligion]

3. I'm impassive usually, or fairly so.

I don't open up for strangers--feels weird to me. Consequently people are still learning things about me even after years of being around me, as I'm just not an open person about myself. I'll talk about any subject, but I generally don't bring emotions or any of that into the mix, and I generally keep conversations impersonal but for those with the people I really know.

[NewWaveChick1981]

4. Well, in most respects, I am.

I'm laid back and pretty easy to get along with. People always know where they stand with me. :) However..... there is a LOT about me that most people don't know. ;) :evilgrin:

[BarenakedLady]

5. No, but yeah.

Still waters run deep, and all that.

But then again, I'm not one to fake happy.

[Pacifist Patriot]

6. Nope. Because of my profession I often have to have a thick veneer of personna.

Stunned the daylights out of someone the other day when they found out I'd been struggling with pervasive body myalgia for four years now. No one wants to play poker with me.

[Shine]

14. Sorry about the myalgia, PP.

:hug:

[no name no slogan]

7. No. Still waters run deep

nt

[redqueen]

8. Mostly not.

I hide my feelings IRL.

[supernova]

9. Most people think I'm a Sphinx

I'm not that open with people I don't know well. It's not that I dislike anyone, I don't. It's more of an energy issue.

Being open with people I don't know very well can drain me emptier than a Sahara Oasis in a drought.

[Shine]

18. You're right, that "energy drainage" issue is an important one

as a hospice volunteer, I've become adept at being able to connect emotionally with a client, yet still retain an appropriate emotional boundary. It's a big piece of work, but vital in this line of service.

:hi:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

10. No, I'm pretty hard to read, I think.

[Shine]

19. I'm happy to see you today, SA!

Long time...:hug: :hi:

[bertha katzenengel]

11. god damn right i am

WYSIWYG

And if they can't read me, fuck 'em. I don't play games; if they want to, that's their problem. I usually take whatever anyone else says at face value. If they say "you misunderstood me," I can feed them back exactly what they said to me and ask, "what didn't I understand?"

:eyes:

just blowing off a little steam, i guess

:hi:

[Shine]

20. Yeah, what SHE said!!

:applause: I can totally relate. :hug:

[XemaSab]

15. I've got a lot of layers

:shrug:

[Shine]

21. yeah, but how many cover your badger?

:evilgrin: heh.

[XemaSab]

23. None

He's just out there in the open.

And yes, my badger is a he. :P

[Inchworm]

16. I try not to hold emotions

But only in front of certain people. I'm a lion! King of the Forest! Roar!



:D

[TrogL]

17. They call me Old Stoneface

[SPKrazy]

22. Depends

which SPK shows up I guess :silly:

seriously

I'd make a terrible poker player

I'm pretty easy to read

[Oeditpus Rex]

27. That would depend on how perceptive one is

You can hit some people in the ass with a brick and they'll hold out their palm and look up like they think it's raining.

I might be considered a difficult "read" by some because humor is my schtick. But then, most casual conversation doesn't lend itself to deep insights.

I don't often volunteer personal information, but I'll answer pretty much any reasonable, well-intentioned question straightforwardly.

[Redstone]

30. People know EXACTLY as much about me as I want them to know. I don't know where

that fits in your classification, but there it is anyway.

(Except that Mrs R knows when I'm having a pain spike. How, I'm not sure.)

Redstone

[Shine]

32. Hi Redstone!

:hi:
what's tricky about what you wrote is I bet a bunch of people THINK they might have you figured out, but they really don't know shit.

In other words, and this happens with everyone, I suppose, assumptions get made about people based on how they look or even the vibe they give off.

Does that mean those people are easy to read, or just being easily typecast by dimwits? :shrug: Who knows.

[Redstone]

34. Christ, I don't even have my ownself figured out. So you're right. Regarding your original

question, there's another factor: There are people who are good at figuring other people out, no matter the "figuree's" nature. (And if "figuree" isn't actually a word, it should be.)

I'm one of those people who can read anyone quickly, for better or for worse. Ask Mrs R if I've EVER been wrong in my impression of anyone; she'll confirm that it's only happened once. And I'll freely admit that the one person who fooled me, made a fool of me indeed.

Oh, by the way, about your 14-year-old son? Go back and re-read the advice I offered him when he was 13. It all still applies.

Redstone

[Shine]

38. I love ya, Redstone.

:pals: you're a good guy. I appreciate your insights and sharp wit. Yes, I remember that excellent advice you posted before about teenagehood.

Did I tell you MrShine and his men's group did this whole Rite of Passage Ceremony for him this past summer? It was pretty awesome and he gained a lot from it...in fact, ALL the men who participated in making it happen gained a lot from it. It was powerful on many levels.

It involved a surprise all-day solo 8 mile hike in the woods, where he met up with various men from the group along the path, who gave him specific tests:

Test of Independence: being willing to leave MrShine at the path and going off on his own, into the woods, without knowledge of what was coming.

Test of Heart: connecting on a heart level through having a deep conversation about what it means to be a man with another guy in the group, one-on-one.

Test of Humor: dealing with the practical joke of having a dildo unexpectedly strapped onto the back of his backpack and having to continue the hike with it hanging there. :rofl: It was taken off at the next "test" spot. He was mortified.

Test of Strength and Courage: climbing 30 ft up a huge tree 3 different ways on a ropes-course like set-up

Test of Intelligence: doing a series of mental challenges, which tested his ability to think outside the box. They were Mensa tests and he passed 4 out of 5 of them.

At the end, he was taken to the land of one of the guy's and there were about 20 other men and a couple of ShineBoy's friends and their dad's too, waiting for him with a big feast, including his grandfather (my dad) who'd flown in from the east coast to attend this event. Everyone was invited to bring a special token to give him that symbolized what wisdom they had to share about being a Man and to speak about it, in turn, around the fire.

He now has a very cool medicine bag full of very special treasures that he will cherish forever.

Not every boy is as lucky to have such a powerful and profound welcoming into Manhood. He seemed to have "gotten it", but I'm sure he'll appreciate it even more as he gets older.

:hi:

[hippywife]

33. Unfortunately, most of the time, yes.

I definitely don't have a poker face. My emotions can be so easily read. Especially these days when I have so little patience for the stupid.

How are ya, my swine sister? :hi:

[NMDemDist2]

36. nope, I am relentlessly cheerful most every day

and I have hidden depths that few know about

:hi: