Have you ever been attracted to someone and then find out s/he plays for the other team?

[raccoon]

Many years ago, I was. The guy was cute, funny, and intelligent.

When I was discussing this with a co-worker, he told me I was wasting my time.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

1. Ummm yeah !

But then again people fall in love with souls and its not about the plumbing so I get over it.

But still I go "DAMN!" everytime.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

2. Oh yes

:-(

[IndianaJones]

3. the Red Sox? nt.

[Gormy Cuss]

8. No! The dreaded Yankees. n/t

[MorningGlow]

4. Oh I suspect so!

But I've never been in the situation where the object of my affection (or a mutual friend) has to say, "Um...you know what..."

The absolute worst, though, is dating someone who doesn't yet KNOW s/he plays for the other team. :(

[rbnyc]

5. Kind of.

I'm a bisexual woman, so "the other team" for me would be a gay man or a straight woman. However, I've been with my share of both. I guess, when it comes to a chance to be with me, people are willing to stretch their boundaries. ;-)

In High School, though, I did have a huge crush on someone that, thinking back, I'm sure must have been gay. I never acted on my crush tho, because he was a popular Senior and I was a very weird Freshman.

I have also, a couple times, been smitten for straight women who were really, really straight.

I once went on a blind date with a guy who swore up and down that he wasn't gay, and I know that it's important to let people self-identify, but I swear this guy was a serious closet case. He tried way to hard. He was really trying to prove something to himself. I did go up to his apartment, and I swear to god he actually had a Bette Middler poster in his bedroom. It was the last straw.

[coffee_strong]

6. no

n/t

[Droopy]

7. The closest I've come to that

is that I learned that my first girlfriend turned out to be bisexual. I don't know if she knew that, or had fully acknowledged that, when we were teenagers, though.

[LibDemAlways]

9. Years ago when I was teaching at a private school, there

was a 6th grade teacher all the women on the faculty loved. He was outgoing, gregarious, damn good looking, and came from a wealthy family. One of my co-workers, age 62 at the time, called him the sexiest man she had ever met. He kept his personal life under wraps, and would laugh off attempts to "set him up." It wasn't until years later we found out why - though no one would have cared.

[Deep13]

10. Yeah, I hate finding out an attractive woman is a Republican.

:evilgrin:

[sakabatou]

11. Nope

[Beausoir]

12. Yep. Broke my heart, too. He was such a flirt.

[Q3JR4]

13. Story of my life,

why do you straight men have to be so cute?

Then again maybe it's just me. :shrug:

[Wapsie B]

14. No, that's one disappointing thing in relationships I've not experienced.

Nor have I fallen for a woman who turns out to be a Nun or anything similar to that. My experience has been misreading intentions; seeing gestures of friendship and interpreting them as romantic interest and vice versa.

[BarenakedLady]

15. Yes. (n/t)

[Cabcere]

16. Somewhat...

I used to play-flirt with one of my male friends when I was in middle/high school, and he was pretty cool about it, so I didn't really give it much thought. A few years later he ended up dating one of my friends, and she was really upset when he broke up w/her. I didn't know what was going on but she finally told me that he had ended the relationship because he was gay. I had known the guy for about six years at that point, so I was kind of shocked, although looking back I probably should've been able to figure it out - there were little indications that he wasn't exactly into girls along the way, but I never really thought about it. :shrug: I'm still friends w/both of them, even though they don't speak to each other anymore, and I have to say he was very brave to come out to her like that - she's pretty liberal and always has been, but his family (along with 95% of the rest of our community) is super-conservative, and if certain other people had found out, he would've been in serious trouble. :( (Which is one of the things I hate about my area, but that's for another thread...)

[hunter]

17. Fortunately I didn't marry her. But I still got scars.

:scared:

In a better world we would have known which team she was playing for before we crashed and burned.

[NewJeffCT]

18. only very briefly

I was waiting to meet somebody at a diner/nightclub/bar type place in Hartford and saw this woman come into the place that looked like somebody from Baywatch dressed to go to a nightclub... (she even walked in slow motion with accompanying music - j/k) my jaw must have dropped and/or my eyes must have popped out of my head because some guy that worked there told me to forget it because she came in there all the time and was a well known lesbian.

Other than that, no.

I've been attacted to lesbian women, but I knew they were gay up front and it's more like mostly harmless flirting then.