Would someone please give me a hug and reassurance?

[Writer]

I just need to know that everything (truly) will be okay. Pretty please???

Thank you,

~Writer~

[datasuspect]

1. everything will just be

and one day you will die.

learn to cope.

you have no control over anything except the contents of your head.

[Heidi]

4. Yep.

A wise, wise friend of mine once told me, "The only thing you can ever hope to control is your own reaction."

In the throes of despair, that might seem like bad news, but in the 20 years since he first said that, I've discovered that my friend was exactly right.

[Writer]

8. I'm well aware of that.

Thank you.

[Heidi]

9. I can't speak for datasuspect, but I don't think he was being intentionally mean to you, Writer.

datasuspect seems to save that up for the bullies (who deserve it). I've never seen you bully anyone. Keep on keepin' on, Writer. That's all any of us can do. :hug: :hug:

[Writer]

12. I'm not so naive a person that I must be told that life is "hard."

Believe me, I know that life can be rather difficult at times. However, a little humanity in the form of a hug and a pat on the back can do wonders for one's soul, and that is all I ask for here.

Thank you for yours. :hug:

[datasuspect]

14. i wasn't being mean

i sympathize.

sometimes though, it's easier to just get to the heart of the matter.

and sometimes things will just be the way they are. for good, for bad, for the indifferent.

[Writer]

15. Well I'm sorry that I erected my boundaries so quickly.

I do understand what you're saying and that you intend to point out reality. And it's that reality that we all must contend with that requires the periodic warm-and-fuzzy.

~Writer~

[Heidi]

18. I know.

That's my approach, too, and especially when I'm the one having difficulty. I try, though, not to apply that mindset to others because it can feel harsh when one's nerves are raw and consequences are immediate, much as it did for me when my friend told me straight up that my reaction to circumstances was my greatest obstacle. It was a hardhardhard thing to hear, but it helped me tremendously that one of my friends had the courage to say what had to be said, instead of what I thought I needed to hear. (This isn't at all about Writer. It's about me at a particular time in my life.)

I have a hug for you, too, datasuspect. :hug:

[Writer]

25. Heidi, advice like that needs to be appropriately vetted before given.

I understand that great epiphany that occurs when one figures out that it's never good to face life as a victim, but instead channel that energy into taking steps forward. And it isn't an epiphany that many people reach in life. I myself have provided, as I have seen others provide in this forum, that type of advice to others; but sometimes one must weigh each situation separately, or else one risks sounding condescending and hurtful. Our own personal experiences color how we address others, but as you said above, a person has to be careful about when and where to apply the standards they acquired to others.

~Writer~

[Heidi]

28. I see. Thank you, Writer. (nt)

[datasuspect]

39. the other side of that coin is circumspection and discretion

when you lay your soul bare on a public forum, you can't be surprised at whatever reactions you might get.

but mostly, it is a matter of perspective.

[Writer]

45. Trust me, I do always expect there to be an asshole or two who will take the

opportunity to take a hit instead of being supportive.

[datasuspect]

46. like i said, perspective is about 95% of everything

in this example, i know of you through postings on an internet forum.

you or i could be anybody. i don't know you, you don't know me.

i could posture and play along, but i'd rather be honest. whatever "support" i could give you in this venue is ultimately meaningless.

words are feeble, anybody can say anything.

doesn't necessarily mean much.

i honestly hope you never suffer needlessly or go without though.

[Heidi]

2. I'm not a big believer in the whole "just world" thing,

at least in no immediate sense. But you're one of the brightest people here, and I've seen you be kind. I'm more than happy to send you good vibes for calm and peace of mind. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Writer]

3. Thanks for the hugs and the vibes.

I'm not looking for a "just world"... I just need a little reassurance. :hug:

[Heidi]

6. Set your heart and mind

to landing on your feet, Writer. You're one of the brightest people here. You can get through whatever it is, even if it's not just. :hug: :hug:

Edited: gawd, I'm stupid. FEET, not friend. :eyes:

[Critters2]

5. Come here, you!

It'll be fine...after it's shitty. But then, fine. Really. That's how life works...shitty...fine....shitty...fine. See? You have to get through the shitty times for the fine times to come. Honest.

So, if it's shitty now, it'll be fine soon. And the good news is that, in my experience, the fine times last longer than the shitty times. On average.

So, hold on.

[Writer]

7. I think everyone has their own lists of "shitty's" and "fines"...

sometimes, however, a hug can be effective in dealing with the shitty times.

Thanks for yours. :hug:

[Critters2]

10. Hope it helps. nt

[Deja Q]

11. Have faith. Everything will be okay.

:hug:

[Writer]

13. Thanks, friend.

I really appreciate that. :hug:

[caty]

16. I know I have days

when I just don't think I can take anymore of the bullsh*t that has been dumped on us this last seven years. But, you know, I've always heard that some things run in seven year cycles. Maybe the next seven will be better somehow. In the meantime, I have put myself on a news blackout for a little while to let my mind and emotions rest. Oh, I'll still watch Olberman, Stewart, and Maher for a little info and a few light moments. Anyway....here's a friendly hug for you.....

[Writer]

17. Awwww that's so sweet.

Thank you!

You know, four years ago I decided to give up news viewing for Lent because watching evil deeds go unpunished daily was too much for me to take at the time. It helped me to gain perspective.

:hug:

~Writer~

[redqueen]

19. Everyhing's gonna be all right.

:hug:

Andrew Bird - Tables & Chairs

if we can call them friends then we can call them on their telephones
and they won't pretend that they're too busy or that they're not alone
and if we can call them friends then we can call
holler at them down these hallowed halls
just don't let the human factor fail to be a factor
at all

don't, don't you worry, about the atmosphere
or any sudden pressure change
cause i know
that it's starting to get warm in here
and things are starting to get strange

and did you, did you see how all of our friends were there
and they're drinking roses from the can?
and how, how i wish i, i had talked to them,
and i wish they fit into the plan

and we were tired of being mild
we were so tired of being mild
and we were tired...

i know we're going to meet some day
in the crumbled financial institutions of this land
there will be tables and chairs
there'll be pony rides and dancing bears
there'll even be a band
cause listen, after the fall there will be no more countries
no currencies at all, we're gonna live on our wits
we're gonna throw away survival kits,
trade butterfly-knives for adderal
and that's not all
ooh-ooh, there will be snacks there will
there will be snacks, there will be snacks.

and we were tired of being mild,
we were so tired of being mild,
and we were (we were so) tired...

so don't you,
don't you worry
about the atmosphere.

[Writer]

21. That's beautiful.

Thank you. :hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

20. Things will be okay

[Writer]

22. Awwww Calvin and Hobbes...

how peaceful. :)

Thank you.

[lost-in-nj]

23. Heres a hug

:hug: :hug:
and I am learning that things do turn out fine....
It might take a while but with friends and determination.....
things do start to look up....

you will be ok....



lost

[Writer]

24. Thank you thank you thank you...

I have a LOT of personal determination. I would not have survived over the years without it.

I'm so glad that you yourself are learning that things will turn out fine.

Thanks so much, and here's a hug for you, too. :hug:

[ThomCat]

26. I can definitely offer a hug

:hug:

but I can't honestly offer much reassurance. Sometimes things just suck. :(

[Writer]

27. Yeah, I know.

But thank you for the hug! :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

29. Of course it will my friend

And giving you a hug would be my pleasure :hug:

[Writer]

30. Thank you so much.

You're so sweet. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

31. My dear Writer!

Of course, sweetie...

I'm honored to give you hugs...:hug: :hug: :hug:

And everything will work out for the best...

I promise you that...

[Writer]

35. Thanks, m'dear!

These are working out already. Thanks! :hug:

[SammyWinstonJack]

56. ...

:eyes:

[Joe Fields]

32. No mush, no philosophy. Just a big hug.

:hug:

[Writer]

36. That's absolutely perfect.

Thank you so much! :hug:

[Sannum]

33. Awwww....

:hug:

[Writer]

37. Awwww x 2...

:hug:

(Thanks!)

[CBHagman]

34. All shall be well.

And all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well. (Julian of Norwich)

:hug:

[Writer]

38. Hehe... thanks for the quote.

:hug:

[rug]

40. Civilization is on the brink of catastrophe.

[Writer]

42. Actually that's a welcome thought. n/t

[datasuspect]

47. plus you can wake up one day with cancer or AIDS

[applegrove]

41. It will work out. It will be okay.

[Writer]

48. Thank you.

:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

43. My dear...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

Let's squish our titties together

:hug: :hug: :hug:

Everything will be ok.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Writer]

49. "Let's squish our titties together"

I have a feeling that GoPsUx would have a heartattack! ;)

I kid! I kid!

Thank you.

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

67. I would have something that is for sure.

I'd like to be the filling in that Oreo Cookie :hide:

[Parche]

44. hug

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hi: :hi:

[Writer]

50. What a nice string of hugs.

:hug: thank you!

[Starbucks Anarchist]

51. Of course.

:hug:

[Writer]

52. If I hug you, will you waft me in a puff of smoke?

;)

[Starbucks Anarchist]

60. If that's what we're calling it.

;)

[Ellen Forradalom]

53. It's gonna be way beyond okay

Someday it's gonna be wonderful.

[Writer]

54. I like that thought a lot!

Even if it's not perfect, I will certainly settle for wonderful!

Thank you. :hug:

[Ellen Forradalom]

58. Aim beyond the mark

and you'll race right past it.

[Haole Girl]

55. It will be okay..

..truly. :hug:

Here's a song for you:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=CiH5FZBGo1U

[Writer]

57. Thank you, KC2!

Jewel rocks. I love the colors in the video.

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

59. You're welcome!

I didn't mean to be a thread killer, though. :-(

[SeattleGirl]

61. .......

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[WinkyDink]

62. Eventually. :)

[SPKrazy]

63. ...

:hug:


its okay

really

[nadine_mn]

64. hugs

:hug:





I have found that furry hugs are the best hugs

[Aristus]

65. Anything for you, Writer...

:hug:

[Redstone]

66. Sure.

Redstone