My Mother:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

mostly i criticize her because she has had about 10 years of trouble with my coming out.

so i wanted you guys to know that she has been very supportive of lisa and me lately.

she came over for thanksgiving and was extremely happy to be there

she just invited me to christmas and said "please make sure to bring lisa"

so all in all, i feel after years of being bitchy about her, i should let DU know that my mom is really trying to make our relationship work.

so thanks for hearing me out.

[Breeze54]

1. That's awesome, lionesspriyanka!

Were you the one having an issue with Mom about her birthday last month?

If so, I'm glad you all are working it out and getting closer.

If not, I'm still glad you all are working it out and getting closer. ;)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. nope that wasnt me. but thanks anyway

[auntAgonist]

2. ....

:hug:

Merry Christmas!

aA

[La Lioness Priyanka]

18. merry christmas and happy hanukah to you too

[Fire Walk With Me]

3. I'm glad that she's realized that being on the outside isn't as nice.

[GreenPartyVoter]

4. That's really cool. :^D

[lost-in-nj]

6. I'm happy for you.....

thats great about your Mom... coming around.
She probably sees how happy you are.... :)

When my brother came out to my Mom she just said..... finally...

:bounce: :bounce:

lost

[SallyMander]

7. That must be a great feeling

:hug:

One of my closest friends i've known my whole life married her girlfriend last summer. Her parents were an absolute model of acceptance & love (and funded an AMAZING and gorgeous wedding!). Made me wish all GLBT people could receive that kind of support from their families!

[redqueen]

8. Awwwww...

That made me feel all melty and squishy. :)

So happy to hear that...

[Eurobabe]

9. that's awesome

glad to hear :grouphug:

[SeattleGirl]

10. That's great to hear.

Unfortunately, accepting that ones child is gay/lesbian/bi is still not easy for a lot of parents. I'm so glad your mom is working on becoming more accepting.

[IndianaJones]

11. you're wrecking the asian mom curve too! nt.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. i am the curve wrecker.

[AnneD]

12. Glad to hear she's coming around....

sometimes it takes folks a while to absorb it all. You envision a certain life for your kids and frankly, no parent envisions a gay life style for their kids-so it takes a while for them to adjust. This can be the start of an even better relationship.

[Oeditpus Rex]

13. That made me mist up a little

Here's one for Mom. :hug:

[Maddy McCall]

15. I think what it boils down to is fairy-tale dreams.

Many parents set expectations for their children when those children are infants. They base their expectations on fairy tales. Parents mature just like anyone else...and part of that maturity is realizing that some of those fairy-tale dreams were unrealistic.

Sounds like your Mom is sharing your dreams for yourself now, instead of expecting you to live up to hers.

That's good!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

16. its funny. thats EXACTLY what my father said as the reason why their marriage failed

[Maddy McCall]

17. That's why many of my friends' marriages failed.

That observation above--I made it about some of my friends' marriages when one or the other would call me to rip on their spouse. (One time, I had the husband on the house phone, and the wife on the cellphone, on phone to each ear...LOL.) Anyway, she never expected him to drink every weekend. He never expected her to put on 30 pounds. He blamed her for his drinking, she blamed him for her overeating. They had these ridiculous notions about what marriage was supposed to be like, and neither wanted to drop those "dreams" to accept each other. They divorced.

Other friends' marriages failed over her wanting to work outside the home, or him not spending every evening at home with her and the kids...etcetera etcetera etcetera.

Just being a little flexible, dropping all those silly expectations--and some of those marriages would have survived. :(

[MrMickeysMom]

19. I guess true happiness is knowing your child's happiness (unconditionally)

:thumbsup:

Good on ya!

[EstimatedProphet]

20. That's very encouraging

Sometimes it can take parents a long time to accept that their children are taking a different path.

Sometimes they never do. It's good that yours is.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

21. thanks.

:hi:

[av8rdave]

22. That has to be a burden off of your shoulders....glad to hear it!

[Shine]

23. Great news, lioness.

:hug: It's nice when our mother's can get past their own hang-ups to support their children and their families.


I wish MY mother would do the same thing. :( She and my dad divorced over 35 yrs ago and she continues to carry resentment, judgment and bitterness towards him. She refuses to have ANYthing to do with him and consequently, my kids will never know the pleasure of having both their ONLY living grandparents in the same room together with them at the same time.

Being her daughter is a great opportunity to practice Patience, Compassion and Acceptance. Let's just say some days are easier than others, in that regard.

It gets particularly challenging around the holidays, as you might imagine.


Sigh....

[bridgit]

24. cool...

:)

[skygazer]

25. I'm so glad to hear that

It's hard to be on the outs with your family. :hug:

[Maestro]

26. Very nice to hear that.

Good for mom.