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romantico (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:31 PM Original message |
Need Advice. Friend's sister in love with older man/bisexual |
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skyblue (724 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:44 PM Response to Original message |
1. I'd say. oh hell no. There's plenty of lonely gentlemen out there who can easily satisfy |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:02 PM Response to Reply #1 |
10. charming |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:21 PM Response to Reply #1 |
15. yeah you can never trust us bisexuals. after all we eat puppies for dinner. |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:22 PM Response to Reply #15 |
16. Oh really? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:24 PM Response to Reply #16 |
18. we like them in all ways. so long as it puppies or kittens or other cute and small mammals. |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:29 PM Response to Reply #15 |
19. I don't |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:31 PM Response to Reply #19 |
21. puppy killing thing. |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:38 PM Response to Reply #21 |
22. well, I am in Ohio after all |
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ThomCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:33 PM Response to Reply #1 |
28. Wow. I've been the bisexual member of all of my relationships. |
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romantico (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:37 PM Response to Reply #28 |
31. Again, its not me asking the question |
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tjwmason (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 03:38 AM Response to Reply #28 |
49. But bisexuals are automatically more promiscuous |
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wicket (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 01:57 PM Response to Reply #28 |
84. Me too! |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 04:08 AM Response to Reply #1 |
52. Okay, let's have a quick terminology lesson |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:45 PM Response to Original message |
2. people actually write like this? |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:29 PM Response to Reply #2 |
27. *choke* |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:47 PM Response to Original message |
3. I wouldn't touch that situation with a ten foot pole strapped to another ten foot pole. |
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triguy46 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:19 PM Response to Reply #3 |
26. Excellent advice. this is distant enough that there should be no collateral damage... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:49 PM Response to Original message |
4. age differences come with power differences. if she were my sister i would ask her to be wary. |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:19 PM Response to Reply #4 |
13. I agree, with caveats..... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:20 PM Response to Reply #13 |
14. well yes, i think age differences matter less and less over time. |
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LoZoccolo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 05:22 PM Response to Reply #4 |
35. Because men always abuse power and manipulate. n/t |
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lildreamer316 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 06:51 PM Response to Reply #35 |
38. Actually, sometimes it can be the other way around... |
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LoZoccolo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 09:01 PM Response to Reply #38 |
47. lildreamer316, there's something I like about your posts. |
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lildreamer316 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 09:16 PM Response to Reply #47 |
48. ! |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 06:50 AM Response to Reply #47 |
56. you deliberately try to see 'reverse sexism' when there is none. |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 06:59 PM Response to Reply #35 |
41. I know a man or two whose wife is the manipulative one. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 07:59 PM Response to Reply #35 |
42. i said age not gender. nt |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 04:10 AM Response to Reply #35 |
53. Might wanna check that knee... seems to be jerking without any good reason. :P |
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ThomCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:12 PM Response to Reply #53 |
63. Certainly not the first time. |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:49 PM Response to Original message |
5. Sounds like there are 2 issues... |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:49 PM Response to Original message |
6. I don't understand approaching relationships that way. |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 08:10 PM Response to Reply #6 |
43. ding! ding! ding! -- we have a winnah!!! |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:53 PM Response to Original message |
7. The bottom line is she has to do what feels right to her. |
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romantico (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 01:59 PM Response to Reply #7 |
8. Thanks for the advice |
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KitchenWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:02 PM Response to Original message |
9. If indeed all of us fall on the continuum between all straight and all gay |
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Fran Kubelik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:07 PM Response to Original message |
11. I'm with redqueen |
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zingaro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:18 PM Response to Original message |
12. How long has she known this guy? |
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triguy46 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:24 PM Response to Original message |
17. DING DING DING! Danger Will Robinson!!! |
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romantico (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:31 PM Response to Reply #17 |
20. I'm bisexual |
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ThomCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:37 PM Response to Reply #17 |
30. Where did he say he's going to be unfaithful? |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:43 PM Response to Reply #30 |
32. I got the same from reading the email..... |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:38 PM Response to Original message |
23. So, what's this got to do with you? |
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Parche (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 02:45 PM Response to Original message |
24. Age Does Not Matter |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:11 PM Response to Original message |
25. I will don my flame-proof suit.... |
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cutlassmama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 04:48 PM Response to Reply #25 |
33. I agree (not the you are old part)...the other stuff |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 04:59 PM Response to Reply #33 |
34. Thanks, Cutlassmama.... |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 08:13 PM Response to Reply #25 |
44. old or not -- that was a bigoted comment. -- and it not worth explaining why. |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 08:21 PM Response to Reply #44 |
46. It's based on my being part of.... |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 04:34 AM Response to Reply #46 |
55. experience has little to do with reality. |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 12:20 PM Response to Reply #55 |
58. I didn't say that bisexual or gay men can't be monogamous.... |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 06:34 PM Response to Reply #58 |
59. you make a blanket statement about bisexual men based on anecdotal or personal |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 08:11 PM Response to Reply #59 |
61. OK, here's some scientific research to back up my observation... |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:13 PM Response to Reply #61 |
64. you qoute a reseacher who advocated eugenics to eliminate gay folk?!? |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:56 PM Response to Reply #64 |
70. I did a quick google search and found that link.... |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 11:06 PM Response to Reply #70 |
72. oh please -- i couldn't be bothered to be outraged. just pointing out the obvious. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:16 PM Response to Reply #61 |
66. You do realize that study was discredited by pretty much everyone? |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 11:02 PM Response to Reply #66 |
71. Nope, didn't know that.... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 05:50 PM Response to Reply #61 |
86. people love to say you are being PC when their CLEAR bigotry is pointed out to them. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:09 PM Response to Reply #25 |
62. ... |
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ThomCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 03:34 PM Response to Original message |
29. Your friend worries too much |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 11:49 AM Response to Reply #29 |
57. i think she is 20. people are a bit more dramatic. |
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ThomCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:15 PM Response to Reply #57 |
65. Ah. That's true. |
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WinkyDink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 06:43 PM Response to Original message |
36. Play the field at 20 = my advice. |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 06:47 PM Response to Original message |
37. she's 20 - |
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NMDemDist2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 06:53 PM Response to Original message |
39. with no offense meant to your friend's sis |
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GCP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 07:19 PM Response to Reply #39 |
60. Ding ding ding ding - we have a winner |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 06:58 PM Response to Original message |
40. Good luck. |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-22-07 08:17 PM Response to Original message |
45. Independent of our opinions, she just has to do what she's going to do |
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tjwmason (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 03:41 AM Response to Original message |
50. I think that the subtext is what's interesting. |
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Guaranteed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 03:52 AM Response to Reply #50 |
51. And, more than anything, I think she's getting played. |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 04:17 AM Response to Original message |
54. I pretty much agree with most of the people here... sexuality = not an issue. Age =could be an issue |
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Piltdown13 (829 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:19 PM Response to Reply #54 |
67. I can think of some other problems based on a substantial age difference |
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Rowdyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:30 PM Response to Original message |
68. She should not think so much or plan seriously....If he's not married at 38 |
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IdaBriggs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-23-07 10:42 PM Response to Original message |
69. Sounds like she's setting herself up to be hurt. |
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GoddessOfGuinness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 12:31 AM Response to Original message |
73. I'm just thinking about how much I changed between the ages of 20 and 30... |
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LSdemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 02:03 AM Response to Original message |
74. Her being 20 is more of the problem here |
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Froward69 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 02:14 AM Response to Original message |
75. idd say go for it |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 03:36 AM Response to Original message |
76. Her missive reminds me of a movie quote: |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 10:07 AM Response to Reply #76 |
77. Big Time BINGO! |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 01:31 PM Response to Reply #76 |
81. I like that.... |
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FedUpWithIt All (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 10:13 AM Response to Original message |
78. I am in a serious relationship with a man 13 years my junior... |
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romantico (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 11:03 AM Response to Reply #78 |
79. Appreciate the feedback |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 01:34 PM Response to Reply #79 |
82. How do you think the advice would differ... |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 11:31 AM Response to Original message |
80. Its not the age difference, its HER age |
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quip (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 01:53 PM Response to Original message |
83. He's a liar |
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romantico (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-24-07 03:38 PM Response to Reply #83 |
85. I agree with that 100% |
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