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Hey all,
Long time, no post. I'm seeking folks' advice concerning how to deal with some problems concerning my girlfriend's prejudices.
We've been together for about a year and two months. She's much less politically involved than I am, and not consciously ideologically or philosophically committed to much of anything. That's usually fine, but lately it's produced some problems.
I say "consciously" because, well, I don't think that anyone's really free of ideology. When people say they lack a personal philosophy, they really mean that they adhere (albeit not usually in an intellectually coherent way) to the ideas of the status quo in some version or another. And I would say that those ideas usually include prejudices of various sorts.
This morning, we were joking around, making fun of 30 Days of Night, which we'd just seen -- particularly the way the vampires in the movie talked. In the course of the conversation, she mimicked it with something sounding like the way the !Kung San in Africa incorporate clicking souinds into their language (think "Starvin' Marvin" from South Park).
She said something about sounding like an "Ethiopian", and I pointed out that it sounded more like an African language with clicking noises. She said, "That's the point."
I pointed out that Ethiopians don't really speak like that, and she replied that she was "trying to be funny, not politically correct."
This struck me as terribly racist -- along the same lines as calling all Asians "Chinese". And I absolutely detest the use of the term "politically correct" in that fashion, amounting to a declaration that racism shouldn't be taken seriously.
I was visibly distressed, and she wondered why. After some pressing, I just told her that she wouldn't understand.
There have been other instances like this -- her calling undocumented workers "illegal" (not even "illegal immigrants", just "illegal"), for example.
I'm not sure how to deal with this. I care a lot about her, but I have no stomach for bigotry. And I don't want to seem like a drag.
Thoughts?
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