I need to ask this...

[lost-in-nj]

I love you all.....
you know this, I have gone through so much with all of you....
but

how can "we" as a group
or as an individual
place judgment on some one
from a message board????
:shrug: :shrug:

someone posts something and we "think" we know how they feel
what they meant in the post......

but we don't
do we......

I know I have been accused of things that made no FUCKING sense.....
because no one, not one person asked me what "I", "ME", "LOST" meant

they just assumed....

fuck them

so much for being progressive.......



lost

[Redstone]

1. Don't take it to heart.

Redstone

[lost-in-nj]

5. hi

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Nothing but good things to you and yours!!!!!

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:


lost

[YellowRubberDuckie]

2. Honestly, if I cared what people thought about me here....

I'd go insane and would never post here. I get ignored more than anyone here, it feels like sometime. These are idiots on the internet who have no idea who you are. I know it's not easy to ignore it, but you have to if you want to keep your sanity, your self worth...
:hug:
Duckie

[SPKrazy]

3. I relate to that actually

I think that people do assume things and jump to conclusions on a message board

some people for instance read a subject line and reply to that

*sigh*

:hug:

of course

I'm making assumptions by replying to your post that I think I know what you mean, but I don't know without asking.

So if I don't, then let me know...

:hi:

:)

[Fire Walk With Me]

4. If I ever felt confused by any of your posts, I'd ask or PM to find out.

I know that there is always a person behind a post, with varied motives and experiences, so I try to not take anything at the text-only level.

I hope that you find more folks like that in your online experience than not. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

9. thank you

this is what we need


questions....

:hug: :hug:

lost

[Droopy]

6. I've been misunderstood many times on here

Sometimes it's my fault because I wasn't clear in my post or I worded something the wrong way. Other times it's from people reading to much into what I have said. I just try to be as clear as I can and I go over my posts before I hit the 'post message' button.

[TK421]

7. I know what you mean. Screw them, this is only a message board

and if I have said something to piss someone off here, and it wasn't my intention then I certainly will not lose sleep over it.

[Oeditpus Rex]

8. Well... it starts with a Snickers bar

And escalates from there.




:popcorn:

[lost-in-nj]

10. I love snickers......

:hug:

you are LOVED by many

me included........


lost

[Oeditpus Rex]

11. Aw, gawrsh

:blush:

:hug:

'S'weird — I was thinking just a little bit ago about how of all the crap my mom screwed into my head, the one that still plagues me the most is the idea that if someone doesn't like me, it's because I did something wrong. I know it's crap, but I still sorta believe it. :shrug:

[DarkTirade]

12. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt

I know there have been times when I've said something that was meant as sarcasm, but someone took it literally. So I try to give others the same benefit of the doubt.

Of course, odds are good that anyone else I encounter will be less sarcastic than myself... :P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

13. how to we judge anyone?

how is the message any different from life?

[lost-in-nj]

15. because

when we speak we annunciate...
I know when I post
I post like I talk.....

I try to keep it "normal"
but sometimes things slip through
I will bet you have posted like you speak
and it was taken in the wrong context.....

I don't want to start anything here.....
I just think we all should breath a few times
before we answer a post.....
I have always believed

You can't judge a book by its cover....

ever



lost

[Rabrrrrrr]

14. Wow - the last person I heard spewing such cloaked anti-Jewish hatespeak was wearing a white sheet.

:eyes:

Racist.

:mad:






















:hi:

:rofl:

[lost-in-nj]

16. oh god

i hope
truly hope

you are kidding.......


please......


lost

[GirlinContempt]

17. Whatever, people do that in real life too.

You think just because we're face to face that you really know what I mean when I say or do something?

Welcome to the human race.

[SPKrazy]

18. oh come on

sheesh


:eyes:

[fizzgig]

25. i think it's a good point

there is no true objectivity. we perceive the world and other people through a filter of our own experiences. a tone, inflection or words might mean one thing to you, but a different thing to me.

i have had plenty of disagreements or whatever when either i misunderstood or was misunderstood

[SPKrazy]

29. as the OP stated

it is a good point

[Inchworm]

19. Judge me

I'm a drunk in love crazy man

Lost, you need to cmere and I'll kick yer ass in cribbage :)

:hi:

[SPKrazy]

20. i'll judge you

drunk in love crazy man

:hi:

i judge you "drunk in love crazy man"

:P

:hug:

[Inchworm]

21. Im still yer brudder

:P

dude, I so lit up... bla bla bla ...

:P

[SPKrazy]

22. yeah

yer my brudder man and i lurve ya!

:P

;)

:pals:

[Inchworm]

24. So.. if I run away..

Arkansas is closer than New England.

:pals:

[SPKrazy]

28. yup

:eyes:

come on down

[Connonym]

23. Because there are assholes in every bunch, I'm sorry to say

Hugs to you my sister and fuck them if they can't take a joke. I've never understood the harm in giving someone the benefit of the doubt but (and I'm guilty of this myself so I shouldn't talk) sometimes people fly off the handle for no apparent stupid reason that only they can decipher. Please don't take it to heart. You're a valuable member of this community and WE love YOU too.

[Indi Guy]

26. Trust in yourself...

:)

[GalleryGod]

27. I Have No Reply to that...

Can't help; no context; not enough background info...anyway,
maybe I'll read the other contributors up-thread:think: and see what I can glean/learn