Do you believe in the concept of a Soulmate?

[redqueen]

Just curious... at various times I have and have not, depending on my perspective at the time.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate

Right now I'd lean more toward thinking there is... and of course if you go with the scientific definition then of course there is... but many people are far too dynamic for that to hold true for long, anyway, though, right?

So... what do you think?

[Capn Sunshine]

1. However

I think there's numerous "soul mates" for each of us wandering the earth. So I take the concept, but have a problem with the details. :)

[redqueen]

2. Yeah, I've thought that, too...

since they're so hard to find, though, they might as well not exist for all practical purposes, no?

[Capn Sunshine]

10. You just gotta get out of Texas

THAT'S the problem.

[redqueen]

11. Oh yeah... no doubt about that!

The sooner the better.

[BarenakedLady]

3. No

Well I don't believe there is just one for each of us.

[Crazy Dave]

19. Ditto n/t

[PassingFair]

4. I believe that you have more in common with some people than others...

obviously, but the implication that you have a
pre-ordained SOUL-MATE?

Nope.

I would be a miserable person without my mate,
but we are together because we get along,
not because we are mystically pre-ordained
to be together.

[redqueen]

5. Well that is only one definition...

I don't buy the pre-ordained stuff... never have.

But as far as two people being the most compatible person for each other... that seems not so unlikely. :)

[lost-in-nj]

6. I used to

not any more...



lost

[redqueen]

8. I hear ya...

:pals:

[bigwillq]

7. No

[SPKrazy]

9. Not sure...

I did at one time

I can't say I know for sure now.

[Parche]

12. Soulmate

I thought I found one at the bar........but they were really irksome............:shrug:
:hi:










:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :hi:

[RandomKoolzip]

13. No, and I don't beleive in the concept of a "soul," either.

Humans are better off alone, IMO.

[redqueen]

14. Really?

I never feel better off alone. I think that might mean I'm needy and horrible. I don't care, though, cause at least I'm not forcing anyone to put up with me. :P

[lost-in-nj]

15. Now I hear you..

I hate being alone.....


:hug:

lost

[redqueen]

16. The weird thing is I never used to not like being alone...

but then I had kids and a family... so now when I'm in my apartment, and it's just me... ugh... I don't like it at all. It's not so bad when I have something to do... but lately I've been sick so... just ugh.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

18. I understand that well

when i'm in my apartment and it's just me, i tend to not like it at all.

and i haven't felt good lately either so i've been kind of mopier (if that is a word)

:hi:

[redqueen]

27. If it's not, it should be!

:hi:

[SPKrazy]

37. yes it should!

mopier

it seems to not register as a non word on the spell check

[RandomKoolzip]

34. My wife snores REALLY LOUD.

:grr:

Ehhh...so maybe it's just ME who is better off alone.

[redqueen]

40. Hehehehe... or at least in another room!

I feel your pain... or... felt. :P

[independentpiney]

48. I don't believe in the soul concept either

or soulmate other than as a very compatible person.I wouldn't say being alone is better than being with other people or a companion though, but that it's best if you can be equally happy and whole either way.

[guitar man]

17. I used to

But then she harped and nagged until she broke my give-a-shitter and now I just drink and stay bitter all the time....soulmate?......baaaaah...:(

:hide:

[redqueen]

21. What?

This is a joke, yes?

I thought I'd seen you posting pics of her and talking about how great she is... maybe I'm thinking of someone else...

If it's not a joke, though... that's terrible. If there are no kids then why stay miserable any longer?

[guitar man]

23. I keed

I keed. We've been through some rough patches, but I think I'll keep her ;)

[redqueen]

26. Heh... good! Glad to hear that.

*sigh*

So many sad stories out there... too many.

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. Yes

And I was lucky enough to get a second chance to realize that. And unlucky enough to have it ripped from me... and both my heart and soul are gone, and now there is nothing for me except to wait for the children to grow up. Only sometimes, that is too much too contemplate without him. He was who I was.

[redqueen]

22. Oh honey...

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

*sigh*

There may be more of that type of happiness for you, down the road... who knows, right?

[ScreamingMeemie]

24. Nope. He was it for me.

He took my heart with him, I've got nothing to give to anyone. He was my life. I'm done except for the children. Broken

[redqueen]

25. ...

I hope life proves you wrong... I don't know what else I can do, but hope for the best for you.

Bless you.

[ScreamingMeemie]

36. I did not mean to bring down your thread in anyway, but there is

no possible way that life can prove me wrong. My son deserved his daddy. I needed him...he was my self esteem, my life, my love. I don't expect anyone to understand it. It just was. Now it's going through the motions, praying for time to speed up etc.

[redqueen]

38. Oh pish. You're not bringing anything down!

I'm glad to see you posting again. Very glad. :)

[bigwillq]

39. Know that

I think about you and your children everyday. Don't know how much that means right now and I certainly know that can't ease your pain but there are people out here that love and care for you. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

42. Thanks Mikey

I appreciate it. This just hurts worse every day. :hug:

[RetroLounge]

28. No.

unless you call soulmates temporary...

then yes.

RL

[redqueen]

31. People change... so...

unless both parties change in the same direction... well... your answer makes a lot of sense.

[Inchworm]

29. I didn't used to

I leaning toward yes now.

:)

[redqueen]

32. Heheheh...

That's so nice to see. :)

Good luck to you both!

[QueenOfCalifornia]

30. other

i would have picked "no" but my answer was "Not just NO but FucK NO!"

[redqueen]

33. Well!

That's definitive!

[FunkyLeprechaun]

35. My sweetie and I met because of an online book group

We met online in December of 2000 and finally met in July of 2001. Between then... we had a lot of IM messages... and I felt myself growing attracted to him ever since... then we met IRL and I fell in love with him at first sight... 6 years later I've since moved in with him and we purchased our first house together.

So yes... he's my soulmate.

[redqueen]

41. *sigh*

Sometimes reading happy ending stories like yours makes me feel bitter and jealous and envious.

I'm really thankful for times like this, when it doesn't. :hi:

[FunkyLeprechaun]

51. Not only that

He knew I was deaf (I told him as soon as he started to talk to me online) and he didn't seem to mind that. His parents were another story about the deafness (due to stereotypes prior to me meeting them (like signing (which I don't do) and not speaking (which I do after nearly 20 years of speech therapy).

He learned the method I use (not sign language) within a fortnight! I didn't even teach him Cued Speech but he adapted quite well! He's enjoying teaching me how to speak Welsh! I'm surprised because he's Conservative Party (Tory... his granddad was in Thatcher's cabinet) and I'm quite liberal... he keeps telling me my politics are leaning towards Tory but I'm still not sure (haven't voted yet here).

[redqueen]

53. Ooooh I don't like that!

:P

Glad you're so well-suited. :)

[Guava Jelly]

43. ....

I really really do.

[redqueen]

45. Me too!

*crosses fingers*

If not I'm staying celibate.

[libodem]

44. I think we can

have a lot of them which is antithetical to the concept of the one true soul mate idea.

[redqueen]

46. Yes, it does rule out that type...

I'd be happy just finding one even! :P

[GoddessOfGuinness]

47. No...

But I believe people can fall deeply in love, work hard, communicate well and remain close together so that they have a near-perfect relationship.

I've known too many people (myself included) who have "found their soulmate", only to later discover that "it must not have been their soulmate after all". I suspect putting such a label on a relationship often serves to jinx it.

[redqueen]

49. Ooh good point.

Could be adding pressure that might not be so helpful.

[lizziegrace]

50. I really want to believe that's true

but I just can't now.

[redqueen]

52. Well, some are fine with that.

I hope you are!

And if you're not... then I'm sorry... :hug: